
The Aaron Renn Show
The Lost Art of Civil Disagreement | Jeff Worrell
Civility is not politeness, compromise, or “finding common ground.” In a polarized country—where fights over immigration, gender, public meetings, and online pile-ons feel existential—Aaron Renn talks with Carmel, Indiana city councilor and civic leader Jeff Worrell about what it actually takes to disagree hard without destroying the relationship. Worrell, founder of Project Civility, argues that it's possible to "bring the heat," but not burn the house down. They cover internal posture (goodwill, humility, compassion), seeking the larger story in the other person, “do no harm,” civil departure when a relationship is toxic, why institutions so often avoid real dissent, and how leaders can give people permission to disagree without becoming enemies. Visit Project Civility: https://www.projectcivility.com CHAPTERS: (00:00 Introduction) (01:52 What civility looks like when the country is deeply divided) (04:01 “How can you talk civility when the stakes are existential?”) (07:02 Does incivility work—and how do you avoid being a beautiful loser?) (11:30 How to respond when you’re personally attacked) (17:53 Disagreement gets a bad rap) (22:12 The principles: internal posture, the larger story, do no harm) (30:27 Advice for leaders—and staying positive about your community) CONNECT & FOLLOW AARON RENN: Twitter/X: https://x.com/aaron_renn Newsletter - In-depth cultural analysis: https://www.aaronrenn.com/

