Sam's Healing Podcast

Sam's Healing Podcast is brought to you by one of infidelity recovery's most prominent and renowned influencers and YouTubers. For over 15 years Samuel has been one of the leading content generators for healing and recovery of both betrayed and unfaithful spouses. After more than a decade of blogging and filming under one of the betrayal trauma's founding fathers, clinician Rick Reynolds of affairrecovery.com, Sam has ventured out to pursue, create and live out his lifelong vision and passion for healing those touched by the trauma of infidelity. Through his new podcast and most recent project, Ask the Unfaithful Podcast, Samuel continues to bring his own personal experiences with infidelity recovery along with delivering the most current and up-to-date clinical wisdom and healing modalities for recovery after an affair.

Sam's Healing Podcast is a society podcast hosted by Samuel, with 80 episodes on record and a Required Pod Score of 80.

Samuel hosts Sam's Healing Podcast, a society show with 80 episodes published.

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  Episode #85

  Ep 79: When the Betrayed Feel Like They Were Not Enough with Melissa Elguera

  Sep 22, 202633 minS1

  Today Melissa Elguera returns to the podcast for a conversation around one of the most painful questions betrayed partners can carry after infidelity: Did my partner actually love the affair partner? When you've seen the messages, heard what was said, or learned how deep the affair went, hearing "it didn't mean anything" can be incredibly hard to understand. In this episode, Melissa and I talk about: Why an unfaithful partner may become attached to how the affair makes them feel, rather than simply the affair partner themselves The role of escapism, avoidance, shame, dissociation, and emotional immaturity in infidelity Why betrayed partners naturally try to make sense of the affair through thoughts like "I wasn't enough," "I didn't matter," or "they chose someone else over me" What Melissa calls "meaning making" and how betrayal can connect with older attachment wounds, abandonment fears, and beliefs about your worth How to begin depersonalizing betrayal without excusing the choices that were made Why betrayed partners can become consumed with messages, timelines, sexual details, and other pieces of the affair The grief that often sits underneath the need to understand every detail Why healing may require grieving the loss of safety, trust, innocence, and the relationship you thought you had What the unfaithful partner needs to understand about validation, defensiveness, and being willing to sit with the pain they caused How both betrayed and unfaithful partners can begin moving out of survival patterns and into deeper healing Melissa also shares from her own experience with betrayal and the painful question she had to work through: "Did I matter enough for you to be faithful to me?" We talk about how someone can love you and still make choices that deeply wound you—and why their behavior does not determine your value. Understanding the deeper reasons behind betrayal does not make betrayal okay. It does not remove accountability. And it does not mean the betrayed partner should simply stop hurting. But understanding what happened can sometimes help you separate another person's destructive choices from what you believe those choices say about you. If you've been betrayed, your life can be rebuilt. If you've been unfaithful, what you did does not have to become your identity. Healing requires honesty, courage, grief, accountability, and a willingness to stop running from what hurts. Remember, you can heal and you can find new life. To Work With or Learn More About Melissa Elguera: Website: https://identitylife.coach/what-is-coaching Instagram — https://www.instagram.com/identity.life.coach TikTok — https://www.tiktok.com/@identitylife.coach Melissa Elguera Trauma & Somatic Healing Coach Master Certified Life Coach Certified Coach & Supervisor for Character Formation Coaching To Healing, Sam samshealingpodcast@gmail.com

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  Episode #78

  Ep 78: Why It's So Hard for the Betrayed to Heal Alone with Adam Nisenson

  Sep 17, 202634 minS1

  Betrayal is already painful. Doing it alone makes it heavier. For many betrayed men, infidelity doesn't just hurt the relationship. It hits confidence, identity, self-worth, masculinity, and the way you see yourself. On this episode of Sam's Healing Podcast, Sam sits down with his good friend Adam Nisenson, The Betrayal Shrink. Adam specializes in helping men navigate betrayal trauma, infidelity, and recovery. He also brings something you can't learn from a textbook: he's been a betrayed partner himself. Together, we talk about why betrayal can become such an isolating experience for men—and what happens when you're left alone with your own thoughts for too long. Your mind can become an echo chamber. Was I not enough? Was I not attractive enough? Successful enough? Good enough? Adam describes this as "betrayal dysmorphia"—when someone else's choices begin changing the way you see yourself. And the longer those thoughts stay hidden, the louder the shame can become. That's why brotherhood matters. Sometimes one of the most powerful things a betrayed man can hear from another man is simply: "Me too." Not because it takes the pain away, but because suddenly you realize you're not crazy, you're not the only one, and you don't have to keep carrying everything by yourself. We talk about vulnerability, shame, intrusive thoughts, self-worth, accountability, and why real brotherhood isn't just about validating your pain. It's also having men around you who will challenge you, support you, and help you move forward. Because healing isn't about building your identity around being betrayed. It's about finding yourself again. In this episode, we discuss: • Why betrayal can feel so isolating for men • The "echo chamber" created by shame and intrusive thoughts • How betrayal can distort confidence and self-worth • Adam's concept of "betrayal dysmorphia" • Why vulnerability and being witnessed matter • The difference between support and simply commiserating • How brotherhood can help you heal, grow, and move forward ABOUT BROTHERHOOD N' BETRAYAL We're also announcing Brotherhood N' Betrayal, a men's healing retreat for those who have been cheated on. January 22–24, 2027 Inn Cahoots | Austin, Texas This is a growth-focused weekend for betrayed men to connect, learn, heal, and do the work alongside other men who understand. This isn't about sitting around bashing partners or staying stuck in what happened. It's about you doing your work, rebuilding self-trust, finding brotherhood, and deciding what kind of man you want to be moving forward. Complete your registration by November 1, 2026 and save $250. Space is intentionally limited. For full retreat details and registration, visit: Sam's Healing Podcast: https://www.samshealingpodcast.com The Betrayal Shrink: https://www.betrayalshrink.com/brotherhood-n-betrayal You don't have to let silence win. And you don't have to do this alone.

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  Episode #77

  Ep 77: How to Heal From Infidelity and Divorce: Rebuilding Trust in Yourself with Dana Killion

  Sep 2, 202635 minS1

  After infidelity and divorce, you don't just lose your marriage. You lose yourself. You lose trust in your judgment. You lose faith in your ability to see the truth. You lose the person you thought you were. And that's the hardest betrayal of all. When Dana Killion discovered her husband had been living a secret life after 25 years of marriage to a high-functioning alcoholic, she didn't just face divorce. She had to rebuild trust in herself from the ground up. And she's here to show you exactly how. This isn't about saving the marriage. This is about saving YOU. About Dana Killion: Dana Killion is the author of Becoming Unbreakable: A Big Sister's Guide to Trauma—the practical roadmap for anyone healing from infidelity, divorce, and loss. Her book teaches you how to rebuild trust in yourself after betrayal, break free from cycles of trauma, and reclaim your identity. Dana didn't just survive infidelity recovery. She transformed her pain into a guide that helps thousands heal from divorce trauma and betrayal. PREORDER NOW: Becoming Unbreakable: A Big Sister's Guide to Trauma is available for preorder and launches September 10, 2026. In this episode, Dana teaches you how to heal from infidelity and rebuild trust: Why rebuilding trust in yourself is more important than rebuilding trust with your partner—and how to do it How to heal from infidelity when you feel like you "should have known"—the self-blame trap The real difference between healing from divorce and staying stuck in betrayal trauma Practical tools for rebuilding your identity after infidelity shatters who you thought you were Why your nervous system is still in shock after betrayal—and what to do about it How to stop asking "Why didn't I see it?" and start asking "Who am I becoming?" Breaking free from the cycles that keep people stuck in infidelity recovery for years What real healing from divorce looks like, step by step If you've discovered infidelity, you need to hear this. You weren't stupid. You weren't blind. You trusted because you're a trusting person—and that is not a flaw. That is your goodness. Healing from infidelity and divorce doesn't start with forgiving him. It starts with forgiving yourself. And Dana shows you exactly how to rebuild trust in yourself so you can move forward—whether that's rebuilding your marriage or building a beautiful new life. "Betrayal doesn't break your marriage. It breaks your reality. But here's what they don't tell you: it can also rebuild you." — Dana Killion If you're navigating infidelity recovery, divorce healing, betrayal trauma, or loss, this episode on how to heal after betrayal is for you. There is a way through. Samuel Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/samuel_healing Website www.samshealingpodcast.com Email: samshealingpodcast@gmail.com Connect with Dana Killion: Website: https://www.danakillion.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dana_killion_author Book: Becoming Unbreakable: A Big Sister's Guide to Trauma Preorder: https://www.amazon.com/Becoming-Unbreakable-Sisters-Guide-Trauma ** Available September 10, 2026

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  Episode #75

  Ep 76: Why Quitting Porn Isn't Enough with Drew Boa

  Aug 25, 2026—S1

  What if lasting freedom from pornography isn't about fighting harder—but understanding what keeps pulling you back? In this episode of Sam's Healing Podcast, Sam sits down with Drew Boa, author of Outgrow Porn and founder of Husband Material Ministries, for a powerful conversation about pornography, shame, childhood wounds, sexuality, and what deeper recovery can actually look like. Drew shares his own experience with pornography beginning at age 13 and explains how he eventually discovered that his sexual fantasies weren't random. They were connected to experiences of rejection, exclusion, powerlessness, and unmet emotional needs from an earlier stage of his life. Together, Sam and Drew explore why simply achieving 30, 60, or even hundreds of days without porn may not address what created the need for it in the first place—and why recovery often requires going deeper. In this episode, we discussed: ▪ Why pornography can become a way of coping with emotions that feel intolerable ▪ How sexual fantasies can reveal parts of our personal story ▪ Why "revealing does not necessarily equal healing" ▪ The role of childhood and arrested sexual development in pornography use ▪ How shame and self-condemnation can interfere with recovery ▪ Drew's approach to inner-child and parts work ▪ Why recovery requires more than consuming books and podcasts ▪ The four "streams of desire": spirituality, community, internal integration, and overflow ▪ What Drew means by "outgrowing porn" ▪ Moving from white-knuckling sobriety toward healing and maturity ▪ Taking responsibility for recovery without reducing the story to blame ▪ Why new habits often require new environments ▪ The important difference between sexual arousal and sexual desire ▪ How couples can begin thinking differently about sexuality after betrayal As Drew explains, the goal isn't simply to cage or constantly fight the part of yourself that struggles. It's to understand what that part has been trying to accomplish, meet those deeper needs in healthier ways, and resume the emotional and sexual development that may have become stuck years earlier. Drew Boa is the author of Outgrow Porn: Find Lasting Freedom Without Fighting an Exhausting Battle—A Man's Guide to Healing and founder and CEO of Husband Material Ministries. He is a podcaster, coach, Pastoral Sex Addiction Professional (PSAP), Certified Brainspotting Practitioner (BSP), Unwanted Guide, and Inner Child Recovery Specialist. Connect with Drew Boa Website: https://drewboa.com Get Outgrow Porn directly from Drew: https://outgrowporn.com Get Outgrow Porn on Amazon: https://amzn.to/43RMKVw Download Chapter 1 of Outgrow Porn for free: https://www.drewboa.com/outgrow-porn-chapter-1 Husband Material Ministries: https://husbandmaterial.com Husband Material Podcast: https://podcast.husbandmaterial.com Husband Material YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/husbandmaterial Join the free Husband Material Community: https://husbandmaterial.co Husband Material Academy: https://joinHMA.com Husband Material Retreats: https://husbandmaterial.com/retreat Connect with Sam's Healing Podcast Website: https://www.samshealingpodcast.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/samuel_healing Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61572200762649 Subscribe to Sam's Healing Podcast for more honest conversations about recovery, healing, betrayal trauma, relationships, and personal growth.

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  Episode #75

  Ep 75: Healing the Shame and Patterns Behind Porn Addiction with Jeremy Lipkowitz

  Aug 18, 202634 minS1

  What does real recovery from porn addiction look like when simply "stopping" isn't enough? In this episode of Sam's Healing Podcast, Sam sits down with Jeremy Lipkowitz, founder of Unhooked Academy and host of the Unhooked Podcast, for an honest conversation about moving beyond sobriety and addressing the shame, emotions, and patterns that often live underneath compulsive behavior. Jeremy shares how porn addiction can become a way of escaping stress, anxiety, loneliness, boredom, insecurity, and other uncomfortable emotions—and why relying on willpower or chasing another sobriety streak may not create the deeper change needed for long-term recovery. Together, Sam and Jeremy explore what it means to understand the behavior rather than simply fight it, how mindfulness can help create space between an urge and an action, and why recovery is ultimately about building a life rooted in connection, purpose, integrity, and fulfillment. In this episode, we talked about: • Why shame can keep porn addiction hidden and make recovery harder • Looking beyond sobriety as the only measure of recovery • Understanding the emotions and patterns underneath compulsive porn use • Why willpower and "white-knuckling" only go so far • Using meditation and mindfulness as tools for recovery • Learning to sit with loneliness, boredom, stress, and discomfort instead of escaping them • Jeremy's four-phase recovery framework: Reset, Rewire, Rebuild, and Restore • The role of habits, environment, relationships, and connection in lasting change • Building a meaningful and fulfilling life beyond addiction If you've struggled with porn addiction—or you love someone who has—this conversation offers a compassionate look at what recovery can become when the focus shifts from simply avoiding a behavior to understanding yourself and creating meaningful change from the inside out. About Jeremy Lipkowitz Jeremy Lipkowitz is a former Buddhist monk, meditation teacher, and ICF-certified executive coach who helps high-achieving men break free from compulsive behaviors—especially porn addiction—and build lives of integrity, discipline, and deep fulfillment. With more than 13 years of meditation experience and hundreds of days spent in silent retreat, Jeremy blends ancient wisdom with cutting-edge science to guide individuals toward emotional resilience and personal freedom. A former genetic researcher who earned Bachelor's and Master's degrees in Genetics & Genomics and pursued a PhD at Duke University, Jeremy left academia after confronting his own struggles with addiction, shame, and self-judgment. A period of monastic training in Myanmar deepened his mindfulness practice and marked the start of a lifelong commitment to personal growth and service. As the founder of Unhooked Academy and host of the Unhooked Podcast, Jeremy is a leading voice in destigmatizing porn addiction and educating the public on effective, science-based recovery strategies. His work helps men overcome shame, understand the neuroscience of addiction, and create lasting transformation through mindfulness, emotional intelligence, and habit change. For over a decade, Jeremy has taught at universities, recovery centers, and global companies across the U.S. and Asia. His calm, grounded presence and ability to bridge analytical thinking with inner work make him a sought-after guide for professionals and executives looking to reclaim their lives from digital distractions and self-sabotaging patterns. Credentials & Training • CPCC, Co-Active Training Institute • ACC, International Coaching Federation (ICF) • Certified Teacher, Search Inside Yourself Leadership Institute (SIYLI – developed at Google) Connect with Jeremy: Website: https://unhookedacademy.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jeremylipkowitz2 YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/JeremyLipkowitz Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jeremylipkowitz Connect with Sam's Healing Podcast Website: https://www.samshealingpodcast.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/samuel_healing Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61572200762649 Subscribe to Sam's Healing Podcast for more honest conversations about recovery, healing, betrayal trauma, relationships, and personal growth.

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