Episode #19
Money, Relationships, and Conversations that Matter with Modern Husband’s Brian Page
In this episode of Behind the Curtain: Money Made Simple, Julie Beckham speaks with Brian Page of Modern Husbands about the connection between money, relationships, and the responsibilities couples share at home. Brian explains how our childhood experiences and money stories can influence financial behaviors and relationships well into adulthood. He also explores the Fair Play system, the mental load of managing a household, and the importance of approaching money as a team. Brian shares practical ways couples can reduce conflict, create more equitable partnerships, and make money conversations more productive by focusing on shared goals, active listening, and joy. All credit products and services are subject to underwriting and approval. ______________________________________________________________________ Key Points From This Episode: [00:00:00] Julie introduces Behind the Curtain: Money Made Simple and guest Brian Page of Modern Husbands [00:03:36] Brian’s transition from focusing on his career to supporting his wife’s career and taking on more responsibilities at home [00:04:48] Adjusting to changing roles within a marriage and handing off household responsibilities [00:06:06] What financial therapy is and how it connects financial knowledge, personal money stories, and relationships [00:08:37] How childhood financial trauma can influence adult behaviors, financial success, health, and relationships [00:10:02] Understanding “big T” financial trauma and the lasting impact of significant financial experiences [00:12:08] How the Fair Play system helps couples create more equity when managing household responsibilities [00:16:10] The mental load behind everyday household tasks and why responsibility involves more than completing a chore [00:17:22] Using Fair Play principles to define ownership, standards, and equal leisure time within a relationship [00:21:41] Why couples often associate money conversations with stress, frustration, and conflict [00:23:12] Scheduling money conversations when emotions are low so couples can communicate more productively [00:23:43] Starting financial conversations with joy, abundance, and shared dreams instead of problems [00:24:27] Using financial choices to buy back time and support the life a couple wants to create together [00:25:20] Why regular money conversations can reinforce the idea that partners are on the same team [00:26:47] How couples can use Fair Play resources, cards, and facilitation to manage household labor more equitably [00:28:08] How dividing responsibilities can support each partner’s authentic self and create greater happiness at home [00:32:28] Brian’s advice for couples experiencing money conflict: schedule an intentional conversation [00:32:57] Using active listening to understand a partner’s perspective on money rather than waiting for a turn to respond [00:34:34] Brian answers Julie’s rapid-fire Behind the Curtain questions [00:36:15] Brian’s money lesson: there is more time to earn money, but time itself cannot be recovered [00:36:29] Brian’s challenge for listeners to schedule a monthly money meeting with their partner Links: Rockland Trust: https://www.rocklandtrust.com/ Julie Beckham on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/julie-beckham-05589534 Brian Page on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/brianhpage/ Modern Husbands: https://www.modernhusbands.com/ Editing and post-production work for this episode was provided by The Podcast Consultant ( https://thepodcastconsultant.com )
