
Mind Dive
Episode 80: Parenting Children with Eating Disorders
When a child develops an eating disorder, food becomes the battlefield, but the deeper struggle is often about fear, control, shame, and the need to feel understood. We sit down with Dr. Tom Wooldridge, board-certified psychologist, psychoanalyst, and eating disorder specialist, to talk about what actually helps families when anorexia or other eating disorders turn meals into daily conflict. His message is both relieving and challenging: eating disorders are not caused by one thing, parents are not to blame, and behavioral compliance is not the same as emotional recovery. We dig into the heart of his book, End the Food Fight: Replacing Control with Connection to Help Your Child Heal from an Eating Disorder , and why it’s designed as a steady companion for parents working alongside family-based treatment, refeeding plans, and clinical care. Dr. Wooldridge breaks down three practical pillars that support eating disorder recovery at home: emotional attunement, self-regulation, and reflection. We talk about how a stance of curiosity can soften power struggles, reduce shame, and help a child feel held in mind while they face the terrifying loss of “control” that refeeding can bring. We also translate mentalization into real-life parenting language, including what happens when families slip into teleological thinking (“if they just eat, everything is fine”) or go emotionally offline while trying to follow the plan. Finally, we explore the “unspoken conversation” in families, generational body messages, puberty and weight anxiety, plus how to think about social media and peer influence without pretending there’s one perfect rule for every kid. If this helped you, subscribe to Mind Dive, share the episode with a parent or clinician who needs steadiness today, and leave a review so more families can find these tools. Follow The Menninger Clinic on Facebook , Instagram and LinkedIn to stay up to date on new Mind Dive episodes. To submit a topic for discussion, email podcast@menninger.edu . If you are a new or regular listener, please leave us a review on your favorite listening platform! Visit The Menninger Clinic website to learn more about The Menninger Clinic’s research and leadership role in mental health.

