
Episode #5
The Truth Will Set You Free. The Stories You Tell Yourself Won't.
What stories do you tell yourself? When someone treats you poorly, do you immediately assume it's your fault? When a loved one seems distant, do you spiral into a mental replay of everything you might have said or done wrong? When you walk into a room, do you feel the energy shift and immediately wonder, is it me? In this episode of Infinite Life, Infinite Wisdom, Susan Grau turns inward, exploring the stories we unconsciously tell ourselves and how those stories quietly shape our relationships, our self-worth, and our peace of mind. Drawing on her own history growing up in a home affected by addiction, along with her decades of work as a medium, grief counselor, and empath, Susan unpacks why so many of us default to self-blame when something feels off, assuming a person's mood, silence, or behavior must be about us. She shares candid, personal stories of trying to earn love by shape-shifting into who she thought others wanted her to be, and how she eventually learned that authenticity, not self-erasure, was the real path to peace. The conversation moves through the power of silence as a healing tool, the difference between reacting and responding, and what healthy boundaries actually look like when they're built for yourself rather than aimed at someone else. Susan also speaks to honoring other people's beliefs without needing them to validate your own, a lesson she's learned firsthand while navigating skepticism about her work as a medium. Whether you're working through a difficult relationship, struggling with self-esteem, or simply tired of the mental spiral of "What did I do wrong?", this episode offers a grounded, compassionate reminder. You can't know what you don't know, and your job isn't to manage anyone else's truth, only your own. In This Episode: [00:00] Welcome to Infinite Life, Infinite Wisdom [00:51] Introducing today's topic: the stories we tell ourselves [04:16] Shape-shifting for love and the cost of losing yourself [04:45] Unconditional love and what NDEs reveal about it [08:23] Speaking your truth instead of shifting it [08:59] The healing power of silence [09:49] You can't know the truth unless you ask [12:04] Beauty, gratitude, and how we show up [13:33] Boundaries: what they are (and aren't) [14:48] Boundaries with narcissistic behavior [17:31] Compartmentalizing truth to avoid taking action [18:45] Building self-esteem: "I am lovable, capable, worthy, enough" [19:36] Honoring others' beliefs without needing agreement [25:16] Closing message: shine your light Notable Quotes [05:00] "We know that they have felt a love that is unconditional, that you just can't get here, that isn't possible here when we have a brain. We are judging and having discernment at all times." [08:56] "Sometimes silence is my best friend. It can be my best next right step is to be quiet." [12:07] "Every human that chooses to show beauty has beauty. So if I'm showing others beauty, I am behaving in a beautiful manner, then I have beauty coming out of me." [13:34] "A boundary is for you. It's not for other people. It is, what am I going to do when this person does blah, blah, blah?" [18:43] "Developing self-esteem looks like this, I am lovable. I'm capable. I'm worthy. I'm enough. And I do that a couple times a day. And then my self-esteem starts to catch up." [19:35] "I don't have to change your mind about my belief system. I can just have my belief system and you can have yours and I can honor yours and I can honor mine." [25:35] "Thank God they can't read our minds. So our minds don't matter nearly as much as how we respond to our minds and our thinking." [26:16] "Spirit never gives us hardships to take from us. They give us hardships to show us where to shine our light." Susan Grau Susan is an internationally celebrated intuitive life coach, a key opinion leader, author, medium and speaker, who discovered her ability to communicate with the spirit world after a near-death experience at age four. Trained by Dr. Raymond Moody, James Van Praagh, and Lisa Williams, Susan is a Reiki Master, hypnotherapist, and grief therapist. Her new book, "Infinite Life, Infinite Lessons," published by Hay House, explores healing from grief and the afterlife. With media coverage in GOOP, Elle, and The Hollywood Reporter, Susan's expertise extends to podcasts, radio shows, and documentaries. She offers private mediumship readings, life path guidance, reiki sessions, and hypnotherapy, aiding individuals in healing and finding spiritual guidance. Infinite Life, Infinite Wisdom Podcast Infinite Life, Infinite Wisdom Susan Grau Website Order Facebook Instagram YouTube TikTok Mentioned Infinite Life, Infinite Lessons Wisdom from the Spirit World on Living, Dying, and the In-Between by Susan Grau






