
Episode #92
The Invisible Backpack: What Kids Carry Between Two Homes
In this episode, Michael Flores, LPC-S, and Jinohn Marr, LMFT, explore the invisible load children carry as they move between two homes after divorce. While parents often focus on packing clothes, schoolwork, and favorite toys, children are also carrying something no one can see—the emotions, worries, shifting expectations, and constant adjustments that come with transitioning between two different worlds. Michael and Jinohn explain why children may seem quiet, emotional, withdrawn, or even act differently after an exchange, and why those behaviors are often less about one parent's home and more about the work of unpacking everything they've been carrying. The conversation also highlights how children are constantly adapting to different routines, rules, traditions, and expectations. They discuss why predictability creates security, how simple transition rituals can help children move between homes with less anxiety, and why parents should be mindful of the emotional "weight" they place in their child's backpack. Whether it's asking children to carry messages, talking about financial stress, speaking negatively about the other parent, or expecting them to manage adult emotions, these burdens can make transitions even more difficult. Throughout the episode, Michael and Jinohn offer practical ways to lighten your child's load and help them feel safe, secure, and free to simply be kids. If you enjoyed this episode, follow the podcast so you never miss future conversations, and leave a rating and review to help more families find this support. Be sure to follow us on Instagram @brighterpossibilitiesfc for more encouragement and reminders!






