Episode #14
#14: It's Not Your Fault: The Neuroscience of Why You Reach for Wine First
Your nervous system regulation shapes your relationship with alcohol long before childhood wiring ever shows up as a 5pm craving. If you grew up with a caregiver who was anxious, checked out, or unpredictable, your brain may have written a blueprint that says stay alert, don't relax, and gray area drinking becomes the first thing that turns that alarm system off. Kristin Horstman, certified Gray Area Drinking Coach and host of Sunsets Are the New Happy Hour, walks through neuroception and polyvagal theory, why alcohol free living starts with understanding your own nervous system, and how neuroplasticity means that wiring can change. She teaches Martha Beck's KIST, kind internal self-talk, framework and a specific vagal brake breathing practice you can use immediately to build new pathways. This episode is for the sober curious woman who keeps saying my childhood was fine while wondering why she can't stop reaching for the glass. Chapters: (00:00) Introduction (02:53) How Babies Borrow Their Caregiver's Habits (05:28) Neuroception: Your Hidden Danger Scanner (07:07) Why "Fine" Childhoods Still Wire You for Anxiety (09:25) KIST: Becoming Your Own Caregiver (14:38) The Vagal Brake Breath Practice (15:52) Closing: The Healing Is Yours Kristin teaches the 2-in 4-out vagal brake breath in this episode. Drop a comment when you try it for yourself, Did you feel something shift. If you're ready to feel better, think clearer, and brighten your life, you're in the right place. SUBSCRIBE for new episodes every week. As always, I'm rooting for you. WORK WITH KRISTIN HORSTMAN 1:1 Gray Area Drinking Coaching: https://www.kristinhorstman.com/gray-area-drinking-coaching Private Health Coaching: https://www.kristinhorstman.com/health-coaching FREE RESOURCES Substack: https://substack.com/@kristinhorstman Brighten Your Life Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/865785648653696 6 Tips To Brighten Your Life: https://www.kristinhorstman.com/6-tips-to-brighten-your-life Resources for Loved Ones of Those Struggling with Substance Use Disorder: https://www.kristinhorstman.com/resources CONNECT WITH KRISTIN HORSTMAN Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sunsetsarethenewhappyhour Personal Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/coachkristinhorstman Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/CoachKristinHorstman LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kristin-horstman-43001280 Website: https://www.kristinhorstman.com AFFILIATES & DISCOUNT CODES Zero Proof Experiences: https://zeroproofexperiences.com/?aff=4 Bookshop.org storefront: https://bookshop.org/shop/kristinhorstman ARMRA: https://tryarmra.novel.com/login?referralCode=de9ddb1e-9f9d-4c8a-ba43-21a30abb552e Jolene Park NOURISH Coaching Program: https://healthydiscoveries.mykajabi.com/a/35865/ihLPoJPC Jolene Park Ultimate Sober Bundle: https://checkout.grayareadrinkers.com/ultimate-sober-af-bundle/?affiliate=kristinhorstman Cured Nutrition: https://curednutrition.com/collections/all?referral_code=KRI2L0STF Loose Leaf Tea Market: https://looseleafteamarket.com?bg_ref=nwruvHn7oD Use code TEAKRISTIN10 for 10% off (no minimum, enter at checkout) Some links above are affiliate links. I may earn a small commission at no extra cost to you. I only recommend things I genuinely love.
