
Episode #217
Understanding After-School Meltdowns and Dysregulation in Autistic Children and Teens (Ep. 217)
After-school meltdowns don't always look like meltdowns. Some autistic children come home yelling, arguing, or provoking their siblings. Others head straight to their bedrooms and refuse to talk. And some follow Mom from room to room, asking repeated questions or needing constant reassurance. In this episode, Lisa Candera, The Autism Mom Coach, introduces three after-school patterns: the Collider, the Cocooner, and the Clinger. She explains how these patterns can change as autistic children grow into teenagers and young adults, and why understanding your child's pattern can help you recognize your own reactions before the afternoon goes off the rails. In this episode, you'll learn: How to recognize the three after-school patterns and what they may tell you about your child's dysregulation. Why after-school dysregulation can look like defiance, withdrawal, or excessive reassurance-seeking, particularly as autistic children enter adolescence. How to identify your own predictable responses to your child's behavior, whether that means correcting, pursuing, or repeatedly reassuring them. Before you decide how to handle the yelling, the slammed bedroom door, or the tenth question about Saturday, pay attention to what happens when your child gets home and what you do next. In the next episode, we'll tackle the practical question: What needs to happen now, and what can wait. Build Your Meltdown Action Plan (MAP) Live Workshop Want a plan for your child's meltdowns? Join Lisa for MAP Live on October 8 @ 7PM EST. In this 90-minute workshop, we'll identify YOUR triggers, understand your reactions, and build a personalized plan for what to do before, during, and after your child's meltdowns. You will walk away knowing what to do, and what not to do during a meltdown and a clear strategy for staying in control while your child is spinning out. Early bird: $10 until September 25 | regular pricing: $20. Register for MAP Live Here .

