
Relatable Wisdom
How to Set Boundaries and Protect Your Peace—Nikki Allen | Ep 263
In this episode of Relatable Wisdom, I sit down with recording artist, filmmaker, and author Nikki Allen to talk about self-love, setting boundaries, and what it really means to protect your peace. Nikki shares a powerful philosophy she lives by: “My space is not for loitering.” But setting boundaries can be difficult—especially when saying no brings guilt, disappointment, or the fear of being seen as selfish. Nikki shares how learning to choose herself changed the way she approaches relationships, her energy, and the people she allows into her life. If you have ever struggled to say no, felt guilty for protecting yourself, or wondered when kindness becomes self-neglect, this conversation will give you something to think about. Listen in as we explore why loving yourself sometimes means deciding what—and who—gets access to you. Every episode has more to it than what you hear. Join the Relatable Wisdom newsletter to get thoughtful reflections, behind-the-scenes extras, and personal notes that don’t make it into the show. It’s a calm space to stay inspired between listens. Sign up here: https://relatablewisdom.com/join CONNECT WITH NIKKI ALLEN Website: https://officialnikkiallen.com/ CHAPTERS 00:00 My Space Is Not for Loitering 00:07 Introduction And Welcome 00:27 Meet Nikki Allen 00:46 You Can Do Anything You Put Your Mind To 01:24 Moving to California And Pursuing the Dream 02:03 The Meaning Behind “My Space Is Not for Loitering” 02:48 Realizing What No Longer Belongs in Your Life 03:41 Self-Love And Setting Boundaries 04:39 Letting Go of the Guilt Around Protecting Your Peace 05:12 Why Everyone Cannot Go With You 06:06 Living a Boundary-Centered Life 06:55 Recognizing When Someone Is Taking Up Your Energy 07:57 Handling Pushback Around Boundaries 08:39 Kindness And Knowing When to Say No 09:28 Saying No Without Feeling Selfish 10:19 Taking Care of Yourself First 10:51 Nikki’s Book About Boundaries And Hospitality 11:51 What Inspired the Book 12:28 When Kindness Gets Taken for Granted 14:45 How Self-Love Changes What You Allow 15:46 Nikki’s Book Loved You, Hated You 16:36 Where to Connect With Nikki Allen 17:06 Closing Thoughts

