Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And Guide

The Empowered Relationship Podcast helps you turn relationship challenges into opportunities and sets you up for relationship success, satisfaction, and intimacy.This podcast is designed to inspire, motivate, and guide individuals and couples into more empowered, conscious, and evolved ways of loving.

Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And Guide is a society podcast hosted by Dr. Jessica Higgins, with 548 episodes on record and a Required Pod Score of 80.

Dr. Jessica Higgins hosts Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And Guide, a society show with 548 episodes published.

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  Episode #548

  ERP 548: Your Brain in Love: How Brain Health Shapes Connection, Conflict, and Intimacy — An Interview with Dr. Majid Fotuhi

  Sep 29, 202653 minS1

  Is your relationship running on autopilot, derailed by misunderstandings, stress, or simply the exhaustion of daily life? Too often, we fail to recognize how the health of our brains—our most vital organ—directly shapes the way we connect, love, and even argue with those closest to us. What if the difference between disconnection and deep intimacy is all in your head—literally? In this episode, listeners will discover how brain health impacts everything from emotional regulation to sexual intimacy, and why tending to your mind's well-being is foundational for thriving relationships. The conversation explores how stress, fatigue, trauma, and even everyday routines influence the way we interact with our partners, sharing practical neuroscience-backed strategies to build resilience, practice self-awareness, and foster genuine connection. Dive in to learn why caring for your brain might just be the ultimate relationship hack. Dr. Majid Fotuhi, MD, PhD, is a world-renowned neurologist and adjunct professor at Johns Hopkins. In his new book, The Invincible Brain: The Clinically Proven Plan to Age-Proof Your Brain and Stay Sharp for Life (March 3, 2026 // Harper Wave), Dr. Fotuhi reveals that in just 12 weeks, it's possible to prevent and even reverse cognitive decline - at any age - in over 80% of patients. Episode Highlights 03:30 The brain as the source of emotions and relationship reactions. 09:33 Personal awareness and communicating emotional states in partnerships. 11:30 Taking pauses: Self-check and sharing needs during stress. 13:43 The nervous system's role in stress, intimacy, and brain health. 19:33 Trauma, memory, and the brain's ability to rewire through experience. 23:15 Challenging old narratives and the power of cognitive behavioral change. 26:07 Metacognition: Understanding and questioning our perceptions. 28:43 Belief systems, relationship interpretations, and subjective reality. 33:36 Emotional vs. logical brain circuits and habits of thought. 36:45 Healing from trauma: Neuroplasticity and creating new life patterns. 40:47 Sexual intimacy: The brain's role in arousal, connection, and desire. 43:42 Stages of sexual arousal and gender differences in orgasm. 45:36 Building a healthy brain: The five pillars and empowerment strategies. Your Checklist of Actions to Take Pause and Check In: Before reacting in a relationship, take a moment to pause and ask yourself if your brain is in a healthy, rested state. Communicate Your State: Let your partner know when you are feeling tired, stressed, or grumpy, and request space or support as needed. Practice Metacognition: Develop insight into your own thoughts and reactions, recognizing that your perceptions are shaped by past experiences. Use Calming Techniques: Implement short breathing exercises, such as the 6-3-6 breath technique, to reset your nervous system and reduce stress in moments of conflict. Be Mindful of Sympathetic Overdrive: Identify if you are constantly in stress mode (rushing, feeling late, overbooked) and intentionally schedule downtime to invite the parasympathetic ("rest and digest") system. Engage in Brain-Healthy Habits: Prioritize exercise, optimal sleep, Mediterranean nutrition, stress reduction, and brain training for overall brain health and relationship functioning. Slow Down Intimacy: Extend foreplay and create a relaxed, affectionate environment before sexual activity to foster better physical and emotional connection. Challenge Old Narratives: Work with a therapist or on your own to identify and question limiting beliefs from your past, and consciously reinforce positive new pathways in your brain. Mentioned The Invincible Brain (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) The Invincible Brain Masterclass (free online course) The Invincible Brain App (Apple App Store link) (app) The Invincible Brain App (Google Play Store link) (app) Relational Health Assessment Connect with Dr. Majid Fotuhi Website: drfotuhi.com Facebook: facebook.com/drmajidfotuhi X: x.com/drfotuhi YouTube: youtube.com/@DrFotuhi Instagram: instagram.com/dr_fotuhi LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/majid-fotuhi-md-phd TikTok: tiktok.com/@dr.fotuhi

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  Episode #547

  ERP 547: When "Having It All Together" Keeps You from Being Known: Perfectly Hidden Depression in Relationships — An Interview with Dr. Margaret Rutherford

  Sep 22, 202647 minS1

  Are you the person everyone leans on, appearing to have it all together—successful, reliable, always in control—yet quietly wrestling with loneliness and hidden pain beneath the surface? The struggle of perfectionism and emotional hiding can create a silent barrier, making true intimacy in relationships feel just out of reach. It's a paradox: the more polished our outer lives become, the more isolated we may feel on the inside. In this episode, listeners will explore how the pressure to be perfect and the tendency to conceal emotional pain can undermine connection and authenticity within intimate relationships. The conversation unpacks why these patterns develop, how they often go undetected—even by those closest to us—and, most importantly, what practical steps can help foster openness, vulnerability, and real emotional closeness. Whether you're personally carrying hidden burdens or longing to better understand and support a loved one, this discussion offers guidance for building genuine bridges toward being truly known. Margaret Robinson Rutherford, PhD, is a clinical psychologist in private practice with more than thirty years of experience treating individuals and couples for depression, anxiety, and relationship issues. Her 2023 TEDx Talk on "How to Recognize Perfectly Hidden Depression," where she challenges the mental health profession to recognize this overlooked and misunderstood presentation of depression, has received more than two million views. Episode Highlights 06:56 Hidden struggles of everyday people. 10:08 Understanding relationship dynamics. 11:47 Addressing Partner's Emotional Withdrawal 16:32 Creating the term for hidden depression. 19:06 Understanding suicide and connection. 23:26 Communication issues in relationships. 26:55 Reflections on parenting and perfectionism. 30:19 Discussing vulnerability in relationships. 31:42 Expressing personal struggles. 34:22 Identifying and expressing emotions. 38:19 Term 'Perfectly Hidden Depression' Impact. 44:08 Balancing family and personal growth Your Checklist of Actions to Take Notice and Name Patterns: Observe your partner's tendencies to avoid discussing emotional pain or vulnerability, and gently point out specific instances you've noticed. Inquire with Curiosity: Invite your partner to share by asking open-ended, compassionate questions about significant events rather than commenting on their level of busyness. Share Your Own Feelings: Model vulnerability by expressing your own emotions and desire for connection, such as stating your wish to know your partner's inner world better. Offer Written Resources: Send your partner articles or information about perfectly hidden depression as a low-pressure opening for discussion. Create Safe Pauses: Support opportunities for your partner to slow down and reflect by encouraging downtime rather than filling every moment with activity. Celebrate Small Risks: Acknowledge and reinforce even tiny steps your partner makes toward vulnerability, understanding that each disclosure is significant. Check Your Own Role: Reflect on whether your own behaviors contribute to maintaining distance or perfectionism in your relationship and address them collaboratively. Exercise Patience: Recognize that changing entrenched emotional patterns takes time and sustained support; commit to ongoing encouragement and understanding. Mentioned Perfectly Hidden Depression (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Perfectly Hidden Depression Workbook (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) How to recognize perfectly hidden depression | Margaret Rutherford | TEDxBoca Raton (*YouTube link) I Don't Want to Talk About It (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Brene Brown Relational Health Assessment Connect with Dr. Margaret Rutherford Website: drmargaretrutherford.com Facebook: facebook.com/DrMargaretRutherford X: x.com/doctor_margaret YouTube: youtube.com/@drmargaretrutherford Instagram: instagram.com/drmargaretrutherford

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  Episode #546

  ERP 546: When Parenthood Awakens the Past: Turning Triggers Into Healing and Connection — An Interview with Dr. Angele Close

  Sep 15, 202646 minS1

  Motherhood changes everything—and not just in the ways we expect. While welcoming a child can bring immense joy, it also stirs up unseen emotions, hidden wounds, and internal struggles with guilt, shame, and the daunting pressure to "get it all right." Far from the sugar-coated images often seen on social media, the journey into parenthood can leave many feeling isolated, overwhelmed, and silently wondering, "Is it just me?" In this episode, listeners are invited to explore the nuanced realities of becoming a parent and the powerful, often unspoken, shifts it triggers within. You'll discover how experiences from your own past may resurface, why feelings of disconnection or being "not good enough" are so universal, and how concepts like matrescence and internal family systems can offer understanding—and real tools—for healing, growth, and creating deeper, more authentic connections with yourself and the people you love. Dr. Angele Close is a clinical psychologist, mindfulness meditation teacher, and author who specializes in maternal mental health. She uses the Internal Family Systems (IFS) model to support mothers navigating matrescence, helping them release perfectionism, shame, and self-criticism. Her work empowers women to cultivate self-compassion, confidence, and emotional resilience through trauma-informed, compassionate, and evidence-based therapeutic approaches. She is the author of Unburdening Motherhood: A Guide to Breaking Cycles, Healing Trauma, and Becoming a Self-Led Mom. Episode Highlights 05:21 Parenting challenges with neurodiverse children. 08:08 Parental mental health challenges. 11:43 Struggles with motherhood expectations. 15:27 Pressures and expectations on parents. 16:19 Addressing motherhood burnout. 21:06 Exploring personal growth through motherhood. 24:49 Understanding Internal Family Systems (IFS). 29:24 Understanding self-protective behaviors. 33:42 Understanding the Inner Critic. 39:17 Navigating early parenthood myths. 42:36 Practicing mindfulness and self-compassion. 43:40 Helping moms with healing and guilt. Your Checklist of Actions to Take Pause and Check In: Regularly pause during your day to notice your body sensations, emotions, and thoughts to increase self-awareness and identify when you're getting activated. Acknowledge Your Parts: Recognize when protective parts of you (e.g., inner critic, perfectionist, controller) are taking over and name them to yourself to help de-escalate internal tension. Practice Self-Compassion: Offer yourself kindness, especially when you notice challenging emotions like guilt, shame, or overwhelm arising in your parenting or relationships. Communicate Openly with Your Partner: Initiate honest conversations with your partner about your current struggles, needs, and aspirations as parents and as a couple to foster connection and teamwork. Explore and Discuss Family Values: Identify and discuss with your partner the values and beliefs you hold about what makes a "good" parent or partner, noting where your perspectives align or differ 40:05. Allow Grief and Vulnerability: When old wounds or unmet needs arise (such as grief while parenting), let yourself feel them and seek supportive spaces, rather than pushing them aside. Set Boundaries for Self-Care: Notice patterns of depletion and intentionally set boundaries to prioritize your rest, nutrition, and personal time, even if it means asking for more help or saying no. Seek Support and Normalize the Experience: Join parent groups, seek therapy or coaching, or read supportive resources like Unburdening Motherhood to help normalize the challenges and connect with others who share your experiences. Mentioned Unburdening Motherhood (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) ERP 261: How To Strengthen Your Relationship From A Polyvagal Perspective – An Interview with Dr. Stephen Porges ERP 276: Understanding The Need For Both Self-Regulation And Co-Regulation In Relationship – An Interview With Deb Dana ERP 423: How To Transcend Trauma (And The Effects Experience In Relationship) — An Interview With Dr. Frank Anderson Shifting Criticism For Connected Communication (free relationship guide) Connect with Dr. Angele Close Website: drangeleclose.com Facebook: facebook.com/angele.close.2025/ Instagram: instagram.com/drangeleclose LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/dr-angele-close TikTok: tiktok.com/@cyclebreakingmomma

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  Episode #545

  ERP 545: Why We Hold Back from the People We Love: The Surprising Power of Revealing More — An Interview with Leslie John

  Sep 8, 202649 minS1

  Do you think your partner truly knows what's on your mind—or are you just hoping they'll pick up on your unspoken cues? The gulf between what we feel and what we actually communicate can quietly sabotage intimacy, leading to misunderstandings and missed chances for genuine connection. Expecting our loved ones to read our minds often leaves both sides feeling unseen and disconnected. In this episode, listeners will uncover why it feels so risky to open up and how sharing even small, vulnerable truths can transform relationships. Through behavioral research, personal stories, and actionable tips, this conversation offers a path to break the habit of holding back and encourages a new approach to creating authentic, lasting intimacy. Leslie John is the James E. Burke Professor of Business Administration at Harvard Business School and a behavioral scientist fascinated by how people make decisions. Her award-winning research has been published in leading academic journals and featured in media outlets such as The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, and The Economist. Born in Canada and trained internationally as a ballet dancer, she now calls Boston home, where she lives with her husband and two young sons. Episode Highlights 03:39 The mind-reading trap in intimate relationships. 09:05 The everyday moments and deeper reasons people withhold thoughts and feelings. 14:25 Balancing mystery and openness in relationships. 16:57 Strategies for practicing disclosure in safe, manageable ways. 21:04 The challenges of intellectual living in a modern context. 23:08 Discernment in disclosure: When and why we choose to share. 27:15 The personality factor: Who shares and who holds back? 31:51 The upside of vulnerability and social risk. 35:29 Research-backed reflections on what people regret most at the end of life. 40:42 Repair, reciprocity, and calibrating connection. 43:29 Tools for more authentic relationships. Your Checklist of Actions to Take Conduct a Daily Disclosure Audit: Take a few minutes each day to jot down what you shared and what you withheld in conversations, increasing awareness of your sharing patterns. Start Small With Sharing: Begin by revealing minor thoughts or positive feedback, such as a specific praise for your partner or colleague, to build comfort with self-disclosure. Practice Reciprocity: Match the depth of your sharing with the other person, gradually increasing intimacy together through reciprocal disclosure. Use an Emotions Wheel: When unsure about your feelings, consult an emotions wheel to better identify and articulate your internal state before communicating it. Clarify Your Intention: Before revealing something personal, ask yourself why you want to share and what you hope to achieve, ensuring your disclosure serves your relationship goals. Challenge Mind-Reading Expectations: Notice when you expect your partner to just know how you feel and instead proactively communicate your thoughts and needs. Widen Your Perspective on Risks: Consider both the risks of sharing and of withholding information, including long-term impacts, rather than focusing only on the immediate discomfort. Practice Curiosity and Calibration: If unsure about someone's reaction, check in with them and invite open dialogue, recognizing that building intimacy is a process of ongoing adjustment. Mentioned Revealing: The Underrated Power of Oversharing (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Brené Brown Shifting Criticism For Connected Communication (free relationship guide) Connect with Leslie John Website: proflesliejohn.com Instagram: instagram.com/proflesliejohn YouTube: youtube.com/@ProfLeslieJohn LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/leslie-john-75928721

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  Episode #544

  ERP 544: When Love Activates Our Defenses: How Couples Move From Protection to Connection — An Interview With Dr. James Cordova

  Sep 1, 202648 minS1

  Why are the very people we long to be closest to also the ones who hurt us the most? The paradox of intimacy is that our yearning for closeness often puts us at risk of pain, creating a delicate dance between connection and self-protection. As we draw near to those we love, our natural defenses can surface—sometimes in ways that inadvertently push each other away, leaving us feeling misunderstood or isolated even in our most important relationships. In this episode, the conversation dives into this very dilemma, exploring how our protective instincts can unintentionally create distance within our most cherished bonds. Listeners will discover why vulnerability feels so risky, how to recognize when their own "bodyguards" are at play, and practical paths to move from defensiveness back toward genuine connection. Through relatable stories and actionable guidance, the episode offers tools to nurture intimacy, strengthen repair, and foster lasting emotional safety in partnership. Dr. James Cordova, Professor of Psychology at Clark University, is the developer of The Relationship Checkup, a relationship healthcare intervention designed to be the relationship health equivalent of an annual physical checkup. Dr. Cordova is the founder and president of Arammu Inc., a university-based relationship healthcare company created to disseminate The Relationship Checkup and evidence-based relationship healthcare throughout both military and civilian populations. He is also the author of the recently published book, The Mindful Path to Intimacy. Episode Highlights 04:08 Porcupine nature and need to snuggle. 08:12 Learning to stay vulnerable and mitigate defenses. 10:05 Fight, flight, and the challenge of staying connected. 16:10 Finding humor and forgiveness in everyday annoyances. 17:09 Little hurts, unspoken needs, and the risk of disconnection. 23:39 Curiosity and compassion for your partner's inner world. 30:43 Understanding personal defense mechanisms. 31:29 Choosing vulnerability over protection. 37:14 The high cost of disconnection and misinterpretation. 38:52 Making relationship health proactive, not reactive. 43:55 Annual relationship checkups for lasting connection. Your Checklist of Actions to Take Identify Your Bodyguards: Become aware of your instinctive protective responses in relationship conflicts so you can notice when they're taking over. Acknowledge Vulnerability: Accept that vulnerability will always feel risky, but that authentic connection requires it. Communicate Softly When Hurt: When you feel hurt, express it in a clear and vulnerable way instead of becoming reactive or defensive. Seek Repair Quickly: If a rupture occurs, prioritize reaching out for repair—apologize, listen, and reconnect as soon as possible. Stay Curious About Your Partner: Practice ongoing curiosity and seek to understand your partner's experience and changing needs. Offer and Receive Forgiveness: When mistakes happen, forgive yourself and your partner, recognizing the common humanity in imperfection. Practice Regular Relationship Checkups: Engage in annual or periodic relationship assessments to stay proactive about relational health. Value Connection Over Pride: Make a conscious choice to value closeness and repair more than being "right" or protecting your ego. Mentioned The Mindful Path to Intimacy (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Marriage, Divorce, and the Immune System (*PubMed Central) (article) Janice Kiecolt-Glaser 12 Relationship Principles to Strengthen Your Love (free relationship guide) Connect with Dr. James Cordova Website: arammu.com Facebook: facebook.com/RelationshipCheckup Instagram: instagram.com/relationshipcheckup LinkedIn: linkedin.com/company/arammu

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