
Episode #47
Good Daughtering ft. Allison Alford
What if one of the biggest drains on women’s time, energy, and leadership potential is something we rarely name? In this episode, Kelly sits down with Dr. Allison Alford, clinical associate professor at Baylor University, communication scholar, executive coach, and author of Good Daughtering , to explore the invisible labor of “daughtering.” Allison shares her unconventional academic journey, from earning her PhD as a mom of two to building what she calls a “portfolio career” that blends teaching, research, consulting, and coaching. But at the heart of this conversation is her groundbreaking research on daughtering, the emotional, cognitive, and relational labor adult daughters perform to keep families connected. Together, Kelly and Allison unpack how daughtering shows up as a third shift of labor, how it impacts working professionals, and why self-awareness and boundaries are critical for women who want sustainable success. If you’ve ever felt stretched thin between work, family, and the invisible expectations placed on you, this episode will help you feel seen, validated, and empowered to recalibrate. Key Topics & Takeaways Building a “portfolio career” across academia and consulting Earning a PhD as a working mom and refusing to quit Defining daughtering and making invisible labor visible The four dimensions of daughtering: tasks, emotions, cognition, identity The “kinship shift” across a daughter’s lifespan Daughtering plus-plus in the sandwich generation The concept of first, second, and third shift labor How divided attention impacts women in the workplace Boundaries, calibration, and permission to pull back Chapters / Timestamps 00:00 – Welcome to Career Slay 00:23 – Introducing Allison Alford 01:51 – Childhood curiosity and “cruise director” energy 03:55 – From international studies to communication research 07:47 – The PhD journey as a mom of two 11:29 – Conflict resolution coaching at McCombs 15:49 – Starting a coaching business 17:58 – Building a portfolio career at Baylor 20:32 – What is daughtering? 23:58 – Defining daughtering in four categories 27:26 – The kinship shift across the lifespan 31:00 – Setting boundaries without guilt 33:38 – The mission behind Good Daughtering 37:21 – First shift, second shift, third shift labor 42:43 – What makes a fulfilling career 44:20 – Advice to her 20-year-old self 45:52 – Three words: Relationships, Innovation, Energy Guest Resources Book: Good Daughtering Podcast: Hello Mother, Hello Daughter Coaching & Consulting: Good Talk Communication Consulting LinkedIn: Allison Alford, PhD Enjoying the show? Please consider subscribing, leaving a rating, and sharing to help us #slaythefearincareer. And if you're looking for one-on-one career coaching, connect with Kelly : Website: careerslay.com LinkedIn: Kelly Poquiz Burke Instagram: @careerslay

