
Messy Social Work
Terri-Anne on care experience, loneliness, identity, parenting, and the courage to challenge patterns passed down through generations
In this episode of This Is Messy Social Work , Rich and Tim are joined once again by care-experienced advocate, project worker and Churchill Fellow, Terri-Anne Hamer. Terri-Anne shares insights from her Churchill Fellowship research exploring how we break intergenerational cycles of child removal. From Denmark to Jamaica, her travels challenged assumptions and revealed a surprisingly consistent message: while services matter, what often makes the greatest difference is belonging, community and meaningful relationships. Together, they explore care experience, loneliness, identity, parenting, and the courage required to challenge patterns passed down through generations. Terri-Anne reflects on the role of her own "village" in helping her build a different future for her children, and makes a compelling case for support that extends beyond childhood and into adulthood. Along the way, the conversation touches on relational leadership, the unseen work of relationships, internalised shame, and why breaking cycles is rarely something people achieve alone. A thoughtful, moving and hopeful discussion about what becomes possible when we stop asking, "What's wrong with people?" and start asking, "Who stands alongside them?" Topics discussed: Breaking intergenerational cycles of child removal Care experience and parenting The Churchill Fellowship journey Relational practice and relational activism Loneliness, belonging and community The importance of "the village" Supporting care-experienced adults Leadership, systems and creating the conditions for change "If it takes a village to raise a child, why does the village disappear when that child becomes an adult?" - Terri-Anne Hamer

