
Episode #92
You’re Not The Problem: A Nervous System Roadmap For Midlife
Your nervous system isn’t the enemy, and “try harder” isn’t the answer. Jen Lovell sits down with somatic healing practitioner and author Lori Montry to get honest about what midlife really reveals: the coping patterns that once helped us survive can start running the show, leaving us stuck in stress, overwhelm, people pleasing, emotional eating, and that quiet sense of “What is wrong with me?” Lori shares her own path from high achievement on the outside to feeling unsteady on the inside, and she reframes the shame loop with one simple truth: you’re not the problem. We dig into nervous system regulation as a real, body-based foundation for sustainable behavior change, including why trauma-informed support matters and how survival mode can show up as both high alert and functional freeze. This is practical and science-aware, from safety and capacity to the role energy plays when you feel exhausted even after sleep. Then we walk through Lori’s Freedom Framework: regulate first, discover what’s true for you, then build a life that matches it. You’ll hear an actionable way to start today with simple self check-ins throughout the day, what to look for in your body, and how to respond with care instead of control. We also talk about how authenticity can change relationships, sometimes in challenging ways, and why community support can make the discomfort doable. If you’re ready to stop treating yourself like a project and start listening to what your body has been trying to say, hit play. Subscribe or follow so you don’t miss what’s next, and if the conversation helps, share it with a friend and leave a review. Lori Montry is a somatic healing practitioner, author of You’re Not the Problem , and the creator of the Freedom Framework, a nervous system–based roadmap for sustainable behavior change. She helps people who feel stuck in stress, overwhelm, or self-sabotage understand the survival patterns driving their choices so they can build the safety, capacity, and clarity needed to take aligned action in every area of their lives. Let's Connect! Lori's Website Nervous System Self Discovery Quiz Join The Circle Lori on YouTube Lori's FB Lori's Insta Halfway To Dead Podcast Website Facebook Instagram email: Jen@HalfwayToDeadPodcast.com






