The Gen Mess with Tess

Are generational divides in the workplace and in life driving you crazy? The Gen Mess with Tess is here to help! Hosted by Tess Brigham—certified coach, licensed therapist, TEDx speaker, author, and mom to a Gen Zer—this podcast tackles the challenges and complexities of navigating life and work across multiple generations. From the unique struggles of Gen Z to the evolving perspectives of Millennials, Gen X, and Baby Boomers, Tess brings her expertise to the table, offering practical advice, expert insights, and real conversations to bridge the generational gap. Whether you're trying to communicate better with colleagues, understand your kids, or just get a clearer perspective on the "mess" of it all, The Gen Mess with Tess is your go-to resource for understanding how different generations think, work, and live. Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferr

The Gen Mess with Tess is a business podcast hosted by Tess Brigham, with 79 episodes on record and a Required Pod Score of 80.

Tess Brigham hosts The Gen Mess with Tess, a business show with 79 episodes published.

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  Episode #80

  Ep 80: Reframe Your Relationship With Alcohol (guest: Vedant Pradeep)

  Sep 30, 202649 minS1

  For decades, there were two options when your drinking became a problem: a 12-step program or a residential treatment center. Both carries stigma, both requires a label, and neither fits the vast majority of people who weren't maybe physically addicted but were drinking more than they wanted to. In this episode, Tess sits down with Vedant Pradeep, co-founder of Reframe, an app for helping people reduce their alcohol intake or quit drinking altogether. With six million downloads and research partnerships at Emory and Harvard, Reframe was built on a simple but powerful idea: you have agency over your behavior, and the path to change is built through neuroscience, habit loops, and self-efficacy, not shame and labels. Vedant and Tess go deep on the 12-step model's core assumption, that you are powerless, and why it may be the very thing that keeps people stuck. They explore what it actually looks like when you stop avoiding triggers and start rewiring the loops underneath them. They also get into the surprising data on private drinking and loneliness in younger generations, why "Damp January" outperforms "Dry January" for lasting change, and what GLP-1 medications might do for addiction treatment the way SSRIs did for mental health. What listeners will learn: Why the 12-step model's self-efficacy problem may be keeping more people stuck than it helps The difference between the "I can't drink" identity and the "I don't drink" identity, and why one word changes everything What loneliness, boredom, and stress data reveal about why Gen Z is drinking more privately than publicly Why small experiments like Damp January outperform total abstinence commitments for most people, including a stat that may surprise you How to use an app as a diagnostic: what it means if you try to cut back and genuinely can't What the 66-day habit change science says about why 28-day insurance-covered programs often fail Reframe Med: how the app now connects users with naltrexone prescriptions for people whose cravings need more than behavioral change Why Vedant believes GLP-1 medications could do for addiction what Prozac did for depression CHAPTER TIMESTAMPS 00:00 Introduction: Who Is Vedant Pradeep and What Is Reframe 01:14 Origin Story: From OCD Research to Spotting a Gap in Alcohol Support 03:27 Why Reframe Chose Neuroscience Over the 12-Step Model 06:23 The Spectrum of Alcohol Use: Mindful Moderation vs. Abstinence 09:56 How Neural Pathways Drive Drinking Habits (And How to Rewire Them) 11:26 The Identity Shift: "I Don't Drink" vs. "I Can't Drink" 12:19 Gen Z, Loneliness, and the Rise of Private Drinking 17:07 The Moment That Starts Change: Relationship Crisis as Catalyst 22:10 Why Damp January Works Better Than Dry January for Most People 28:32 The Insurance Problem: Why 28-Day Programs Fall Short of the Science 35:12 What's Next for Reframe: Peak Human Condition and Reframe Med 43:00 GLP-1 Medications and the Future of Addiction Treatment GUEST AND RESOURCE CREDITS Guest: Vedant Pradeep, Co-Founder, Reframe App: Reframe available on iOS and Android Download/site: reframeapp.com Follow for weekly episodes, and be sure to visit tessbrigham.com to learn more about Tess's work as a licensed therapist and certified coach. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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  The Gen Mess with Tess

  Ep 79: Why Gen X Wears Not Caring Like a Badge of Honor

  Sep 23, 202613 min

  Ask a Gen Xer how they're doing and watch what happens. They'll say they're "fine." Somewhere along the way, a generation turned that into an identity, one that prides itself on low maintenance, toughness, and some who is never going to make a big deal out of anything. Host Tess Brigham makes the case that this isn't actually who Gen X is. It's who they had to become. And the real cost isn't the armor itself. It's what happened when they started wearing it like a medal. Drawing on research into latchkey kids, family systems theory, and Trevor Noah's concept that we can only dream in the shape of what we've actually seen, Tess unpacks where the "I don't need anything" posture came from, what it built, and how it impacts the day to day lives of Gen X and the people they care about. What listeners will learn: What the 1984 research on latchkey kids actually found, and why self-reliance wasn't a philosophy Gen X chose Why the "I don't care" posture isn't indifference, it's armor that had a very specific job at a very specific age Murray Bowen's family systems research on over-functioning, and why staying constantly capable is often about managing anxiety, not just being responsible Why Gen Z doesn't actually irritate Gen X The difference between a person who is genuinely at peace and a person who has gotten very good at not showing you the alternative A single reflection question to carry into the week CHAPTER TIMESTAMPS 00:00 Introduction + Dear Gen Mess Newsletter Announcement 01:32 What It Really Means to Say "I'm Fine": The Gen X Identity 02:00 The Research: Latchkey Kids and What Self-Reliance Actually Built 03:42 You Can Only Dream in the Shape of What You've Seen 05:18 The Armor: Why "I Don't Care" Was Never Indifference 06:45 Bowen's Family Systems Theory: Overfunctioning and the Anxiety Underneath It 08:15 Why Gen Z Irritates Gen X (It's Not What You Think) 09:24 What Gen X Actually Cares About — And Never Got Permission to Say 10:15 When Do You Get to Put the Armor Down? 11:00 The Reflection Exercise: A Question to Sit With This Week Listen now, and subscribe to The Gen Mess with Tess for weekly episodes. Follow for weekly episodes, and be sure to visit tessbrigham.com to learn more about Tess's work as a licensed therapist and certified coach. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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  Episode #78

  Ep 78: How Too Much Information Is Paralyzing Younger Generation (with guest Dr. Suzanne Degges-White)

  Sep 16, 202657 min

  There's a name for what a lot of young people are doing right now, and it's not laziness. Dr. Suzanne Degges-White calls it life shelving: the decision to put the big stuff on hold because the weight of choosing feels like too much. In this episode, Tess sits down with Dr. Degges-White, licensed counselor, professor of counselor education at Northern Illinois University, longtime Psychology Today contributor, and author of several books on relationships, including her upcoming title Was It Something I Said? Understanding Family Estrangement . With over two decades of teaching and clinical work, Dr. Degges-White brings a perspective on Gen Z that is both deeply researched and genuinely compassionate. What follows is a wide-ranging conversation about why this generation struggles to decide, what the infodemic is doing to young people's ability to think deeply, what Gen Z actually learned by watching millennials burn out, and what both sides of a family estrangement need to hear before it's too late. What listeners will learn: What life shelving is, why it's happening, and what it actually costs to keep delaying The infodemic effect: how drowning in information leaves people less equipped to make decisions, not more How identity development has shifted from adolescence to a decade-long process now expected to last until 26 or 28 Why public lives and public mistakes have made risk-taking feel unbearable for a generation What Gen Z is actually asking for at work, and why it looks like entitlement but isn't always What Gen Z saw when they watched millennials work themselves into the ground, and why their response makes complete sense The trophy generation debate: the science behind it was wrong, but the blame landed on the kids anyway The 10 unspoken rules of friendship, what happens when one gets broken, and why intergenerational friendships matter more than most people realize What Dr. Degges-White's research on family estrangement reveals about both the person who leaves and the one left behind CHAPTER TIMESTAMPS 00:00 Introduction: Who Is Dr. Suzanne Degges-White 00:58 Origin Story: Happenstance Theory and the Path to Northern Illinois 04:31 What Is Life Shelving? The Paradox of Choice and Why Young People Are Stalling 08:18 Why Feeling Stuck Feels Like a Personal Failure (And Why It Isn't) 09:30 The Infodemic Effect: Too Much Information, Not Enough Wisdom 11:18 Identity Development in 2026: Why Growing Up Now Takes Until 28 18:25 Public Lives, Public Mistakes: The Fear That Keeps People From Taking Risks 22:48 Gen Z in the Workforce: Self-Care Days, Deadlines, and the Entitlement Debate 27:03 The Push-Pull: Validating Gen Z While Still Holding a Standard 31:00 What Gen Z Learned From Watching Millennials Burn Out 40:36 Friendships: Toxic Patterns, Intergenerational Bonds, and the 10 Unspoken Rules 51:43 Family Estrangement: What the New Book Reveals About Both Sides Follow for weekly episodes, and be sure to visit tessbrigham.com to learn more about Tess's work as a licensed therapist and certified coach. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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  The Gen Mess with Tess

  Ep 77: Why Your Burnout Recovery Keeps Failing (Guest: Dr. Suzanne Bober)

  Sep 9, 202651 min

  The burnout conversation has been missing something. Not willpower, not better habits, not the right morning routine. What's actually missing is the body. In this episode, Tess sits down with Dr. Suzanne Bober, chiropractor, nervous system educator, and founder of the Infinite Balance Blueprint, whose 25 years of clinical work led her to one conclusion: burnout isn't a character flaw, a motivation problem, or a generational weakness. It's a nervous system at capacity. And no amount of rest, yoga, or time off changes that if nothing physiological changes first. Dr. Bober is the author of Burnout Rewired , which reframes the entire burnout conversation around what she calls cognitive overload and the science of nervous system expansion. Her core message is one most leaders and young workers have never heard: you don't need to be less ambitious. You need a system that can actually support how ambitious you already are. What you will learn: The difference between burnout and cognitive overload, and why that distinction changes how you treat it Why stress leaves and rest periods often fail: nothing physiological changes, so people return to the same environment and immediately overwhelm again Why Gen Z may be entering the workforce with the cup already three-quarters full before a single meeting What nervous system overload actually looks like in the body: tension patterns, shallow breathing, brain fog, digestive disruption, and immune suppression The electric car analogy: what it feels like to operate from expanded capacity instead of survival mode Why five minutes of stillness is physiologically different from scrolling (and why the phone is always going to win on comfort) The bed rotting trend decoded: what it actually tells us about the freeze stage of chronic stress What managers can do at the onboarding stage to change the trajectory before it becomes a retention problem Dr. Bober's four energy archetypes and where to find her free energy quiz CHAPTER TIMESTAMPS 00:00 Introduction: Who Is Dr. Suzanne Bober 00:58 Origin Story: From Chiropractic to Nervous System Education 02:48 Cognitive Overload vs. Burnout: Why the Language Matters 04:00 Signs Your Nervous System Is at Capacity (That Most People Miss) 08:48 How Stress Shows Up in the Body: Tension, Breathing, and Immune Suppression 13:05 Why Gen Z Enters Work With the Cup Already Full 14:31 You Don't Need Less Ambition. You Need a Bigger Nervous System. 22:37 Thrival vs. Survival: What Expanded Capacity Actually Feels Like 28:49 Where Your Energy Actually Is (And Why You Can't Access It) 33:16 Doing Less to Get More: Why Your Starting State Changes Everything 37:21 Mental Load, Present-Moment Focus, and Why Multitasking Is a Myth 41:28 Bed Rotting: What It's Really Telling Us About Gen Z Guest: Dr. Suzanne Bober, Chiropractor, Nervous System Educator, Founder of the Infinite Balance Blueprint Book: Burnout Rewired (contact Dr. Bober for a free chapter) Dr. Bober's Energy Quiz: https://thehub-api.mastermind.com/widget/quiz/6FP4OnNCOBAD3egZPgGu Learn more: https://harbourfrontchiropractic.com/dr-suzanne-bober Follow The Gen Mess with Tess for weekly conversations about generational challenges in the workplace and our daily lives. Visit tessbrigham.com to learn more. Follow for weekly episodes, and be sure to visit tessbrigham.com to learn more about Tess's work as a licensed therapist and certified coach. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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  The Gen Mess with Tess

  Ep 76: Why Authority Doesn't Work the Way It Used To

  Sep 2, 202613 min

  For most of modern work, being difficult was something leadership could get away with if they were brilliant enough. We didn't just tolerate the tortured genius, we romanticized them. And there was a logic to it. If someone controlled access to knowledge, skills, or connections you couldn't get anywhere else, you put up with them, because the trade was worth it. That trade is over. And most leaders haven't noticed yet. In this solo episode, Tess breaks down why the authority structures that ran workplaces for the last century are collapsing, and why Gen Z didn't cause the collapse; they're just the first generation willing to name it out loud. Exploring how we got into the organizational psychology framework behind the shift (French and Raven's bases of power), what the Harvard Business School trust triangle actually looks like in practice, and the one sentence that explains why so many leaders are struggling with their teams right now: they think they have a respect problem, when what they actually have is a trust problem. What you'll learn: Why expert power and legitimate power used to be enough on their own, and why they no longer are The "tortured genius" mythology and the unspoken deal it depended on Why Gen Z never agreed to the old deal, because there was nothing left in it for them by the time they arrived The trust triangle (Authenticity, Empathy, Logic) and what happens when one leg is missing Why leaders who reach for control when they lose deference make the problem significantly worse One concrete move for each leg of the trust triangle to try in your next one-on-one CHAPTER TIMESTAMPS 00:00 Introduction + Dear Gen Mess Newsletter Announcement 00:40 How Information Used to Be the Ultimate Currency at Work 02:24 The Tortured Genius Deal: Why We Romanticized Difficult Bosses 04:00 French and Raven's Bases of Power (And Why Two of Them Are Failing) 04:41 When Information Stops Being Scarce, Relationship Is All That's Left 06:00 You Don't Have a Respect Problem. You Have a Trust Problem. 07:00 Real Workplace Example: When Control Replaces Relationship 08:00 Gen Z Never Agreed to the Old Deal 09:45 The Trust Triangle: Authenticity, Empathy, and Logic 11:00 One Practical Move Per Trust Leg for Your Next One-on-One 11:36 The Bottom Line: What Leaders Actually Need Now Follow for weekly episodes, and be sure to visit tessbrigham.com to learn more about Tess's work as a licensed therapist and certified coach. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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