Episode #41
Blindspot Patterns
Episode 41: Blindspot Patterns It’s easy to see a pattern in someone else’s life. It’s a lot harder to recognize one in your own. In this episode of I’m So Grown , we’re continuing the conversation about patterns—but this time, I’m turning the mirror on myself. Last episode, I asked you: What patterns do you have? Well, I'm answering that question today. I’m sharing three patterns I’ve noticed in myself: • The Cut-Off Pattern — when protecting myself means creating distance from people, situations, and even opportunities. • The “Reject You Before You Reject Me” Pattern — especially in romantic relationships, when uncertainty makes me want to leave before I have to experience rejection. • The Cold Shoulder Pattern — a behavior I used much more when I was younger, when shutting someone out felt easier than dealing with the conflict. And underneath all three, I noticed something bigger: When something feels uncertain, unsafe, hurtful, or disappointing, my instinct can be to create distance. But recognizing the pattern is only the beginning. Sometimes being grown is becoming a person who can recognize patterns, question them, and then decide whether they still serve you. Keywords: patterns, self-awareness, personal growth, emotional patterns, unhealthy patterns, relationship patterns, family patterns, self-reflection, healing, emotional maturity, boundaries, rejection, dating patterns, personal development, adulting, becoming emotionally mature, recognizing patterns, breaking unhealthy patterns, self-growth, I’m So Grown Podcast
