
Episode #166
Episode 166 - The Best Dad in the Galaxy: A Journey of Love, Loss, and Caregiving
What would you sacrifice to care for a daughter facing Alzheimer's at just 51? What if you moved from your retirement community, lost your wife eighteen months later, and then faced your own cancer diagnosis? And what if, through it all, love refused to let go? In this episode of Productivity Smarts, host Gerald J. Leonard sits down with Dr. James S. Russell and Carol Hosler, authors, educators, management consultants, and Alzheimer's caregivers, to talk about Best Dad in the Galaxy: She Said It . The book is a candid account of Dr. Russell caring for his daughter, Lynne, through Alzheimer's, and a practical guide to building a compassionate community of care. Dr. Russell explains how he found the book he wanted to write, and Gerald shares his own story of his mother's dementia and how music could bring her back. The conversation turns to headphones, playlists, and how music kept Lynne calm, active, and connected. The guests introduce their "love team" approach and the four pillars of care, prepare, share, and repair. They also discuss how Dr. Russell's background as a management consultant and community college dean helped him work with care staff, why one email is never enough to change an organization, and how redefining productivity around what matters most frees up time for the people you love. They close with how hope shifts over the course of a diagnosis, why "the only failed visit is the visit that doesn't happen," and what it meant when Lynne called her dad by name three weeks before she died. If you're caring for someone with dementia, worried about a parent, or trying to do it all alone, this episode will show you how to build your team before you need it. What We Discuss [02:01] Meet Dr. James S. Russell and Carol Hosler [05:49] Why Dr. Russell wrote the book [07:04] What readers should take away: the capacity we miss in our loved ones [08:07] Why you can't caregive solo: the "love team" [12:11] Headphones, playlists, and how music affects movement and mood [15:35] The four pillars: care, prepare, share, and repair [18:32] Redefining productivity for the sandwich generation [21:25] Telling stories instead of asking "Do you remember?" [23:14] Leadership lessons from management consulting: the double-portions story [26:47] Why organizational communication takes repetition, not one email [28:24] Building relationships before you need them [29:02] Choosing hope after a catastrophic diagnosis: Micah 6:8 [31:18] Why hope shifts, and why the only failed visit is the one that doesn't happen [34:00] Arming visitors with stories: the 19 names [36:39] What Lynne taught them about love and resilience [38:56] Where to find Best Dad in the Galaxy Notable Quotes [06:33] “I have written 5 books about it. I had to throw out the first 4 because it took me so long to figure out what I really wanted to say.” – Dr. James S. Russell [08:17] “I’m solo. You can’t do it solo.” – Carol Hosler [09:13] “So we call that love team. It’s so much more than a support system.” – Carol Hosler [10:25] “People talk about a lot of things, but the minute that you realize she's diagnosed, the highest priority is to build a system of people who really care for her because they're there.” – Dr. James S. Russell [20:59] “It’s not only that it cares for the people better… the impact makes the organization more profitable.” – Dr. James S. Russell [29:30] “Do justice, love mercy, and walk humbly with your God. And that’s the basis that I built it on over the years.” – Dr. James S. Russell [31:49] “I think it’s also important not to set too high expectations for yourself… The only failed visit is the visit that doesn’t happen.” – Carol Hosler [36:45] “My daughter told me that I was the best dad in the galaxy. She said it.” – Dr. James S. Russell Resource and Links Carol Hosler Book Website: bestdadinthegalaxy.com Book: Best Dad in the Galaxy: She Said It James S. Russell LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/james-s-russell-46b32438/ Productivity Smarts Podcast Website - productivitysmartspodcast.com Gerald J. Leonard Website - geraldjleonard.com Turnberry Premiere website - turnberrypremiere.com Scheduler - vcita.com/v/geraldjleonard Kiva is a loan, not a donation, allowing you to cycle your money and create a personal impact worldwide. https://www.kiva.org/lender/topmindshelpingtopminds See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .






