
Episode #157
Stop Abandoning Yourself: Boundaries, Self-Trust & the Courage to Change
You can be accomplished, self-aware, and successfulâand still be abandoning yourself in ways you donât recognize. For boundaries coach Barb Nangle, that realization didnât come until age 52. Despite years of therapy, self-help, and personal development, it was 12-step recovery that finally helped her recognize patterns of codependency, people-pleasing, overgiving, and putting everyone elseâs needs ahead of her own. In this candid conversation with Dr. mOe Anderson, Barb explains why changing at midlife and beyond isnât just possibleâit can completely transform the way we relate to ourselves and others. They explore internal safety, emotional availability, self-abandonment, and why someone else being disappointed with you doesnât automatically mean youâve done something wrong. Barb also offers a powerful distinction between the familiar discomfort of dysfunctional patterns and the temporary discomfort that comes with growth. The goal isnât to never feel uncomfortable. Itâs to stop treating discomfort like danger. And boundaries arenât necessarily walls. Used well, they can create more honesty, trust, intimacy, and connectionâeven in relationships that have operated the same way for decades. Memorable Quotes âDiscomfort does not mean danger.â â Barb Nangle âLife is made up of the mundane.â â Barb Nangle Key Takeaways Growth has no expiration date. Barb began her major transformation at 52 and continues evolving in her 60s. Internal safety is built from within. Someone elseâs anger, disappointment, or disapproval doesnât have to become an emergency for you. People-pleasing can become self-abandonment. Constantly prioritizing everyone else may leave little room for your own needs, preferences, and feelings. The discomfort of growth is temporary. New boundaries can feel wrong simply because theyâre unfamiliarânot because they actually are wrong. Healthy boundaries can strengthen relationships. Clearly communicating what works for you can create greater honesty and connection. Emotional availability starts with yourself. Learning to recognize and honor your own emotions changes what you bring into relationships and what youâre willing to accept. Connect with Barb Nangle Website: https://higherpowercc.com Free Internal Safety Resource Pack: https://higherpowercc.com/pack Barb created this resource specifically to help people better understand and begin developing internal safety. If this episode made you recognize a pattern youâre ready to change, subscribe to Perpetual mOetion, share the episode, and leave a review. Change your words. Change your world. Would you like to be a guest on this podcast? Join Podmatch and get access to this show and 1000's of other podcast hosts looking for guests to interview. https://www.joinpodmatch.com/perpetualmoetionwdrmoeanderson Learn more about Dr. mOe's services and books on her website at www.drmOeAnderson.com . Follow her on social media! @drmOeanderson Elevate your public speaking skills with 1x1 or online Public Speaking Coaching ( https://drmoeanderson.com/coaching/ ) Feature your business on this award-winning podcast or book Dr. mOe for a speaking engagement! Contact her today! info@drmoeanderson.com Please support this indie, woman-owned, small business providing free educational and inspirational content. Use one of these secure, fee-free ways to support the production and distribution of this award-winning show: 1. Buy Me a Coffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/drmoeandu 2. CashApp: $drmoeanderson 3. Venmo: @drmoeanderson






