
Episode #99
Meeting listeners in Tampa / Men’s Grief, Father Loss and Why It’s Okay to Laugh Again with Roger Nairn - Episode 99
WHO THIS EPISODE HELPS: People grieving a father or parent, especially those whose grief has felt numb, delayed or different from what they expected. WHAT LISTENERS WILL GET: An honest conversation about anticipatory grief, men’s grief, identity after loss and how talking, remembering and humor can make grief feel less lonely. DESCRIPTION: Roger Nairn co-hosts Dead Dads Podcast with Scott Cunningham, a name that caught Nick Gaylord’s attention immediately: this show began as Our Dead Dads . Neither host knew about the other when their podcasts began, but both saw a need for more honest conversations about father loss and men’s grief. Roger shares memories of his dad, Ken, whose curiosity and elaborate sense of humor remain vivid years after his death. After living with Ken’s cancer for five years, Roger expected to feel devastated when he died; instead, he felt surprisingly numb and questioned whether he was grieving the “right” way. Nick and Roger talk about anticipatory grief, the future Ken will miss with his grandson and the way losing a parent can change your sense of who you are. They also explore why humor can open a conversation that might otherwise feel impossible, without making light of anyone’s pain. At its heart, this is a conversation about making room for grief as it actually shows up and helping someone else feel less alone in theirs. This episode answers: Why do I feel numb instead of sad after my dad died? Can you grieve someone before they die? How does losing your father change your identity? Is it okay to laugh or make dark jokes while grieving? How can men talk about grief when they don’t know where to start? Key Takeaways: Years of anticipating a death can affect how grief feels afterward; Roger’s numbness initially made him question himself. Father loss can include grief for the relationship a grandchild will no longer get to have. Losing a parent may change how you understand yourself, even when that part of grief takes time to recognize. For Roger and Nick, humor helps lower the guard around difficult conversations. It belongs alongside honesty and care. Talking about grief does not require the right words or a familiar pattern of sadness. A person can begin with whatever they are actually feeling. ROGER'S LINKS: Website: https://www.deaddadspodcast.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@deaddadspodcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/deaddadspodcast/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dead.dads.podcast Substack: https://substack.com/@deaddadspodcast LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/dead-dads-podcast/ Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dead-dads-podcast-grief-support-for-men/id1867632438 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4WWlXBPzgj151SFYRUZeSB Grief Resources for Men: https://www.deaddadspodcast.com/grief-resources-for-men/ Suggest A Guest: https://www.deaddadspodcast.com/guests/intake/ Support the show GIVE THE SHOW A 5-STAR RATING ON APPLE PODCASTS! FOLLOW US ON APPLE OR YOUR FAVORITE PODCAST PLATFORM! BOOKMARK OUR WEBSITE: www.griefisnotadirtyword.com FOLLOW OUR DEAD DADS ON SOCIAL MEDIA: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/griefisnotadirtyword Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/griefisnotadirtyword TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@griefisnotadirtyword YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCmmv6sdmMIys3GDBjiui3kw LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/nick-gaylord/






