F*ck, I'm Nearly 50
F*ck, Why are Women still carrying it ALL? With Ash BG
>> SEASON 2 > EPISODE 8 ️ F*ck, Are Women Finally DONE? The mental load, misogyny, raising boys and why men need to be part of the change, with Ash BG. ----------------- Women are tired. But maybe it’s more than tired. Maybe we’re frustrated, angry and increasingly unwilling to keep accepting things simply because that’s the way they’ve always been. The mental load. Invisible labour. Being the default parent. Careers that are somehow always considered more “flexible”. Remembering everything. Organising everyone. And then there are the bigger, more confronting conversations happening around us. Misogyny. The manosphere. Porn. Consent. Violence against women. And what our boys are learning about women from their friends, their phones, their schools, their homes and the men around them. What if these aren’t separate conversations? In this episode of F*ck, I’m Nearly 50!, Dom talks to writer and founder Ash BG , the woman behind You Wanted This and Tether, an app designed to make the invisible labour inside relationships visible. Ash believes men need to do better. Dom challenges her that perhaps all of us need to do better. Together they explore why even progressive relationships can fall back into traditional gender roles after children, why “just tell me what you need me to do” completely misses the point, and why so many women are quietly drowning while telling themselves their partner “does a lot”. But this conversation goes much further. Dom and Ash talk about the confronting allegations involving young people in Sydney, the rise of the manosphere, consent, pornography, parenting and accountability. And they ask what our boys are learning simply by watching us. Who organises the family? Whose career bends? Who notices what needs doing? Who takes responsibility without being asked? Because perhaps raising boys who respect women doesn’t begin with one big conversation when they become teenagers. Perhaps it begins with what they see at home. And maybe the question isn’t whether women are angry. Maybe it’s what happens next now that more women are saying: Enough. ----------------- ❤️ This episode is for you if: ✔️ You’re exhausted by the mental load and struggling to explain why. ✔️ You’re raising boys or girls and thinking about what they’re learning about gender and respect. ✔️ You’re concerned about the manosphere, porn, consent and what our kids are seeing online. ✔️ You’re questioning the roles you’ve unconsciously accepted in your relationship. ✔️ You believe men and women can both be part of creating something better. ----------------- Inside this conversation: Why Ash believes women are reaching a tipping point. What the mental load actually looks like. Why parenthood can push couples back into traditional gender roles. What our boys are learning about women at home and online. The manosphere, pornography, social media and consent. Why Ash believes men need to step up, and why Dom thinks everyone can do better. Why women’s careers are still considered the “flexible” ones. Why fathers taking parental leave matters. How Tether makes invisible labour visible. What it means to “de-centre men”. ----------------- Try this: For one week, stop looking only at the jobs you and your partner do and start noticing who owns them. Who notices? Who remembers? Who plans? Who acts without being asked? Write it down or use Tether to track it. Then have the conversation. And try replacing: “Can you help me?” with: “How are we both contributing?” ----------------- Connect with Ash: You Wanted This: https://www.instagram.com/youwanted.this/ Tether: https://tether-app.co/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tether.mentalload/ Download Tether: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/tether-mental-load-app/id6780111989 ----------------- ️ Tags Ash BG, You Wanted This, Tether, mental load, invisible labour, unpaid labour, gender equality, misogyny, raising boys, raising good men, consent, sexual violence, violence against women, manosphere, pornography, motherhood, motherhood penalty, relationships after kids, emotional labour, parental leave, working mothers, feminism, gender roles, parenting, healthy relationships, midlife women, personal growth, Dom Hind, Dominique Hind, F*ck I’m Nearly 50, Australian podcast Let me know what you'd love to hear about next. -------- Let’s keep the conversation going… If this episode made you think differently, I’d love you to be part of the F*ck, I’m Nearly 50! community. ⭐ Loved the episode? 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