
Mind Over Masculinity
The Light Switch Myth: Realistic Change for Men Who Feel Stuck, with Kerisma Vere
Discipline equals worth. Fix yourself fast, alone, or not at all. In this episode, Sana talks with Kerisma Vere, author of "The Light Switch Myth," about the version of change that gets sold to men constantly, and why it sets so many of them up to fail quietly. Kerisma unpacks why instant transformation was never a realistic model for anyone, why men in particular get taught to carry change alone, and what it actually looks like to build a change that's grounded, supported, and sustainable. If you've ever set out to fix something about yourself overnight and ended up right back where you started, this conversation offers a more honest way forward. About the Guest: Kerisma Vere is a holistic wellness coach and the founder of Towards Wellness Coaching. She is the author of "The Light Switch Myth: A Beginner's Guide to Creating Realistic and Sustainable Change," the companion journal "Ways I Showed Up for Myself," and the creator of a seven-module course, "From Pressure to Path." Key Takeaways: The idea that real change should happen instantly, and alone, sets people up to see themselves as the failure instead of questioning the model itself. Awareness is the birthplace of change, and it's uncomfortable by nature. Noticing what needs to shift is the first step, not a sign something is wrong with you. Support doesn't mean weakness. A coach, a group, or even one honest conversation can carry weight that willpower alone can't. Keep the change realistic to your actual capacity. Thirty minutes every two weeks is still real progress if that's genuinely what you have. Practice over perfection. Skills like pausing before reacting are built through repetition, not willed into place overnight. Partners and loved ones usually don't need to see change be perfect. They need to see it be attempted, consistently. Connect with Kerisma Vere: Website: towardswellness.ca Books: available on Amazon and directly through her website Contact: available via the newsletter/contact form on her website Episode Chapters: [00:00] Welcome to Mind Over Masculinity — meeting Kerisma Vere (approx.) [03:00] What her work has to do with men specifically (approx.) [07:00] The lone wolf pressure: why men feel they must fix themselves alone (approx.) [13:00] Wellness vs. well-being, and why the difference matters (approx.) [20:00] What "The Light Switch Myth" is really about (approx.) [24:00] A grounded way to approach a real change, like a short temper (approx.) [30:00] Practice over perfection, and showing up instead of showing off (approx.) ️ Want to Be a Guest on Healthy Mind, Healthy Life ? Send me a direct message on PodMatch. DM Me Here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/avik About Healthy Mind By Avik™️ Healthy Mind By Avik™️ Global Mental Wellness Podcast Network - focused, credible, no more identity clutter. Subscribe and be part of this healing journey. Refer a Guest Know someone who would be a great fit for one of our podcast shows? Email us at services@podhealth.club with the subject line “Refer a Guest.” Requests without this subject line cannot be catered to. Support Our Podcast : Support this Podcast Contact & Links Brand: Healthy Mind By Avik™️ Contact Us Based in: India & USA All Podcast Shows Be a Guest Newsletter Substack Join the LinkedIn Community Disclaimer - This episode is produced for educational and informational purposes only. All views expressed by the guest are their personal opinions alone and do not represent the views of the host or Healthy Mind by Avik™. The Network does not verify, endorse, or assume responsibility for any guest statements. Nothing in this episode constitutes medical, legal, financial, or professional advice, please consult a qualified professional before making any decisions. Listeners are encouraged to engage critically and independently with all content do not consume blindly. Use this content as a starting point for your own reflection and research, not as a substitute for professional guidance. Third-party content is referenced under fair use for informational purposes only. Guest speakers are solely responsible for their own statements. If you have concerns about any content, please contact us here By listening, you acknowledge and accept this disclaimer in full. Read detailed disclaimer here. #podmatch #healthymindbyavik #podhub.club #mindovermasculinity #realisticchange #menandmentalhealth #selfcompassion #sustainablechange #lightswitchmyth #breakthestigma #practiceoverperfection #emotionalawareness #menshealing #innerworkformen #growthmindset

