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#137: Treat Them Like Your Soulmate: Emotional Safety in Marriage with Miriam Raquel & Dovid Feldman
Send us Fan Mail Somatic Healing, Emotional Safety & the 5 Foundations of Marriage | Miriam Racquel & Dovid Feldman In this episode of From The Inside Out Podcast with Rivkah Krinsky and Eda Schottenstein, we welcome marriage helpers Miriam Racquel and Dovid Feldman, a Chabad couple who work with couples and individuals. They share their personal journey from meeting in college through different paths in Judaism, and how they now combine Dovid’s strength-based, solution-oriented therapy and 12-week Recreating Intimacy program with Miriam Racquel’s somatic mind-body healing. The conversation explores nervous system states in marriage, how to trust bodily signals while interpreting them wisely, and practical communication tools that avoid criticism and blame. They discuss rising divorce rates, social media’s anti-marriage bias, emotional regulation, “letting go” of expectations, emotional safety, receiving, and intimacy differences between men and women. They close with Torah- and Rebbe-based perspectives, quotes, and resources including their websites and books. SPONSORS Swimply Today's episode is sponsored by Swimply — the app that lets you book a private pool by the hour, no crowds, no chaos, just your own space to swim with your family. With pools available across all 50 states, it's an easy, private way to plan a fun summer outing. Use code INSIDEOUT10 for 10% off your next booking. Swimply.com Heart & Mind Matters This episode is also sponsored in part by Heart & Mind Matters, a ready-to-use social skills curriculum created by Henny Moskowitz for therapists, teachers, and social workers. 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Learn more & register: https://go.jcn.io/AtzmiIO GUEST BIOS Dovid Feldman Dovid Feldman is a marriage coach and licensed therapist with over 30 years of experience — professionally and in his own marriage — helping couples rebuild trust, communication, and intimacy. His 12-week program works with each spouse individually and centers on his "five foundations of marriage": appreciation, communicating without criticism, compassionate listening, loving boundaries, and consistent intimacy. He hosts the "Building Great Marriages" podcast. Learn more at dovidfeldman.com. Miriam Racquel Miriam Racquel is a somatic healer, marriage coach, and trauma & anxiety specialist who helps women access the wisdom of their body and intuition to create clarity, safety, and passion in their relationships. She's the author of "God Said What?!" and runs Your Marriage Magic, offering marriage and dating coaching for women. Learn more at miriamracquel.com and yourmarriagemagic.com. CHAPTERS 00:00 Welcome and Guest Intro 04:06 Tzedakah Moment Pushka App 04:39 Meet Miriam and Dovid 05:24 Dovid Origin Story 07:28 Miriam Journey to Judaism 10:52 How They Work With Clients 13:08 Therapy Approach and Program 17:40 Somatics and Nervous System 20:55 Body Signals vs Interpretation 22:47 Everyday Trigger Example 27:45 Deep Patterns and Resentment 30:44 Why Divorce Rates Rising 32:46 Choosing Happiness in Marriage 37:03 Chuppah Doubts and Mind Stories 43:10 Why Receiving Feels Hard 43:25 Five Blocks to Receiving 44:50 Reopening After Hurt 46:59 Dating Like a Gentleman 47:58 Emotional Safety First 50:36 Five Foundations Begin 54:16 No Criticism Rule 55:15 Reframing Instead of Critique 58:05 Four Step Communication 01:04:28 Repeat Requests Without Nagging 01:08:58 Letting Go Expectations 01:13:02 Intimacy Story Let Go 01:18:01 When Traits Annoy You 01:18:41 Why Criticism Creates Distance 01:19:37 Reframing Differences as Growth 01:20:37 War Survivor to Baal Chessed 01:24:39 Five Foundations That Work 01:26:13 Tools Therapy and Their Books 01:29:05 Torah Advice for Newlyweds 01:32:31 Soulmate Mindset and Regulation 01:34:31 What Men and Women Long For 01:40:39 Intimacy Needs and Scheduling 01:46:27 Closing Quotes and Hope COMMUNITY Join the Community! 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