Ghosted, Gagged and Gay!

A podcast about queer love gone wrong (and right).Real stories. Real chaos. All gay.The podcast where queer folks spill the tea on their past relationships. From messy breakups and ghostings that haunt us, to whirlwind love stories that left us gagged (in the best and worst ways), no tale is too spicy or too awkward.Want to share your story?Book a call with me: https://www.rainbowjourney.co/ghosted-gagged-gay

Ghosted, Gagged and Gay! is a society podcast hosted by Lonay, with 27 episodes on record and a Required Pod Score of 80. PitchCentric scores this show on Booking Probability, Listen Score, and live audience signals refreshed every 24 hours.

Lonay hosts Ghosted, Gagged and Gay!, a society show with 27 episodes published.

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  Episode #26

  He Sabotaged Real Love to Chase a Ghost (Gay Dating Story)

  Aug 6, 202626 minS1

  What if the emotionally unavailable men were never the real problem, what if you were terrified of the one person who actually showed up? In this week's listener story, we follow a gay man stuck in a brutal cycle: chasing men who pull away, sabotaging a genuine healthy connection, and watching it all unravel in real time. What looks like bad luck in gay dating is actually fearful attachment at work, a deep, subconscious terror of being truly loved. I walk through the psychological patterns behind this story: why gay men chase emotionally unavailable men, how self-sabotage in relationships protects you from something scarier than rejection, and what fearful attachment really feels like from the inside. This one hits close to home for a lot of people, if you've ever pushed away someone good while running toward someone unavailable, this episode is for you. If you want to break these toxic relationship patterns for good, reach out to me: https://linktr.ee/radiantheartsjourney

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  Episode #25

  Sex Is Easier Than Intimacy?! Trauma, Shame & the Sex Scripts with Radiance Sanneman & Vanessa Cushing

  Jul 21, 202648 minS1

  Why does sex sometimes feel easier than intimacy? In this episode of Ghosted, Gagged, and Gay, Lonay Halloum is joined by Radiance Sanneman (trauma specialist + IFS therapist) and Vanessa Cushing (AASECT-certified sex therapist) to unpack how trauma and shame shape our dating patterns, our nervous systems, and the way we use sex to manage anxiety or earn closeness. We talk about the difference between real chemistry and a trauma response, the signs you might be using sex as regulation, and how common “sex scripts” (masculinity performance, top/bottom expectations, porn pressure, and the “no feelings” rule) can quietly block emotional safety and real connection. We also share a “sexy-not-clinical” way to ask for what you want early without turning the date into a job interview and we get honest about self-consent: the subtle ways we override ourselves to keep someone interested. Bonus: After the outro, stay for a short IFS demonstration between Radiance and Vanessa so you can hear what “parts work” sounds like in real time.Guests: Vanessa Cushing & Radiance Sannemann Website: cushingcounseling.com Instagram: @cushingcounseling LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/vanessa-cushing-477051156 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/p/Cushing-Counseling-61578982936946/ Connect with Me ⁠https://linktr.ee/radiantheartsjourney⁠

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  Episode #24

  “I Thought He Was ‘Chill’”: A Grindr Date Story About Mixed Signals, Secrecy & Self-Abandonment

  Jul 14, 202622 minS1

  A listener sent me a Grindr date story that starts off promising (good morning texts, voice notes, “no games”) and ends exactly the way your nervous system is already predicting. In this short solo episode of Ghosted, Gagged, and Gay, we unpack the moment “chill vibes” turns into emotional avoidance, the difference between privacy vs secrecy, and why “you’re intense” is often what people say when you stop accepting confusion. In this episode: The “chill” profile that’s actually a warning label How your body clocks misalignment before your brain does Privacy vs secrecy (and why it matters for emotional safety) A simple boundary line you can borrow: “I’m not available for confusion.” If you've got a dating story you want me to read on the show funny, messy, painful, or all three send it to my email address: lonay@rainbowjourney.co Your support would be very helpful to keep this show available for our lovely community. Follow, like, share, comment..etc Thank you ^^ 📍Connect with Me https://linktr.ee/radiantheartsjourney

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  Episode #23

  Privacy vs Secrecy in Gay Dating: Shame, Closeting & Emotional Safety with Samuel Garza Bernstein

  Jul 6, 202629 minS1

  What’s the real difference between privacy and secrecy in gay dating and why does it matter so much for emotional safety? In this episode of Ghosted, Gagged, and Gay, Lonay is joined by Samuel Garza Bernstein (screenwriter, author, and playwright) for a conversation about how shame shapes the way gay men date, love, and protect themselves. We talk about what “authenticity” can look like when being publicly out isn’t safe, the real-life risks that shaped earlier generations, and how those survival strategies can still echo in modern dating dynamics today. We also get into Samuel’s new book, the first biography of Hollywood icon Roddy McDowall and what Roddy’s life reveals about visibility, chosen family, and living truthfully in a world that punished it. In this episode, we cover: Authenticity vs visibility: what it means to live “authentically” without being publicly out The difference between privacy and secrecy in gay dating (and why it impacts trust) How shame shows up in dating patterns and emotional availability Roddy McDowall’s story and what queer history can teach us about love today 📍Guest: Samuel Garza Bernstein Website: samuelgarzabernstein.com Instagram: @samgbernstein Other social media: @starringsamuelgarzabernstein 📍Connect with me: https://linktr.ee/radiantheartsjourney

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  Episode #22

  Beautiful Masks in Gay Dating: Shame, Secrecy & Emotional Availability with Frank Spinelli

  Jun 30, 202630 minS1

  In gay dating, the biggest red flags aren’t always loud. Sometimes they’re polished. Charming. Reasonable. Sometimes they’re beautiful masks. In this episode of Ghosted, Gagged, and Gay, Lonay sits down with Frank Spinelli—physician and author of Precious Friends: Murder in Sag Harbor—for a conversation about shame, secrecy, emotional availability, and the relationship patterns that keep so many gay men stuck. We talk about: How shame shows up in gay men’s dating lives (even when you’re “out” and successful) Signs someone is performing instead of truly connecting A practical “first step” to stop letting shame run your choices in love Frank’s new psychological thriller Precious Friends: Murder in Sag Harbor and the theme of masks, betrayal, and hidden darkness A quick game: Two Truths & a Mask to practice spotting grey-area dating dynamics 📍Guest: Frank Spinelli Website: https://frankspinelli.com Instagram: @spinellimd 📍Connect with me All Links: https://linktr.ee/radiantheartsjourney

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