Episode #126
Fearless Feedback: Say What Needs to Be Said Without Damaging the Relationship | Katie O’Brien Ceccarini
How do you give difficult feedback without damaging trust? Katie O’Brien Ceccarini, author of Fearless Feedback: Everything Managers Have Never Been Taught About Feedback and founder of Endurance Management Coaching, brings two decades of experience leading, managing, and training teams. She shares how leaders can prepare for hard conversations, navigate emotional reactions, and say what needs to be said while preserving the relationship. Katie explains that fearless feedback starts before we ever choose the right words. It begins with our mindset, the strength of the relationship, and the intention we bring into the conversation. When we believe in the other person’s ability to grow, we are more likely to communicate with conviction, clarity, and care. She also shows us how to stay present when feedback brings up defensiveness, emotion, silence, or resistance. Instead of reacting to what we see on the surface, we can get curious about what may be happening underneath. We can acknowledge someone’s experience without abandoning the message, and we can refocus the conversation without turning it into a debate. When we strengthen our mindset, relationships, and delivery, we can give feedback with greater courage, build trust through difficult moments, and create conversations that help people grow. Key Takeaways: Prepare Your Mindset for Feedback: Explore how the beliefs you bring into a conversation can shape how your message is received. Strengthen the Relationship First: Consider how trust and safety can create a stronger foundation for honest feedback. Open the Conversation Well: Discover how a thoughtful headline can make difficult feedback easier to hear and engage with. Navigate Difficult Reactions: Examine how the HEAR framework can help you respond when feedback triggers defensiveness, emotion, or resistance. Make a Better Second Choice: Learn how noticing your first reaction can help you approach challenging feedback conversations with greater courage. Resources Mentioned The Inspire Your Team to Greatness assessment (the Courage Assessment ) - In less than 10 minutes, find out where you’re empowering and inadvertently kills productivity, and get a custom report that will tell you step by step what you need to have your team get more done. Get it here: https://courageofaleader.com/inspireyourteam/ You don't need to have all the answers to lead well. Get your copy of the Clarity Kit for just $17 to learn the five practices to bring more clarity, confidence and courage into your leadership - https://courageofaleader.com/the-clarity-kit/ About the Guest: Katie is a developer of people with two decades of experience leading, managing, and training teams. Her career spans early education, a decade at Yelp where she created and scaled all Customer Success training, and then as Head of Learning & Development at Opendoor she elevated employee onboarding and leadership development. She has the rare ability to bridge the gap between what HR and L&D leaders need and what actually lands with leaders in the business. In 2026, she published Fearless Feedback: Everything Managers Have Never Been Taught About Feedback , a practical guide that equips managers for the development and performance conversations that HR professionals depend on them to have. Today, Katie runs Endurance Management Coaching, partnering with organizations like eBay, Munchkin, Vital Farms, and PAN Communications to develop their managers and leaders. Over the past 20 years, she’s managed, trained, and developed thousands of people, and everything she teaches comes from real teams, real conversations, and real results. Katie’s leadership style is best described as human, with standards. She cares deeply and holds a high bar. When she’s not working, she’s getting dirty at the barn with her horse, training for triathlons, or hanging out with her son and husband in Denver. https://www.enduranceboss.com/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/katie-ceccarini About the Host: Amy L. Riley is an internationally renowned speaker, author and consultant. She has over 2 decades of experience developing leaders at all levels. Her clients include Cisco Systems, Deloitte and Barclays. As a trusted leadership coach and consultant, Amy has worked with hundreds of leaders one-on-one, and thousands more as part of a group, to fully step into their leadership, create amazing teams and achieve extraordinary results. Amy’s most popular keynote speeches are: The Courage of a Leader: The Power of a Leadership Legacy The Courage of a Leader: Create a Competitive Advantage with Sustainable, Results-Producing Cross-System Collaboration The Courage of a Leader: Accelerate Trust with Your Team, Customers and Community The Courage of a Leader: How to Build a Happy and Successful Hybrid Team Her new book is a #1 international best-seller and is entitled, The Courage of a Leader: How to Inspire, Engage and Get Extraordinary Results. http://www.courageofaleader.com https://www.linkedin.com/in/amyshoopriley Thanks for listening! Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it using the social media buttons on this page. Do you have some feedback or questions about this episode? Leave a comment in the section below! 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