
Episode #9
Why We Still Don't Ask for Help | With Lily Gresele
If you know you’re struggling but still can’t bring yourself to ask for help... this episode is for you. Paris sits down with Lily Gresele, founder of How to Be Well, to talk about why asking for help can feel so bloody difficult.... even when you know you need it. Lily’s own experience began with a childhood where vulnerability and support-seeking were treated as weakness. After leaving elite gymnastics, she found herself without the identity, purpose and validation that had shaped almost her entire life. What followed was a period of severe mental health struggle before she finally took the first steps towards support. Those experiences eventually became the reason Lily started 'How to Be Well' because she kept coming back to one question: Why was it so hard to ask for help in the first place? In this conversation, Lily talks honestly about: Why being taught that vulnerability is weakness can follow you long after childhood. What happened when Lily lost the identity she had built around elite gymnastics. How masking can make someone look completely fine while they’re falling apart underneath. Why the first psychologist you see might not be the right one for you. What finally helped Lily move from “I have to work this out myself” to asking for support. Why recovery isn’t necessarily about never having another bad thought... but learning how to manage when they show up. If you’ve ever known you needed help but still couldn’t bring yourself to ask for it, this one’s for you. Lily Gresele is the founder of How to Be Well, a mental health platform she started after experiencing her own mental health challenges. Her work focuses on making mental health conversations and support-seeking feel more approachable and accessible. Through How to Be Well, Lily delivers workshops, presentations, advocacy work and an online non-clinical support community designed for people who may be falling through gaps in the mental health system or waiting for professional support. To connect with Lily and the community, visit: Website How to Be Well Community Instagram Thank you to our Season 4 sponsors: Coach Carly – Life & mindset coaching | Elevate Beyond Co. – Disability support services | Your Recovery – Addiction recovery support Thank you to our Production Team: Video/Audio Editing: Nevverland Studio | VA - Lyn Ebon Australia Wide Directory of Services: https://www.myservices.org.au/ Western Australian AOD Services: https://wanada.org.au/greenbook/ National Alcohol and Other Drug Hotline: 1800 250 015 Lifeline: 13 11 14 | Suicide Call Back: 1300 659 467 | Beyond Blue: 1300 22 4636 | Mind Spot: 1800 61 44 34 | Head to Health: 1800 595 212 | Mens Line: 1300 78 99 78 | 13YARN: 13 92 76 | Thirrili: 1800 805 801 |QLife: 1800 184 527 | Kids Helpline: 1800 55 1800 | Headspace: 1800 650 890 Follow The Podcast: www.shtsfcked.com | Donate Here | Instagram | Facebook | YouTube | TikTok


