
My Sisters Closet
Silent Treatment, Scorekeeping, and Loyalty Tests: The Hidden Ways Women Fight in Friendships | My Sister’s Closet
Not every fight looks like a fight. Hallie breaks down the silent treatment, scorekeeping, and loyalty tests, the sideways ways women fight in friendships instead of speaking up directly. Target Keywords • silent treatment in friendships • signs of the silent treatment • scorekeeping in relationships • loyalty tests in friendships • passive aggressive friendship • indirect conflict in female friendships • signs of a toxic friendship • relational aggression • how to deal with silent treatment from a friend • why do friends give the silent treatmentEpisode 3 covers three patterns of indirect conflict in friendships: silent treatment, scorekeeping, and loyalty tests. • The difference between silence as self-regulation and silence as punishment • A Reddit story about a 2-week silent treatment after a minor disagreement • How scorekeeping turns a small conversation into a courtroom • Loyalty tests: forcing someone to choose sides through access and inclusion • The real difference between a loyalty test and witnessing genuine exclusion • Why women are socialized to fight sideways instead of directly Discussion prompt: What have you been fighting without actually fighting it? What do you need to say out loud instead of performing?

