Control or Be Controlled

Most people aren’t in control of their lives they’re driven by habits, addictions, emotions, and distractions they don’t question.Control or Be Controlled explores discipline, self mastery, modern addiction, and the psychology of ambition. Through raw solo episodes and real conversations, it breaks down what it takes to take back control mentally, emotionally, and financially.No surface level motivation just honest, direct insight for those ready to live with intention and build consistency, focus, and long term growth in a distracted world.New Episodes Weekly

Control or Be Controlled is a education podcast hosted by Darlington Ogbuka, with 182 episodes on record and a Required Pod Score of 80. PitchCentric scores this show on Booking Probability, Listen Score, and live audience signals refreshed every 24 hours.

Darlington Ogbuka hosts Control or Be Controlled, a education show with 182 episodes published.

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  Veronique Ory: How Yoga, Mindfulness, and Self-Inquiry Can Help You Shine On and Off the Mat

  Aug 16, 202625 min

  What if transformation doesn’t require perfect circumstances, but simply the willingness to slow down, breathe, and reconnect with yourself? In this episode, Darlington sits down with Veronique Ory , an Intuitive Movement and Mindful Awareness Guide, international retreat leader, and author of Shine On & Off the Mat . With more than 500 hours of yoga training and years of leading retreats around the world, Veronique brings together yoga, storytelling, movement, mindfulness, and self-inquiry to help people reconnect with who they are. Veronique shares the personal journey that led her to yoga—from running a theatre company in New York City and living through the highs and lows of the creative hustle to navigating vitiligo and the emotional weight of feeling like she was constantly fighting to survive. You’ll discover: How yoga can become a gateway to deeper self-awareness and personal transformation Why learning to breathe and become present can change the way you experience life How to stop depending on external circumstances for your happiness Why movement can help us reconnect with emotions, intuition, and ourselves How Veronique found the courage to close her theatre company after 17 years and embrace a new purpose Practical ways to bring mindfulness and self-inquiry into everyday life Why you don’t need perfect circumstances to begin changing your life Veronique also opens up about the moment a yoga class after Hurricane Sandy changed the direction of her life and how that experience eventually led her to international retreats, teaching, and writing Shine On & Off the Mat . If you’ve been feeling disconnected, overwhelmed, stuck in survival mode, or simply ready to reconnect with yourself, this conversation with Veronique Ory offers a grounded reminder that transformation can begin with something as simple as a breath, a moment of awareness, and the courage to meet yourself where you are. Join Veronique’s Shine Membership with a 7-day free trial for guided yoga practices, mindful movement, rituals, and reflections designed to help you feel more grounded, joyful, and connected. https://yogawithveronique.com/

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  Sophia Torinni

  Aug 16, 202623 min

  What if changing the way you think could change the way you experience your life? Today, we’re joined by Sophia Torrini , a transformation catalyst, certified Clinical EFT practitioner, public health professional, and specialist in what she calls “Hacking Reality.” After facing a life-threatening chronic illness of her own, Sophia embarked on a profound journey of healing that completely changed the direction of her life. With a Master’s in Public Health/Epidemiology and advanced training under Dr. Joe Dispenza , Sophia combines her background in public health and technology with emotional freedom techniques and personal transformation practices to help people break destructive thought patterns and move toward greater clarity, calm, and empowerment. In this episode, we explore: Sophia’s journey from chronic illness to transformation How negative thought patterns can influence the way we experience life What Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) is and how it is used The connection between thoughts, emotions, and behavior What Sophia means by “Hacking Reality” How people can begin breaking cycles that keep them stuck The importance of self-awareness in personal transformation Moving from fear and limitation toward clarity and possibility Why healing can require both compassion and personal responsibility Practical ways to cultivate greater calm, clarity, and emotional freedom Sophia’s story is ultimately about reclaiming agency —learning to recognize the patterns that shape our lives and developing new ways of responding to them. If you’ve ever felt trapped by old thought patterns, limiting beliefs, or circumstances that seem impossible to change, this conversation offers a powerful perspective on personal transformation and the journey toward becoming your best self. Connect With Sophia Website: https://www.tapintoyourbestself.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/anastasia-nicolaidis/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tapintoyourbestself/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/tapintoyourbestself.EFT

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  Why Trying Harder Isn't Working: The Myth of Instant Transformation | Kerisma Vere

  Aug 16, 202625 min

  What if lasting change doesn't come from trying harder, fixing yourself, or finally finding the perfect self-help method? In this episode of Control or Be Controlled , Darlington sits down with Kerisma Vere , holistic wellness coach and author of The Light Switch Myth , for a powerful conversation about healing, self-trust, trauma-informed change, and why sustainable transformation rarely happens overnight. Kerisma's work challenges the all-or-nothing approach to personal development—the belief that we simply need to flip a switch, become disciplined enough, and suddenly everything will be different. Drawing from lived experience, professional training, and years of coaching, she offers a more compassionate approach to change that focuses on regulation, self-relationship, context, and quality of life. In this conversation, we explore: • Why the “just change your mindset” approach often fails • The problem with all-or-nothing self-help • Why lasting change is usually gradual rather than dramatic • How trauma can affect our relationship with ourselves • The connection between self-trust and personal growth • Why healing doesn't have to mean constantly fixing yourself • How to build a healthier relationship with yourself • What regulation has to do with sustainable change • Why compassion can be more powerful than self-criticism • How Kerisma's personal experiences shaped her approach to wellness • Moving beyond pressure and toward a more sustainable path • What it means to create a life focused on quality rather than simply survival Kerisma also shares insights from her books The Light Switch Myth and Ways I Showed Up for Myself , along with her seven-module framework, From Pressure to Path . If you've ever felt like you're constantly trying to improve yourself but somehow keep ending up exhausted, frustrated, or starting over, this conversation offers a different perspective. Maybe the answer isn't to push harder. Maybe it's to understand yourself better. And sometimes, taking control of your life begins with learning how to stop fighting yourself. Connect with Kerisma Vere: Wellness Hub: https://towardswellness.ca/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/keri.vere LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kerisma-vere-a327428/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kerismavere ▶️ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@KerismaVere

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  Julie Pham, PhD: Rethinking Respect, Curiosity & Success

  Aug 16, 202626 min

  What if the way we understand respect, curiosity, success, and inclusion is holding us back? In this episode, we’re joined by Julie Pham, PhD , a Vietnamese-born, American-raised refugee, Cambridge-trained social scientist, award-winning community organizer, Amazon bestselling author, TEDx speaker, and founder of CuriosityBased. Julie brings a fascinating combination of academic research, entrepreneurship, community leadership, and lived experience to the conversation. Growing up in a bicultural household and living across the United States, France, Germany, England, and Vietnam has given her a unique perspective on culture, identity, communication, and the assumptions that shape how we interact with one another. Julie is the creator of the 7 Forms of Respect , a framework that challenges conventional ideas about what it means to respect others while remaining authentic to ourselves. We explore why respect can look different from person to person, how curiosity can transform conversations, and how rethinking our assumptions can improve relationships, workplaces, and teams. We also discuss her unconventional “real-life MBA” —the lessons she learned through running a Vietnamese newspaper, volunteering, working in academia, leading community initiatives, and building her own business. Julie shares insights on navigating conflict, improving communication, creating more satisfying relationships, making career pivots, and thinking differently about diversity and inclusion. She also reflects on her Vietnamese-American identity and the importance of understanding different perspectives on the Vietnam War. This conversation is ultimately about learning to ask better questions, challenge assumptions, and become more curious about ourselves and the people around us. If you’re interested in leadership, relationships, communication, curiosity, respect, culture, personal growth, or thinking differently , this episode will give you plenty to reflect on. Learn more about Julie Pham and CuriosityBased: http://curiositybased.com/ Connect with Julie: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/curiositybased X: https://twitter.com/curiositybased Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/curiositybased/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/curiositybased

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  Escape Survival Mode with Paul Padgett: Design the Life You Were Meant to Live

  Aug 16, 202629 min

  What if the life you want isn’t something you simply find—but something you intentionally design? In this episode of Control or Be Controlled , Darlington sits down with Paul Padgett , President and CEO of Blueprints To Success™ and the visionary behind the Blueprints To Success™ framework, for a powerful conversation about escaping survival mode, taking ownership, and intentionally creating a life of purpose, resilience, and fulfillment. Paul believes that transformation does not happen by chance—it happens by design. Drawing from decades of leadership, business development, personal transformation, and his study of human behavior, he has developed practical frameworks designed to help people bridge the gap between where they are and where they have the potential to be. In this conversation, you’ll discover: • Why so many people remain stuck in survival mode • The invisible beliefs and patterns that can keep you from moving forward • Why transformation requires intentional action rather than wishful thinking • How taking ownership can change the direction of your life • Why having a personal blueprint can turn vague goals into measurable progress • How to identify the areas of life where you’re reacting instead of intentionally creating • Why resilience is built through practice, not simply possessed • How leaders can create meaningful and sustainable change within organizations • The connection between mindset, behavior, and long-term success • Practical strategies for moving from simply surviving to intentionally thriving Paul also shares why personal transformation should be approached as a process rather than a single breakthrough. His message challenges listeners to stop allowing circumstances, limiting beliefs, and old patterns to dictate their future—and start becoming the architect of the life they want to build. Whether you’re feeling stuck personally, leading a team, building a business, or simply wondering what your next chapter should look like, this conversation offers practical ideas for taking control and creating a clearer path forward. Because your future doesn’t have to be an accident. Transformation happens by design. Connect with Paul Padgett: https://www.blueprintstosuccess.com/ https://www.instagram.com/uncle_paul04/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/coachpaulpadgett/ https://www.tiktok.com/@unclepaul04

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