
Episode #71
71 | Pleasure vs. Success: You Don't Have to Choose with Victoria Icenhower
What happens when you've done everything "right" and your body still says no? In this episode, I sit down with Victoria Icenhower, aka The Self-Love Scientist, and she shares something I've honestly never heard anyone talk about so openly: her body shut down her menstrual cycle entirely. No period. No sleep. No desire. Nothing. She was married, following the path she thought she was supposed to follow, and trying to have a baby. But her body wasn't having it. And it turns out, that was the wake-up call that changed everything. Victoria's journey from a disconnected, unsatisfying sex life to a deeply embodied pleasure practice is one that so many women will see themselves in. We get into: How shame gets wired into us from childhood and shows up in our sex lives decades later Why so many women have never actually gotten to know their own bodies The moment Victoria realized she had been dissociating during sex for years How a yoni egg became the gateway to reconnecting with her body What dearmoring is and why every woman should know about it Why your menstrual cycle is a vital sign (and what it means when it disappears) The connection between nervous system regulation and sexual pleasure How to start a self-pleasure practice even when you've never had one Why a woman who knows her own pleasure holds the power This conversation is for anyone who's ever felt disconnected from their body, gone through the motions during sex, or wondered why pleasure feels so hard to access. You are not broken. You just haven't been given the tools yet. ______ Meet Our Guest: Victoria Icenhower is a self-love scientist and women's empowerment coach who supports women in cultivating deeper intimacy with themselves through embodiment, confidence, and intentional pleasure practices. After leaving a marriage and losing her menstrual cycle, she embarked on a journey of radical self-discovery that led her to build a practice rooted in sensuality, nervous system healing, and sexual reclamation. Website: theselflovescientist.com Podcast: Love & Lattes ______ Go Deeper https://www.thepleasure.engineer Join our retreat in Mexico: https://www.thepleasure.engineer /wild-women-unleashed Join the Sex Witch Circle: https://www.thepleasure.engineer/sex-witch-circle Sex Coaching: https://www.thepleasure.engineer/coaching Download The Pleasure Portal (FREE) https://www.thepleasure.engineer/the-pleasure-portal Learn Sex Magic (FREE) https://www.thepleasure.engineer/sex-magic Use code KRIS10 for 10% off sex toys: waands.com Submit your questions: https://www.thepleasure.engineer/podcast IG: https://www.instagram.com/kris.the.pleasure.engineer/ https://www.instagram.com/illhavewhat_shes_having/

