
Episode #60
Overcoming the Not-Worthy Wound with Ruth Kent
Episode 60: Overcoming the Not-Worthy Wound with Ruth Kent What happens when you have spent your life achieving, helping, performing, proving, and pushing forward, yet somewhere underneath all of it you still carry the belief that you are not good enough? The not-worthy wound can show up quietly. It can look like people pleasing, overachieving, constantly seeking validation, taking responsibility for everyone else, or feeling as though no accomplishment is ever enough to finally make you feel worthy. In this episode of Overcoming Anything , host Anne Vryonides sits down with Ruth Kent, a former trauma and intensive care nurse, speaker, author, intuitive healer, and Emotion Code, Body Code, and Belief Code practitioner and trainer. Ruth shares her own journey through chronic pain, physical limitations, relationship struggles, and decades of feeling not good enough, and how she began looking beneath the surface at the emotional beliefs and patterns she believed were shaping her life. Together, Anne and Ruth explore self-worth, people pleasing, inherited beliefs, boundaries, emotional healing, faith, becoming your own best friend, and learning to stop looking outside yourself for proof that you are enough. Pasted markdown Key Takeaways • The not-worthy wound can hide behind achievement. You can be accomplished, capable, successful, and still carry an internal belief that you are not enough. Ruth explains how that belief showed up in her own life through overdoing, self-doubt, people pleasing, and constantly looking outside herself for validation. • Healing can begin when you stop trying to change everyone else and start looking inward. Ruth shares how one of the turning points in her marriage came when she began examining what she was carrying into the relationship, setting boundaries, and taking responsibility for her own emotional healing. • Become your own best friend. Ruth’s practical starting point for anyone struggling with unworthiness is to change the relationship you have with yourself. Instead of constantly judging, criticizing, or abandoning yourself, begin speaking to yourself with the same encouragement, compassion, and belief you would offer someone you love. Timestamps • 00:00: Introduction to Ruth Kent and the not-worthy wound • 01:15: The five words Ruth removed from her vocabulary • 03:10: How old emotional patterns follow us into relationships • 07:00: Discovering Boundaries by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend • 08:20: The anniversary gift that changed Ruth’s approach to her marriage • 12:55: Growing up believing she was not good enough, pretty enough, or smart enough • 15:59: Ruth’s turning point at age 45 and losing her sense of identity • 18:48: Searching for healing after years of chronic pain and physical limitations • 19:48: Healing from the inside out and changing the “I’m not worthy” story • 22:09: How unworthiness shows up in overachieving and people pleasing • 26:39: The different reasons clients come to Ruth for help • 27:11: Why men and women begin recognizing repeating emotional patterns • 29:20: Success on the outside versus fulfillment on the inside • 30:35: Relationships, separation, and choosing to work on yourself first • 31:45: Becoming your own best friend • 32:53: What Ruth would say to someone who still feels like they are not enough • 34:04: Learning to have faith in yourself as well as a higher power • 35:14: Ruth’s “double God wink” and the St. Francis of Assisi quote that guides her • 36:24: How to connect with Ruth and learn more about her work • 37:20: Final message of hope and closing Connect with Ruth Kent Website: RuthKentllc.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ruthkentllc/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ruthmkent/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ruthkentllc/ Phone: (828) 778-0254 Ruth also offers a 15-minute Connect with Ruth conversation through her website for people who would like to learn more about her work. Resources • Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend, https://a.co/d/03Va8j0p • The KNOTS Prayer — Dear God: Please untie the knots that are in my mind, my heart and my life. Remove the have nots, the can nots and the do nots , that I have in my mind. Erase the will nots, may nots, might nots that may find a home in my heart. Release me from the could nots, would nots and should nots that obstruct my life. And most of all, Dear God, I ask that you remove from my mind, my heart and my life all of the ‘am nots’ that I have allowed to hold me back, especially the thought that I am not good enough. AMEN • Emotion Code, Body Code, and Belief Code — Ruth discusses these approaches throughout the episode and how she incorporates them into her work with clients. • St. Francis of Assisi quote shared by Ruth: “Start by doing what’s necessary; then do what’s possible; and suddenly you are doing the impossible.” If you have spent years proving yourself, taking care of everyone else, achieving more, or trying to finally become “enough,” this episode is an invitation to look underneath the doing and ask a different question: What if your worth was never something you had to earn in the first place? If this episode helped you, please share it with someone who may be carrying the same not-worthy wound and needs to hear that healing and change are still possible. Please follow, download, and rate Overcoming Anything on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. Your support helps more people find these conversations and reminds someone who may be struggling that they are not alone. I’ll see you next time on Overcoming Anything. ❤️ Anne Disclaimer The information shared in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any medical or mental health condition. The personal experiences, spiritual beliefs, energy-healing approaches, and opinions discussed by guests are their own and should not be considered a substitute for professional medical, psychological, or mental health care. Always consult an appropriately qualified healthcare professional regarding your individual needs. Hashtags #overcominganything #midlifetransformations #energyhealing #resilience #selfworth #worthiness #notgoodenough #peoplepleasing #overachieving #emotionalhealing #limitingbeliefs #subconscioushealing #selflove #innerhealing #personaltransformation #beliefcode #emotioncode #bodycode #healingjourney #personalgrowth Send us Fan Mail






