Episode #28
Surviving a Narcissistic Mother: Childhood Trauma, Sexual Abuse & Breaking the Cycle
Reach out! You don't have to explain how crazy she was. We believe you!!! Trigger warning: Today’s episode includes conversations about childhood sexual abuse, physical and emotional abuse, narcissistic abuse, and family trauma. What happens when the person who was supposed to protect you becomes the source of your trauma? In this deeply personal episode of Beyond Mommy Dearest , Noelani sits down with Alex, founder of Fuck the Abuser , to talk about surviving childhood abuse, narcissistic family dynamics, abusive romantic relationships, and finding the strength to build a life beyond what happened to you. Alex shares how she first began publicly speaking about her relationship with her mother, including the childhood sexual abuse she experienced and the moment in fourth grade when she realized that what was happening in her home wasn't normal. She opens up about being sent to live with her aunt, entering the foster care system, protecting her younger brother, eventually choosing no contact with her mother, and reconnecting with family years later. Alex also discusses a later narcissistic relationship and the chaos, dishonesty, control, boundary violations, and loss of self-trust she experienced. She explains how trying to understand that relationship ultimately led her to research narcissistic abuse and create Fuck the Abuser . Noelani and Alex also explore the similarities in their experiences, the cultural and family messages that can shape self-worth, the importance of safe adults, and what happens when survivors finally begin trusting themselves again. Most importantly, Alex's story is about what abuse didn't take from her: her ability to love authentically, build meaningful friendships, connect with others, and choose a different life. In this episode: Childhood sexual abuse and recognizing abuse as a child Narcissistic mothers and family dysfunction Foster care, emancipation, and sibling experiences The importance of having a safe adult Shame, body image, colorism, and cultural messages Narcissistic romantic relationships Gaslighting, coercive control, and manipulation Why narcissists struggle with boundaries Going no contact with a parent Losing and rebuilding self-trust Choosing not to have children after childhood trauma Breaking generational patterns Healing without becoming the person your abuser told you that you were Connect with Noelani | Beyond Mommy Dearest https://www.facebook.com/BeyondMommyDearest/ https://www.tiktok.com/@beyond.mommy.dearest https://www.instagram.com/beyondmommydearest/ https://www.youtube.com/@BeyondMommyDearest http://www.beyondmommydearest.com Connect with Alex https://www.instagram.com/alex.goes.global/ https://www.instagram.com/ilovebowljobs/ https://www.instagram.com/fucktheabuser/ https://www.schimiggy.com/tag/narcissist/ Support the show
