
Episode #2
Elena Aguilar: How to Regulate Yourself as a Coach
What happens when a coaching relationship leaves the coach feeling frustrated, ineffective, or demoralized? In this episode of Have a Life Teaching , I talk with Elena Aguilar , founder and CEO of Bright Morning and author of How to Coach Resistance: Turning Pushback into Positivity . Rather than focusing only on why teachers resist coaching, we turn the lens back on coaches and school leaders responsible for adult learning. Elena challenges us to rethink resistance itself: what we experience as resistance is often fear, and our own reactions can unintentionally create the opposing force that makes it stronger. We discuss: Why transformational coaching begins with examining ourselves How fear, defensiveness, and our need to feel competent affect coaching Elena's GAPS framework for diagnosing what may actually be getting in the way How new—and experienced—coaches can continue developing their craft What meaningful coaching impact can realistically look like When coaches should set boundaries or even walk away How to balance coaching confidentiality with accountability to school leaders Why curiosity, connection, and self-awareness can make coaching more sustainable A conversation for instructional coaches, teacher leaders, administrators, and anyone responsible for supporting adult learning. Elena Aguilar LinkedIn Page Bright Morning Webpage How to Coach Resistance Book






