
Episode #358
Turn the Coin Over: Finding Potential in Family Patterns — Judy Wilkins-Smith
What if some of the traits you've spent years trying to change aren't simply problems to solve? Returning guest Judy Wilkins-Smith joins Agnes for a different look at the patterns that travel through families — creativity, perfectionism, restlessness, independence, resilience and those inexplicable urges that seem to appear across generations. This time, the question isn't only Where did this come from? It's also What might I do with it? In this conversation: Why inherited family patterns aren't necessarily good or bad What perfectionism may look like when its energy is redirected Why Judy says action can lead to insight Creativity, restlessness and the urge to make something Starting something new when other people think you're “too old” Looking for family patterns beyond parents and grandparents What consciously and unconsciously travels through families How rejecting an earlier family behaviour can create a new pattern Why strong reactions can be clues worth investigating What changes when you “turn the coin over” and look for potential Along the way, Agnes introduces Judy to a determined great-grandmother, a possibly mythical Spanish princess and a family tendency that might best be summed up as: Oh no, we're doing this. This is a conversation about looking at your family — and yourself — with curiosity rather than rushing to decide what needs fixing. Learn more about Judy, find her prior episode and all her links at The Boomer Woman's Podcast.






