The Asian Dating Podcast
Dating After 60s | Ep. 196
What does dating and lasting love look like in your 60s, 70s, and beyond?In this episode, Belle Gayer shares lessons about love, relationships, and marriage from the perspective of someone who has been married for more than 54 years. Belle discusses why failures can ultimately make us better and why she believes singles should prioritize meeting in person rather than spending too much time building a long-distance or virtual connection.The conversation explores what women in their 60s and 70s are looking for in a partner, why shared life experiences and basic compatibility matter, and Belle's interesting take on what a coffee date may signal about a man's level of interest.Belle also shares advice for women dating later in life, including being careful about giving trust too quickly, communicating without unnecessary conflict, remaining flexible, and understanding the importance of devotion and commitment.One of her biggest lessons is that both men and women need to listen more carefully and be honest, while allowing personal information and vulnerability to unfold in layers rather than revealing everything immediately.Finally, Belle and May discuss self-love and how it affects the people we choose. When we don't have a strong sense of self-worth, neediness can influence our relationships and potentially draw us toward the wrong partners. 0:00 Introduction to Belle Gayer, married for 54+ years 3:30 Failures make us better 6:31 Belle doesn’t believe in Long Distance Relationships 8:50 Let’s meet up in person after one talk 10:42 Ladies over 70s looking for love should withhold trust for a bit 15:16 What women in 60s and 70s want in a man 20:16 Coffee dates mean he’s on the fence about her 22:26 Same age, life experiences, basic compatibilities matter 22:09 Non conflict communication, focus on you, devotion/commitment, flexibility 27:50 Best tip for women in their 60s and 70s: men and women need to listen harder and be honest, reveal the info in layers 29:40 If you don’t have enough self-love, you will attract the wrong people, how do you develop it? 31:34 You are needy if you don’t have enough self-loveBelle Gayer is the author of ARE RELATIONSHIPS FOR SUCKERS?, based on 54 years with her beloved, distilled from seven years of sharing advice, insights, and practical wisdom on Quora.com with 34.5 million views and thousands of upvotes and compliments. She's won two Global Book Awards—1st place Gold in Self-Help Motivational and 3rd place Bronze in Self-Help Happiness—and amassed glowing 5-star reviews from readers and professional reviewers alike.Website: https://www.arerelationshipsforsucker... Quora Profile: https://www.quora.com/profile/Belle-G... Join The Best Asian Matchmaker’s Database Here: https://www.twoasianmatchmakers.com/p... Call May for help: (310) 867-0851Email: may@twoasianmatchmakers.comWebsite: www.twoasianmatchmakers.comFacebook Page: / twoasianmatchmakers Instagram: / matchmakermay Tiktok: / asianmatchmaker88 LinkedIn: / mayhui ABOUT THIS PODCAST: THE ASIAN DATING PODCASTWhat does Matchmaker May Do?You know how high-net-worth men are accomplished in their careers but too busy to date? They value time more than money, yet struggle to find meaningful connection. What I do is learn who they want to attract, screen the women for them, and make the introductions—so instead of wasting time, they meet the right woman and fall in love.May is the founder of Two Asian Matchmakers, a boutique matchmaking agency. Since 2009, May has helped successful men who appreciate Asian culture and value meaningful connection find their ideal Asian partner in the United States and Asia.May is a highly respected and active member of the Matchmakers Alliance and Global Love Institute in New York. AMAZON BEST SELLER Get my book, ‘A Roadmap For Single Asian Women’ here: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0C9L4CT87?...
