It's You. Oh F*ck. It's ME. In Session with a Psychotherapist.

It’s You. Oh F*ck. It’s ME. In Session with a Psychotherapist This podcast isn’t about self-improvement. It’s about unconscious self-avoidance. I’m Chad Taylor — psychotherapist and author of It’s You, Oh Fuck, It’s ME. The book sits behind these conversations, not ahead of them. It's the reason this Podcast exists. These sessions explore relationships, addiction (the obvious ones and the socially acceptable ones), therapy, and the patterns we keep calling “healing” so we don’t actually have to change. No advice. No tools. No pretending insight equals growth. Just real conversations — solo episodes, sessions with other therapists, clients, and readers — sitting in the gap between what we understand and how we actually live. If you want reassurance, this isn’t it. If you want honesty, you’re in the right place. Book: It’s You, Oh Fuck, It’s ME. https://chadtaylorpsychotherapy.com.au/book-sales

It's You. Oh F*ck. It's ME. In Session with a Psychotherapist. is a education podcast hosted by Chad Taylor, with 27 episodes on record and a Required Pod Score of 80. PitchCentric scores this show on Booking Probability, Listen Score, and live audience signals refreshed every 24 hours.

Chad Taylor hosts It's You. Oh F*ck. It's ME. In Session with a Psychotherapist., a education show with 27 episodes published.

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  Chad - Kindness

  Aug 18, 202611 min

  Send us Fan Mail In this solo episode, I pick up exactly where Jacob left me with one simple statement. No matter the faults, no matter the problems, all you can do is try and be kind. Kindness sounds simple until somebody hurts me. It is easy to think I am a kind person when everything is going my way, but what happens when somebody disappoints me, rejects me, betrays me, or simply doesn't give me what I want? That is probably where kindness actually starts to mean something. I talk about the difference between kindness and being nice, because I don't think they are the same thing. Kindness isn't saying yes to everything. It isn't avoiding conflict or allowing somebody to continually hurt me. I can say no kindly. I can set a boundary kindly. I can tell somebody the truth they don't want to hear kindly. I can even end a relationship kindly. Their reaction to that doesn't determine whether what I did was kind. Sometimes kindness actually requires more strength than cruelty. When I'm triggered, being a prick can be fucking easy. Remaining conscious enough not to deliberately hurt somebody when part of me desperately wants to hurt them back is much harder. That comes into my work as a psychotherapist as well. Sometimes the kindest thing I can do for somebody isn't nod my head and make them feel comfortable. Sometimes it is metaphorically throwing a bucket of water over them and waking them the fuck up. That can be confronting, but kindness isn't always comfortable. Intent matters. I also get into what is underneath me when I can't be kind. Is it my ego? My pride? My fear of rejection? My need to win? What am I actually protecting when I need to humiliate somebody, punish them, prove them wrong, or make sure they feel some of the pain I'm feeling? All behaviour is communication, and the person standing opposite me has a story as well. Understanding their behaviour doesn't mean excusing it. I can think somebody is completely fucking wrong and still treat them like a human being. I can disagree without destroying them. I can set a boundary without needing revenge. Somewhere along the way I think we've forgotten that disagreement doesn't automatically make somebody our enemy. Then there is kindness at home, because that is probably where it really counts. Not with the stranger who thinks I'm a great bloke because I smiled at them. With my partner. My kids. The people who see me tired, frustrated, stressed, angry, distracted, and completely fucking over it. Am I still kind when nobody is watching? And probably the hardest part of all of this is kindness towards myself. I can speak to myself internally in ways I would never speak to another human being. Fucking idiot. Stupid cunt. Failure. Weak. Not good enough. Not enough books sold. Not enough listeners. Not enough people in the group. I should be doing better. Being kind to myself doesn't mean avoiding accountability. I can say I fucked up. I hurt somebody. I did the wrong thing. I need to own it and repair it. But accountability and self hatred are not the same thing. I don't need to turn something I did wrong into an identity about who I am. Most kindness isn't some massive act anyway. It is tiny. Putting the phone down when somebody I love wants to talk. Saying thank you. Apologising when I fucked up. Catching my tone of voice. Giving somebody another ten seconds before I react. Not bringing the pain from my day through the front door and dumping it onto somebody who didn't cause it. I'm never going to be perfectly conscious. I'm going to react. I'm going to get defensive. I'm going to be unkind. Maybe the work isn't becoming somebody who never does those things. Maybe it is seeing them quicker and coming back sooner. The statement I leave for the next guest is this: Until you make the unconscious conscious, it'll direct our lives and we'll call it fate. It’s You. Oh Fuck. It’s ME. In Session with a Psychotherapist Hosted by Chad Taylor. Author of It’s You. Oh Fuck. It’s ME No tips. No fixing. Just real conversations. GROUPS/COURSES: PATREON WEBSITE INSTAGRAM BOOK SALES: SHOPIFY

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  Jacob - Potential

  Aug 4, 202623 min

  Send us Fan Mail In this episode, I’m joined by Jacob. Jacob is twenty years old and the creator of the TalkAnything podcast. On paper, this probably looks like a conversation between two podcasters. It wasn't. It quickly became a conversation about identity, kindness, autism, purpose, and what it means to become a good man in a world that constantly tells you who you should be. What struck me most was Jacob's curiosity. At twenty years old he isn't pretending to have life figured out. If anything, he seems genuinely fascinated by people and by the process of trying to understand himself. I found that refreshing. Most of us spend years trying to convince the world we know who we are. Jacob seems far more interested in asking whether we ever really do. We spoke about his autism and I appreciated how honestly he described it. There is a growing trend to either frame autism as nothing but a disability or nothing but a superpower. Jacob sits somewhere much more grounded. He openly acknowledges the struggles it has brought into his life, while also recognising that it has given him a different way of seeing the world. That honesty made the conversation far more interesting than simply trying to force it into one narrative or the other. One part of the conversation that really landed for me was around identity. After reading my book, Jacob spoke about how easy it is to build an identity around labels. Being autistic. Being a podcaster. Being misunderstood. Then he asked a question that stayed with me. Where does understanding yourself end and limiting yourself begin? I thought that was a remarkable question for someone his age, and probably one many people much older still haven't asked themselves. We also spoke about kindness. Not as something soft or passive, but as something intentional. Jacob described himself as the person his friends call when they need someone to listen. Someone who genuinely wants to make other people's lives a little easier. At the same time, we explored the difference between kindness and people pleasing, because there is a fine line between giving freely and quietly abandoning yourself. As the conversation unfolded, it became less about autism, podcasting, or even identity. It became a conversation about growing up. About trying different versions of yourself. About recognising that who you are at twenty probably won't be who you are at thirty, forty, or fifty. That isn't failure. It might actually be the whole point. The statement Jacob leaves for the next guest is this: No matter the faults, no matter the problems, all you can do is try and be kind. Jacob can be found at: https://talkanythingpodcast.wordpress.com/ It’s You. Oh Fuck. It’s ME. In Session with a Psychotherapist Hosted by Chad Taylor. Author of It’s You. Oh Fuck. It’s ME No tips. No fixing. Just real conversations. GROUPS/COURSES: PATREON WEBSITE INSTAGRAM BOOK SALES: SHOPIFY

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  Max N - Happyness

  Jul 21, 202636 min

  Send us Fan Mail In this episode, I’m joined by Max Nijst. Max has been clean and sober for almost twenty three years. He is a substance abuse counsellor, recovery coach, husband, father, grandfather of twelve, and someone who has spent decades helping people rebuild their lives after addiction. Before we even started recording, I knew this conversation wasn't going to be about drugs or alcohol. It was going to be about what sits underneath them. We spoke about recovery, but not in the way most people expect. Not about putting the drink down. About what happens after the drink is gone. The anger that remains. The shame that remains. The stories that remain. Because abstinence and emotional sobriety are not the same thing, and that is something I think gets missed far too often. Max speaks openly about relapsing four times before finally finding long term recovery. There is no performance in the way he tells those stories. No attempt to make himself look better than he was. Just honesty about what addiction actually looks like when you are living inside it. The guilt. The denial. The bargaining. The part of you that keeps believing this time will somehow be different. One of the things that landed for me was how much we spoke about projection. The way human beings instinctively point the finger outward because looking inward feels too threatening. We both laughed about how easy it still is, even after years of recovery, to find ourselves thinking, "It's you," before catching ourselves and realising, "Oh fuck. It's me." That really sits underneath this entire conversation. We also spent time talking about childhood. The stories we build about ourselves long before we are old enough to question them. A comment from a parent. A moment of embarrassment. A teacher. A family member. Tiny moments that quietly become identities we carry for decades. Not because they are true, but because nobody ever challenged them. What I appreciated most about Max was his humility. After more than two decades sober, years working in the addiction field, and helping countless people recover, he still speaks as someone who considers himself a student first. There was no pretending he has arrived. No pretending he has life figured out. Just a willingness to keep looking at himself before looking at everyone else. This episode isn't really about addiction. It's about responsibility. It's about the stories we continue to believe. It's about the courage to stop asking why the world keeps happening to us and start asking what part of us keeps creating the same experience. The question Max leaves for the next guest is this: How can you make this world a better place by starting with you? Max can be found at: https://www.fearlesshappyness.life/ It’s You. Oh Fuck. It’s ME. In Session with a Psychotherapist Hosted by Chad Taylor. Author of It’s You. Oh Fuck. It’s ME No tips. No fixing. Just real conversations. GROUPS/COURSES: PATREON WEBSITE INSTAGRAM BOOK SALES: SHOPIFY

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  Chayse - Desire

  Jul 7, 202640 min

  Send us Fan Mail In this episode, I’m joined by Chayse. Chayse works in an area that most people either judge, misunderstand, or avoid talking about altogether. He is an erotic massage practitioner who works with women and couples, but what interested me wasn't the work itself. It was what sits underneath it. Desire. Communication. Consent. Shame. Fantasy. Touch. The things most people desperately want to talk about but rarely do honestly. This conversation surprised me. I expected to spend most of the time talking about sex, but we kept finding ourselves talking about relationships. About how little people actually communicate with each other. About the assumptions we make after years together. About partners spending decades believing they know each other while never asking the questions that actually matter. One story really stuck with me. A couple had been together for thirty years before she finally admitted she never liked something he had been doing sexually. Thirty years. It made me wonder how many people are quietly living inside relationships built on assumptions rather than honesty. We also spoke about masculinity and the way so many men confuse performance with presence. Chayse talks openly about learning to read body language rather than simply chasing an outcome. About slowing down enough to actually notice another human being instead of making intimacy about themselves. Whether people agree with his profession or not, there is something valuable in that observation. The conversation also moved into ethics, trauma, disability, boundaries, consent, and the responsibility that comes with working so intimately with vulnerable people. I found myself asking questions I never expected to ask, and I appreciated that Chayse answered them without trying to sell anything or convince anyone he was right. Probably the biggest thing I took away was how often we avoid uncomfortable conversations because we assume we already know the answer. We expect our partners to somehow read our minds, then spend years resenting them for never discovering something we never actually said. This episode is less about sex than it is about communication. Less about fantasy than honesty. Less about technique than connection. The question Chayse leaves for the next guest is this: What are you most willing to sacrifice for someone? Chayse can be found at: https://www.perthsensualmassage.com.au/ It’s You. Oh Fuck. It’s ME. In Session with a Psychotherapist Hosted by Chad Taylor. Author of It’s You. Oh Fuck. It’s ME No tips. No fixing. Just real conversations. GROUPS/COURSES: PATREON WEBSITE INSTAGRAM BOOK SALES: SHOPIFY

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  Philipp K - Transformation

  Jun 23, 202645 min

  Send us Fan Mail In this episode, I’m joined by Phil. Phil is a businessman, spiritual teacher, author, and podcaster. What interested me about this conversation was how difficult it became to separate where business ended and spirituality began. We live in a culture that often treats those things as opposites. One focused on money, success, ambition and growth. The other focused on meaning, presence and consciousness. Phil has spent decades moving between both worlds and what emerged was a conversation about human nature more than anything else. We spoke about success, leadership, meditation, community, relationships and the strange tendency human beings have to hand responsibility for their lives to somebody else. A therapist. A spiritual teacher. A politician. A religion. A podcast host. Somebody who can tell us what to think, what to do and how to live. Underneath all of that seemed to sit the same question. Why is uncertainty so uncomfortable for us that we would rather surrender our own authority than face it? One of the most interesting parts of the conversation was around certainty. Phil shared stories from years of working with successful business owners and entrepreneurs and how easy it can be for somebody to become highly competent in one area of life and slowly begin believing they are competent in every area of life. Not just business but relationships, health, spirituality and human behaviour itself. It made me think about how often growth stops the moment we become convinced we have arrived. The conversation also moved into spirituality and the people who occupy those spaces. What happens when somebody starts with genuine wisdom and genuine intentions but slowly becomes trapped by power, status or admiration? How does somebody go from helping people to believing they are above them? How does curiosity become certainty? How does a teacher stop being a student? What I enjoyed most about Phil was his willingness to stay inside the questions rather than rush toward answers. He spoke from observation rather than authority and from experience rather than performance. By the end of the conversation it felt less like we had been discussing business or spirituality and more like we had been exploring the same thing from different angles. The human tendency to search outside ourselves for something that ultimately has to be found within ourselves. The statement Phil leaves for the next guest is this: A little bit of light can erase a lot of darkness. It’s You. Oh Fuck. It’s ME. In Session with a Psychotherapist Hosted by Chad Taylor. Author of It’s You. Oh Fuck. It’s ME No tips. No fixing. Just real conversations. Phillip can be found at: https://holisticcircle.org/ GROUPS/COURSES: PATREON WEBSITE INSTAGRAM BOOK SALES: SHOPIFY

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