Outsmart Burnout: The Podcast for High-Achieving Women with Dr. Zarya Rubin

You're smart, driven, and accomplished — but you're exhausted. Not the kind of tired that a good night's sleep fixes. The kind that makes you wonder how much longer you can keep going at this pace, and whether the life you've built is actually the life you want. Welcome to Outsmart Burnout. I'm your host, Dr. Zarya Rubin — a Harvard-educated physician, TEDx speaker, burnout expert, and recovering overachiever — this show is for high-achieving women who are done white-knuckling their way through life and ready to reclaim their passion, purpose, and joy. As a physician who burned out in medicine and found my way back to personal and professional success, I don't just study burnout - I've lived it. Each week, I invite expert guests to dive into the real conversations high-achieving women need most: the science of burnout and nervous system regulation, the identity shifts that midlife brings, the systems and patterns keeping you s

Outsmart Burnout: The Podcast for High-Achieving Women with Dr. Zarya Rubin is a education podcast hosted by Dr. Zarya Rubin, with 48 episodes on record and a Required Pod Score of 80. PitchCentric scores this show on Booking Probability, Listen Score, and live audience signals refreshed every 24 hours.

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  Outsmart Burnout: The Podcast for High-Achieving Women with Dr. Zarya Rubin

  Be a Facilitator, Not a Fixer - Laurie Maddalena on Sustainable Leadership

  Aug 12, 202657 min

  Laurie Maddalena spent years as the "fixer" — the leader who carries her team's entire workload — before discovering the archetype shift that changed her career: becoming a facilitator instead. She and Dr. Zarya unpack why "open door policies" and multitasking quietly fuel burnout, the five-minute practice that ends workday chaos, and how Laurie holds a 40-hour workweek while running a company and raising three kids. They also share a candid conversation about parenting kids with chronic illness and the mantras that help them stay grounded when control isn't an option. KEY TAKEAWAYS - The fixer-to-facilitator shift is the most important transition in leadership — and most people are promoted into it with zero training. - Task-switching (multitasking) increases the time it takes to complete a task by over 500%. - The "open door policy," taken to the extreme, is one of the most burnout-inducing workplace practices — protected, undistracted time is essential. - A five-minute end-of-day practice — naming your top two priorities for tomorrow — reduces mental clutter and lowers stress. - Burnout is often a leadership and systems problem, not just a personal one — vague delegation ("drive-by delegation") sets people up to fail. - Boundaries, like disconnecting fully on vacation, model healthy leadership for the whole team rather than restricting others. - When facing what you can't control, the mantras "be with what is" and "invested yet detached" can help you stay engaged without burning out. TIMESTAMPS 01:53 Laurie's two pivotal leadership moments 09:48 What the "fixer" actually looks like at work 15:00 Banishing the open door policy and multitasking 20:56 The five-minute end-of-day recalibration practice 32:01 How Laurie caps her workweek at 40 hours 41:49 Instilling accountability instead of "drive-by delegation" 48:06 Parenting through chronic illness: "be with what is" 51:29 Rapid fire round 55:04 "Be a facilitator, not a fixer" GUEST CONTACT Website (free Fixer to Facilitator assessment): lauriemaddalena.com Connect on LinkedIn: Laurie Maddalena Connect with Dr. Zarya, The Burnout Doctor: Website: www.theburnoutdoctor.com IG: www.instagram.com/theburnoutMD Get your FREE Burnout to Balance Toolkit: https://drzarya.myflodesk.com/burnouttoolkit Book a FREE Consult with The Burnout Doctor: https://calendly.com/drzarya/free-burnout-consult Reach out with questions or to book The Burnout Doctor for your next event: hello@theburnoutdoctor.com

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  Episode #45

  The Burden of Being "The Strong One" - with Dr. Nikia Smith

  Aug 5, 202652 minS4

  Dr. Nikia Smith, board-certified anesthesiologist and founder of She Is Fire Forged, has burned out in medicine not once, but twice — and lived to build a framework for catching it earlier the second time. She and Dr. Zarya dig into the invisible "third shift" (the mental load of kinkeeping that goes beyond housework), the specific toll of being a Black woman in medicine, and why rest without guilt is a skill you have to relearn. It's a candid, funny, and sharply honest conversation for anyone who's been praised for being "the strong one" while quietly running on empty. KEY TAKEAWAYS - Burnout builds gradually ("the simmer") long before it boils over — insomnia, dread, and irritability are early warning signs that get normalized by hustle culture. - Changing jobs alone won't fix burnout if the underlying systems, boundaries, and values don't change too. - The "third shift" — kinkeeping (tracking birthdays, appointments, being the default emotional contact) — is invisible labor that drains women beyond housework and paid work combined. - Recovering from burnout is bigger than rest: it requires rebuilding boundaries, values, and support systems, not just a vacation. - Women physicians have better patient outcomes, work longer hours, chart more, and are paid less — and lose the cardiovascular protective advantage that being a woman typically confers. - For women of color in medicine, microaggressions and covert racism add a compounding layer of fatigue on top of standard burnout. - "Rest without guilt" is a skill: true rest means a quiet mind, not just a still body. TIMESTAMPS 01:58 Dr. Nikia's first burnout in 2021 06:08 The warning signs nobody names 17:05 Recognizing and short-circuiting the second burnout 24:30 The "third shift" and kinkeeping 37:45 Burnout compounded by race and gender in medicine 44:21 Rapid fire round 48:05 "Burnout told me I was broken, but actually I was..." 50:07 What to do in the next 24 hours Connect with Dr. Nikia https://sheisfireforged.com/ Connect with Dr. Zarya, The Burnout Doctor: Website: https://www.theburnoutdoctor.com IG: https://www.instagram.com/theburnoutMD Get your FREE Burnout to Balance Toolkit: https://drzarya.myflodesk.com/burnouttoolkit Book a FREE Consult with The Burnout Doctor: https://calendly.com/drzarya/free-burnout-consult Reach out with questions or to book The Burnout Doctor for your next event: hello@theburnoutdoctor.com

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  Episode #44

  The Pattern That Kept You Safe Is The Pattern That's Keeping You Stuck - with Anik Malenfant

  Jul 29, 202650 minS4

  What if burnout isn't about doing too much, but about invisible subconscious patterns running the show? Anik Malenfant — a former corporate finance branch manager turned inner work strategist — joins Dr. Zarya to unpack how the coping patterns that once kept us safe are often the very things keeping us stuck, exhausted, and stalled beneath an invisible ceiling. They dig into brainwave states, the biology of stress addiction, and why identity itself can become the thing high achievers protect at their own expense. It's a science-meets-soul conversation for anyone who's checked every box and still feels like something's missing. KEY TAKEAWAYS - Burnout is a symptom of disharmony — a signal that you're out of sync with who you are, not a personal failure. - The "achieve first, feel happy later" equation is backwards (the arrival fallacy); chasing external goalposts keeps happiness perpetually out of reach. - Coping patterns formed young (like staying quiet to avoid conflict) often resurface as adult burnout behaviors — "the pattern that kept you safe is the pattern that's keeping you stuck." - The subconscious mind operates on a theta brainwave, not the beta brainwave used for conscious affirmations — which is why willpower alone rarely rewires deep patterns. - It takes roughly twelve weeks of consistent practice to anchor a new pattern into your life. - High achievers often protect their identity/labels above all else — and that attachment is frequently what's driving the burnout. - The body can develop something like a stress addiction — extended calm (2-3 weeks) can trigger genuine withdrawal symptoms. - "Neuroneutral" — a state of open, receptive calm distinct from both fight-or-flight and rest-and-digest — may be the real antidote to chronic stress cycling. TIMESTAMPS 01:14 — Anik's origin story: from corporate finance to burnout awakening 04:54 — Burnout as a symptom of disharmony 06:27 — The guidance counselor story: the backwards happiness equation 09:16 — The arrival fallacy and conditional happiness 15:20 — Becoming an "energy sommelier" — reading subconscious patterns 21:14 — Brené Brown, Atlas of the Heart, and fight/flight/freeze/fawn 25:29 — The concept of "neuroneutral" 29:15 — Stress addiction and cortisol withdrawal 31:48 — Brainwave breakdown: beta, alpha, theta, delta 38:01 — Invisible patterns and visible ceilings 41:27 — "The pattern that kept you safe is the pattern that's keeping you stuck" 42:13 — Rapid fire round Connect with Anik ascensionacademy.life subscribe.io/breakthroughblueprint (free "Find My Pattern" quiz) Connect with Dr. Zarya, The Burnout Doctor: Website: www.theburnoutdoctor.com IG: www.instagram.com/theburnoutMD Get your FREE Burnout to Balance Toolkit: https://drzarya.myflodesk.com/burnouttoolkit Book a FREE Consult with The Burnout Doctor: https://calendly.com/drzarya/free-burnout-consult Reach out with questions or to book The Burnout Doctor for your next event: hello@theburnoutdoctor.com

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  Episode #46

  The Bridge to Calm: How Movement Regulates the Nervous System - with Lisa Danahy

  Jul 22, 202651 minS4

  Lisa Danahy spent years in corporate HR at a law firm, living in a state of hypervigilance she didn't have language for — until her body and her family life forced a reckoning. In this episode, she joins Dr. Zarya to trace her path from corporate burnout to 20 years running an early learning program to founding the nonprofit Create Calm, and to unpack the idea at the center of her book, Creating Calm in Your Classroom: the adult in the room has to regulate first. Lisa and Dr. Zarya go beyond theory — Lisa leads a live, guided movement sequence (grounding through the feet, breath, and bilateral movement) so listeners can feel, in real time, what shifting out of hypervigilance actually takes. They dig into why stillness alone can't bridge someone from a dysregulated state to calm — movement has to come first — and why "calm" doesn't mean sedated, submissive, or shut down. Lisa redefines it as steady, confident, and aligned. 00:47 Guest introduction — the disruptive idea at the center of the episode: the adult regulates first 02:36 Lisa's origin story — from corporate HR at a law firm to yoga therapist and founder of Create Calm 07:13 Naming the hypervigilance — what "attentiveness" actually felt like in her body 09:12 Why she resisted slowing down even as her body was signaling she needed to 10:09 Cortisol, stress addiction, and why the body craves the striving 12:02 "A reforming people pleaser" — and what happens when the people around you miss your old, over-functioning self 13:03 Live guided movement exercise — grounding, breath, and bilateral movement in real time 19:28 Why hypervigilance can't cross a bridge to calm without a partner of movement 20:47 Redefining calm: steady, confident, aligned — not sedated or shut down 24:17 Building your regulation toolkit before you're in crisis, not during it 27:34 Becoming the witness instead of the participant — and why that takes courage 30:04 Values-driven vs. externally driven living, and its direct link to burnout 33:01 Reframing the stress response as information, not a flaw 43:06 The "team at the table" metaphor for internal awareness and decision-making 44:36 Mirror neurons, co-regulation in a room of crying babies, and "bring the weather" Learn more about Lisa Danahy and Create Calm at createcalm.org . Connect with Dr. Zarya, The Burnout Doctor: Website: www.theburnoutdoctor.com IG: www.instagram.com/theburnoutMD Get your FREE Burnout to Balance Toolkit: https://drzarya.myflodesk.com/burnouttoolkit Book a FREE Consult with The Burnout Doctor: https://calendly.com/drzarya/free-burnout-consult Reach out with questions or to book The Burnout Doctor for your next event: hello@theburnoutdoctor.com

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  Episode #44

  Your Nervous System Killed Your Libido (Here’s How to Get It Back) — with Dr. Julie Merriman

  Jul 15, 202652 minS4

  Dr. Julie Merriman has spent nearly 30 years studying compassion fatigue and her own “scorched earth” burnout. A PhD-educated counselor, educator, and former department chair, her latest book, Are We Gonna Have Sex or What?, takes on the question hiding underneath every burned-out woman’s silence: what happened to my desire? We unpack the difference between burnout, compassion fatigue, and moral injury; why a dysregulated nervous system reads a stressful email the same way it views a saber-toothed tiger; and why desire is the first thing to go offline when your body doesn’t feel safe. She reframes resentment as a “sacred emotion” worth listening to rather than suppressing, explains why novelty keeps desire in the room, and makes the case that sex is a skill — one you can keep learning at any age. In this episode: The real difference between burnout, compassion fatigue, and moral injury Why a dysregulated nervous system shuts down pleasure and desire first Spontaneous vs. responsive desire — and why most women rely on the latter The “schedule sex” catch-22, and the ritual Dr. Jules uses instead Resentment as a sacred emotion, and its hidden role in intimacy Why novelty matters for desire — at any age Sex as a skill you can learn and improve throughout your life Connect with Dr. Julie Merriman: Website: JulieMerrimanPhD.com Book: Are We Gonna Have Sex or What? Free resources: the Desire Reset Guide and the Somatic Signatures quiz (linked on her website) Podcasts: The Compassion Fatigue Cure and Sexy After 50 Connect with Dr. Zarya, The Burnout Doctor: Website: www.theburnoutdoctor.com IG: www.instagram.com/theburnoutMD Get your FREE Burnout to Balance Toolkit: https://drzarya.myflodesk.com/burnouttoolkit Book a FREE Consult with The Burnout Doctor: https://calendly.com/drzarya/free-burnout-consult Reach out with questions or to book The Burnout Doctor for your next event: hello@theburnoutdoctor.com

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