MindSpeaking podcast - by Gilbert Eijkelenboom
Ep 37 - Alex Østergaard: How to Stop Overthinking and build Self-Trust
This is Alex Østergaard, coach and author of Dissolving Overthinking , who helps high achievers break free from overthinking, self-pressure, and the constant need to perform. His work focuses on uncovering the unconscious patterns that drive success on the outside—but create tension on the inside. In this episode, we dig into: Why high achievers often feel stuck despite doing everything right How early success patterns turn into pressure later in life The hidden cost of always performing, pleasing, and proving Why awareness alone isn’t enough to change your patterns And what it actually takes to feel aligned—not just successful Let’s dive in. LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/innerfreedomwithalex/ Book: https://www.dissolvingoverthinking.com/ The MindSpeaking podcast is about the Human Side of Data. I invite thought leaders to share insights on data, communication, and personal development. Highlight: 00:00:00 – Teaser 00:00:08 – Introducing Alex Østergaard 00:01:32 – What “overthinking” really is 00:02:41 – Where these patterns start 00:04:05 – Performing, pleasing, proving 00:05:38 – Why success can feel empty 00:07:12 – Being capable but disconnected 00:08:46 – The idea of being “over-adapted” 00:10:03 – Why awareness isn’t enough 00:11:27 – Control vs. self-trust 00:13:02 – Letting go of performance identity 00:14:36 – Emotional suppression and success 00:16:08 – Why change feels unsafe 00:17:42 – Recognizing your patterns in daily life 00:19:10 – From insight to real change 00:21:03 – Building a different relationship with yourself 00:23:18 – What alignment actually feels like 00:25:04 – Who this work is for 00:27:12 – First step: uncovering your pattern 00:29:30 – Final message
