Episode #22
22. Dysregulation, Dissociation, and the Real You Underneath
https://ruptureeverafter.com/ @mechellewingle @winglemo Have you ever reacted to something small — a customer service call, a declined credit card, a look from someone you love — with a wave of white-hot anger, or a sudden urge to check out completely? That's not a character flaw. That's your nervous system doing exactly what it was built to do. In this episode, Monte and Mechelle unpack two of the most misunderstood trauma responses: dysregulation — the emotional flashback, when half the brain goes offline and you drop into threat mode — and dissociation , when you leave the present moment and go somewhere else in your mind. Recorded on the road (helmet mics, wild turkeys, and a few breathtaking views included), it's a tender, honest look at why our bodies remember what our minds forget. Along the way, they get into: The four F's — fight, flight, freeze, and fawn — and how to recognize them in yourself Why being "triggered" is really a trauma response, and how a single scent (yes, Old Spice) can carry decades of threat Why the memory isn't the proof — the body's reaction is What ducks, deer, and lions teach us about shaking off stress before it gets stuck The elephant and the rider: how emotion leads and reason scrambles to justify it How early attunement, or its absence, shapes a whole life — and why prevention matters more than crisis Real, unglamorous dysregulation in the wild, from the post office counter to the checkout line Whether you tend to armor up or disappear, this is an invitation to trust your body, drop the judgment, and make room for your real self to show up and connect. Mentioned in this episode: The Boy Who Was Raised by a Dog (Dr. Bruce Perry), The Righteous Mind (Jonathan Haidt), A General Theory of Love , Eleanor Oliphant Is Completely Fine — plus Peter Levine, Eckhart Tolle, Ms. Rachel, and Bluey. Thanks for Sharing Podcast Thewholenessnetwork.com Information is not intended as professional advice and is for entertainment only.
