
Episode #22
Jeff Noel, the Authentic Pastor
Episode Summary Jeff NoΓ©l has led churches of forty and churches of fourteen hundred. He has served on the board of the National Day of Prayer for twenty-one years, worked with Harvest Prayer Ministries, and watched the pastoral burnout crisis up close for decades. Now, through The Authentic Pastor, he coaches pastors through a six-month cohort model built around six pillars of whole care β because, as Jeff puts it, the current pastoral model in most American churches is simply unsustainable. In this episode, Andrew Schory and Jeff cover what trust really means in organizational leadership, how culture happens whether you plan it or not, why prayer works best when it stops being a discipline and starts being a relationship, and the one piece of advice Jeff's father gave him that took years to fully understand. Guest Information Guest Name: Jeff NoΓ©l, Pastor-Coach, The Authentic Pastor Bio: Jeff NoΓ©l has spent forty years in ministry, most of it as a lead pastor. A pastor's kid who grew up in the church, he has led congregations ranging from 70 to 1,400 β small staff to large, healthy cultures to toxic ones. He spent eight years with Harvest Prayer Ministries and served over two decades on the Board of Directors for the National Day of Prayer. Jeff is the person pastors turn to when they need someone who genuinely sees them and understands what they're going through. Through The Authentic Pastor, he offers a six-month cohort model built around six pillars of whole care, as well as customized individual coaching. Jeff is married to his wife Laure and is the father of one daughter, Marie β and three stepchildren, Mason, Jana, and Wesley. Website: theauthenticpastor.com Email: jeffnoel@theauthenticpastor.com Episode Outline What The Authentic Pastor Does: Cohorts, Coaching, and Whole Care (00:38) Jeff describes The Authentic Pastor's core model: a six-month cohort that opens and closes with an in-person weekend gathering, with monthly individual and group coaching in between. The program is built around a Whole Care course β an intensive opportunity for pastors to reflect, renew, and build the personal foundations that ministry tends to erode. Jeff also does customized individual coaching for pastors at any stage, from men brand new to ministry to those navigating the quiet tipping points of mid-career. What Great Leadership Looks Like Regardless of Organizational Size (03:30) Jeff has led churches big and small, and his answer to what great leadership requires at every size is the same: trust. Those you lead must believe you genuinely have their best interests β and God's agenda, not your own β at heart. He draws on Henry Blackaby's definition from Spiritual Leadership: influence is not moving people where you want them to be, it is helping them get where the Lord wants them to be. Andrew adds the parallel for business coaches: often the most valuable thing a leader on the outside can do is ask, "Is this truly what the Lord wants, or is it what you want?" Culture Wins β or It Happens to You: Building Intentional Staff Culture (09:07) When Grace Heartland's seventeen-person staff began showing signs of trust breakdown in 2018, Jeff traced it to lack of communication, unmet expectations, and people feeling left out of decisions. The team picked up William Vanderbloemen's Culture Wins, worked through a culture rebuild together, identified core cultural values, wrote a culture statement, and had every staff member sign it. What Jeff did not know then: COVID was eighteen months away, and that culture work became the scaffolding that held the staff together through it. His principle: culture happens whether you plan it or not β and the culture that just happens is almost always toxic. Reinforcing Culture Through Specific, Public Recognition (14:06) One of Jeff's favorite applications of the culture statement was using it to publicly celebrate team members who lived it out. A staff member would call out a colleague by name, connect their action to a specific cultural value, and name it as a win for the whole team. Andrew ties this directly to a core leadership principle: values are reinforced not by posting them on a wall but by connecting them to real, specific actions in real time. Prayer as Relationship, Not Performance (16:15) Jeff spent twenty-one years on the board of the National Day of Prayer and worked with Harvest Prayer Ministries, and his most important insight about prayer is simple: the breakthrough came when he moved it out of the category of spiritual discipline and into the category of intimate relationship. He points to Jesus' instruction to pray in private rather than performing publicly β not a rule about location, but a call to authenticity. His practical counsel: if prayer does not feel natural, start by asking who you believe Jesus actually is, because your concept of who He is shapes whether talking to Him feels like love or obligation. The Pastoral Burnout Crisis: Why the Current Model Is Unsustainable (21:01) Jeff's diagnosis of the crisis in pastoral ministry is direct: the current model places too much emphasis on the pastor's personality, abilities, and draw, and not enough on the shared ministry of every member of the congregation. The result is burnout β pastors carrying full loads alone, feeling pressure to compete with megachurch platforms, with no one they can be honest with about struggling. He draws a line between the CEO model of church leadership and the shepherd model, arguing that when a church becomes primarily a personality platform, something essential is lost. The vast majority of American churches have two hundred members or fewer, and their pastors are feeling that model's weight without its resources. What Jeff's Father Taught Him: Just Love the People (28:05) Jeff's most formative mentor was his father β and some of the most important lessons came from watching what his father got wrong. His dad had a heart attack at forty-two because he carried the full weight of pastoral stress without close friendships, living by the prevailing wisdom of his generation: vulnerability in the church creates enemies. Jeff learned to build friendships, maintain hobbies, exercise, and protect his emotional health. But the most important thing his father ever told him was the simplest: "Jeff, when you pastor, just love the people. Just love the people." It sounded obvious at the time. It took years to understand how much it meant. Speed Round Highlights (32:10) Books & Resources Mentioned β’ Spiritual Leadership by Henry Blackaby & Richard Blackaby β Jeff's favorite definition of leadership: influence is not moving people where you want them; it's helping them get where God wants them β’ Culture Wins by William Vanderbloemen β The book Jeff's staff used to rebuild their culture in 2018 β which proved essential when COVID hit eighteen months later β’ Disciplines for the Inner Life by Bob Benson & Michael W. Benson β Out of print but findable β Jeff's most impactful non-Bible book; a treasury of short excerpts from classic Christian contemplative writers throughout the ages β’ Gods at War by Kyle Idleman β Jeff's current group read β a study on the modern idols that quietly compete for the center of a person's life β’ Mark Twain by Ron Chernow β Jeff's current personal read; a long biography he is working through slowly How to Support The Authentic Pastor β’ Know a pastor who is struggling or approaching burnout? Refer them to Jeff directly or point them to the resources at theauthenticpastor.com. β’ Encourage the pastors in your life β a word of genuine encouragement to a pastor can go further than you know. β’ Pray for Jeff and the Authentic Pastor ministry β he specifically named it as one of the most meaningful ways to support the work. Learn more or connect pastors with Jeff at theauthenticpastor.com Host & Show Info Host: Andrew Schory, Business Coach About the Host: Andrew Schory is a business coach dedicated to helping leaders build momentum through small, intentional actions. Each episode of the Small Stones Podcast features conversations with business and thought leaders to uncover the habits and decisions that move life and business forward β one small stone at a time. Podcast Website: smallstonespodcast.com Community β’ Rate & Review on Apple Podcasts β The most impactful way to support the show and help other listeners find it. β’ Work with Andrew: Interested in one-on-one or group business coaching? Visit smallstonespodcast.com to schedule a session. β’ Join the Mailing List: Get tools, insights, and episode updates at smallstonespodcast.com Share this episode with a pastor, a church leader, or anyone who is carrying more than they should be β and needs a reminder that the most important thing they can do may be the simplest: just love the people.

