
Episode #55
55 | Adult Friendships Require Inconvenience: How to Build a Village When You Don’t Have One | Part 1
Everyone keeps saying, “Motherhood takes a village.” Okay... but what if you don’t have one? Maybe you don’t have family nearby. You moved somewhere new. You haven’t found your people yet. You see other moms with close-knit groups doing life together and wonder how they even got there. Maybe you’ve joined the mom group or Bible study, but you still feel like the new girl. Or you’re home thinking, I would LOVE friendships like that. I just don’t know how to get from here to there. This episode is for you. I’m sitting down with my friend Sage for Part 1 of a two-part conversation about what it actually takes to make mom friends and build a village as an adult—because deep adult friendships usually don’t just fall into our laps. Sometimes building community means showing up when you’re tired. Going back even when the first few times feel awkward. Inviting someone instead of wondering why nobody invited you. Hosting when your house is a mess. Letting friendships develop slowly instead of deciding after one coffee date whether you’ve found your people. And yes, sometimes adult friendships require inconvenience. We get really practical about: • How to make mom friends when you don’t already have a community • What to do when you’re new to a city, church, Bible study, or mom group • Why you have to keep showing up before you feel like you belong • Going from acquaintances to deeper friendships • Personally inviting another mom instead of waiting to be invited • Hosting when your house is messy and your kids are chaotic • Why consistency matters when building adult friendships • Giving new friendships enough time to grow • Serving the women around you instead of only asking, “Who’s showing up for me?” • Building Christian community that goes deeper than playdates You don’t need 15 best friends by next Tuesday. Start with one invitation. One Bible study. One playdate. One mom at church you actually ask to coffee. And then go back. Because the only way to stop being the new girl is to come back. And we’re not done. In Part 2, Sage and I go even deeper into what it takes to KEEP these friendships once you find them —being less easily offended, assuming the best of your friends, having hard conversations, handling hurt and disappointment, and looking at friendship through a biblical lens. If you’ve been searching for how to make mom friends, how to make friends as an adult, Christian mom groups, Christian female friendships, stay-at-home mom community, making friends after moving, loneliness in motherhood, finding mom friends, building a mom village, or how to build deeper friendships as a mom , start here. Maybe the village you’re waiting for is one you’re supposed to help build. FIND BIBLES & BABIES Treasure Valley / Boise moms: Bibles & Babies Boise Find or start Bibles & Babies community where you live: Bibles & Babies Hub FREE WEEKLY ORGANIZER FOR CHRISTIAN SAHMs ️ Trying to make room for your faith, marriage, kids, home, health, community AND the things God has put on your heart? My free Weekly Organizer helps you give those priorities an actual place in your week instead of trying to do everything every day. Download the FREE Weekly Organizer HOME BIRTH IN A HOSPITAL PLANNER Planning a hospital birth but hoping for a more natural, informed experience? This planner helps you understand your options, know what questions to ask, and prepare for the birth you want. Get the Home Birth in a Hospital Planner CONNECT WITH ME Instagram — @nikiwolfewellness If this episode made you think of the mom you’ve been saying “We should get together sometime!” to for six months... send it to her. Then actually put something on the calendar. That might be exactly how the village starts.

