The Leader in You

The Leader in You podcast is brought to you by EmC Leaders, helping companies to master the art of relationships so they can spend less time on people issues and more time accomplishing their most important goals. We combine the science of attachment and emotional connection with insight from the last 20 years to overcome workplace conflict issues, build strong team relationships, and create a connected culture. Your hosts, Dr. Lola Gershfeld and Polina Marian.

The Leader in You is a society podcast hosted by Unknown Host, with 103 episodes on record and a Required Pod Score of 80. PitchCentric scores this show on Booking Probability, Listen Score, and live audience signals refreshed every 24 hours.

Unknown Host hosts The Leader in You, a society show with 103 episodes published.

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  Episode #104

  104. The Secure Leader Goes First: Dr. Jaime Goff on Vulnerability, Trust & Attachment at Work

  Aug 25, 202635 minS4

  What does it really mean to be a secure leader—and why does emotional connection matter so much when the pressure is on? In Episode 104 of The Leader in You , Dr. Lola Gershfeld and Polina welcome back Dr. Jaime Goff , author of The Secure Leader , for a powerful conversation about how attachment science can transform the way leaders build trust, navigate difficult conversations, and create stronger teams. Jaime shares how her background in psychotherapy and attachment theory led her into leadership and organizational development—and why emotional security isn’t simply about staying calm or confident. Secure leaders create relationships where people feel seen, heard, supported, and safe enough to be honest. Together, Lola and Jaime explore attunement, vulnerability, emotional accessibility, and relationship repair —including why validating someone’s experience doesn’t mean agreeing with them, how slowing down can reduce resistance, and why leaders sometimes need to be the first to show vulnerability. Jaime also shares a personal leadership story about facing an intimidating conversation with a senior colleague and former professor. Instead of hiding her anxiety behind authority, she named what she was feeling. The result? The other person softened, the conversation opened up, and Jaime experienced firsthand how attachment-based principles can change difficult workplace interactions. The conversation also explores how attachment styles influence the way we respond when we feel stressed or triggered, how negative cycles develop within teams, and why creating emotional safety has to begin with leadership. If you want to build a team that can stay connected—not just when things are going well, but when conversations become difficult—this episode offers a different way to think about what strong leadership really looks like. Connect with Dr. Jaime Goff: https://drjaimegoff.com/ The Leader in You is the go-to podcast for anyone who wants to create a workplace culture where teams can thrive. Envision a future where you are more grounded, confident, and in sync with your team. CONNECT: EmC Leaders Facebook Twitter LinkedIn YouTube Channel RESOURCES: TESA - TEAM EMOTIONAL SAFETY ASSESSMENT RESOURCES & DOWNLOADS CONFLICT RESOLUTION MASTER PROGRAM CONTACT US Connect with Dr. Lola Gershfeld: LinkedIn: Dr. Lola Gershfeld Instagram: @drlolaemc Connect with Polina Marian: LinkedIn: Polina Marian Instagram: @livewithfivekids Dr. Lola Gershfeld, a distinguished organizational psychologist, has dedicated her career to delving into the intricate layers of employee engagement, team dynamics, and wo...

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  Episode #103

  103. Why Conflict Isn’t Really About the Content: 5 Years of Emotional Connection

  Aug 19, 202637 minS4

  Five years after the original release of Emotional Connection , Dr. Lola Gershfeld and co-author Ramin Sedehi reunite to reflect on what they have learned about emotions, trust, leadership, and relationships—and celebrate the launch of the book’s second edition. At the heart of their conversation is a powerful idea: when conflict happens, we often focus on what was said, what happened, or who was right. But beneath the content is an emotional experience that is shaping how people react, protect themselves, and relate to one another. Ramin and Lola share the story behind Emotional Connection , how their own thinking has evolved over the past five years, and why emotional connection matters far beyond the workplace. They explore what it means to: Recognize the emotions underneath conflict rather than continually arguing about the content. Build trust by connecting with people at a deeper level than expertise, authority, or transactions. Create space for another person's emotions without immediately trying to fix the problem. Recognize the negative patterns that keep people disconnected. Regulate your own emotions so you can respond differently—even when the other person isn't ready to work on the relationship. Use emotional connection to strengthen relationships at work, at home, and throughout life. Dr. Lola also shares an important realization from her recent work: repairing a relationship doesn't always have to begin with two willing people. Sometimes one person, by changing how they regulate, respond, and create emotional safety, can begin changing the entire pattern between them. As Ramin puts it, work and life aren't separate worlds. It's all one life—and our ability to connect with one another shapes all of it. This episode is a celebration of five years of Emotional Connection , but even more, it's a conversation about what becomes possible when people feel valued, cared for, heard, and emotionally safe with one another. The Leader in You is the go-to podcast for anyone who wants to create a workplace culture where teams can thrive. Envision a future where you are more grounded, confident, and in sync with your team. CONNECT: EmC Leaders Facebook Twitter LinkedIn YouTube Channel RESOURCES: TESA - TEAM EMOTIONAL SAFETY ASSESSMENT RESOURCES & DOWNLOADS CONFLICT RESOLUTION MASTER PROGRAM CONTACT US Connect with Dr. Lola Gershfeld: LinkedIn: Dr. Lola Gershfeld Instagram: @drlolaemc Connect with Polina Marian: LinkedIn: Polina Marian Instagram: @livewithfivekids Dr. Lola Gershfeld, a distinguished organizational psychologist, has dedicated her career to delving into the intricate layers of employee engagement, team dynamics, and wo...

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  Episode #102

  Ep. 102 – Silence Isn’t Peace: What It Means When Teams Stop Talking

  Aug 15, 202627 minS4

  When someone on your team suddenly stops speaking up, stops pushing back, or simply nods along, it can be easy to assume everything is fine. But silence doesn’t always mean peace. Sometimes, silence is a sign of hurt, disconnection, or a relationship that no longer feels safe. In this episode of The Leader in You , Dr. Lola Gershfeld and Polina explore what workplace silence may really be communicating and why ignoring it can allow disconnection to deepen. They unpack the common conflict cycles of pursue–pursue, pursue–withdraw, and withdraw–withdraw—and show how one person’s silence can increase anxiety in another, creating a painful cycle that keeps both people stuck. You’ll also learn how leaders can begin re-engaging someone who has withdrawn without pressuring them to open up before they feel safe. Using the Emotional Connection (EmC) Process, Lola and Polina share three simple ways to begin rebuilding connection: Get curious about what has changed and gently ask what may be happening. Share how the disconnection impacts you while communicating care, concern, and the importance of the relationship. Respond safely when they begin to share by validating their experience rather than immediately trying to fix the problem. Because when someone goes quiet, the answer isn’t to ignore them—or push harder. It’s to create enough emotional safety for them to come back into the relationship. If someone on your team has gone quiet, this episode will help you understand what may be happening beneath the silence and how to begin reconnecting. The Leader in You is the go-to podcast for anyone who wants to create a workplace culture where teams can thrive. Envision a future where you are more grounded, confident, and in sync with your team. CONNECT: EmC Leaders Facebook Twitter LinkedIn YouTube Channel RESOURCES: TESA - TEAM EMOTIONAL SAFETY ASSESSMENT RESOURCES & DOWNLOADS CONFLICT RESOLUTION MASTER PROGRAM CONTACT US Connect with Dr. Lola Gershfeld: LinkedIn: Dr. Lola Gershfeld Instagram: @drlolaemc Connect with Polina Marian: LinkedIn: Polina Marian Instagram: @livewithfivekids Dr. Lola Gershfeld, a distinguished organizational psychologist, has dedicated her career to delving into the intricate layers of employee engagement, team dynamics, and wo...

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  Episode #101

  101. When Trauma Hits the Workplace: Helping Teams Heal and Move Forward

  Aug 6, 202630 minS4

  When trauma enters the workplace, leaders often focus on getting everyone "back to work." But what if the fastest path forward is helping people feel emotionally safe first? In this episode of The Leader in You , Dr. Lola Gershfeld and Polina Marian explore how leaders can help employees navigate loss, conflict, unexpected change, and other traumatic workplace experiences without leaving people emotionally stuck. Using real client stories, they discuss: How grief and trauma affect team performance Why unresolved emotional experiences keep employees stuck The difference between repairing a relationship and deciding it's time to part ways Why employees stop aligning with an organization's values—and what often happens first The subtle warning signs leaders frequently miss before conflict and turnover occur How the EmC Process helps teams process difficult experiences and reconnect Why emotional safety accelerates healing, engagement, and long-term performance Whether your organization is experiencing the loss of a colleague, organizational change, conflict, layoffs, or simply increasing disconnection, this conversation offers practical guidance for creating a workplace where people can heal, reconnect, and move forward together. Because sometimes the greatest leadership isn't solving the problem—it's creating enough safety for people to process it. Key Takeaways ✔ Trauma doesn't only happen outside of work—it can result from conflict, layoffs, sudden loss, or major organizational change. ✔ Employees often disengage because they are protecting themselves, not because they no longer care. ✔ Repairing relationships before making employment decisions creates healthier outcomes for everyone involved—even if someone ultimately leaves the organization. ✔ Early signs of disconnection are often subtle. Leaders who recognize them early can prevent unnecessary conflict and turnover. ✔ Emotional safety allows people to process difficult experiences, reconnect with others, and regain their ability to contribute. ✔ The strongest workplace cultures don't avoid difficult conversations—they create the safety needed to have them. The Leader in You is the go-to podcast for anyone who wants to create a workplace culture where teams can thrive. Envision a future where you are more grounded, confident, and in sync with your team. CONNECT: EmC Leaders Facebook Twitter LinkedIn YouTube Channel RESOURCES: TESA - TEAM EMOTIONAL SAFETY ASSESSMENT RESOURCES & DOWNLOADS CONFLICT RESOLUTION MASTER PROGRAM CONTACT US Connect with Dr. Lola Gershfeld: LinkedIn: Dr. Lola Gershfeld Instagram: @drlolaemc Connect with Polina Marian: LinkedIn: Polina Marian Instagram: @livewithfivekids Dr. Lola Gershfeld, a distinguished organizational psychologist, has dedicated her career to delving into the intricate layers of employee engagement, team dynamics, and wo...

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  Episode #100

  100. Stay Curious, Not Critical: How Curiosity Transforms Conflict into Connection

  Jul 30, 202636 minS4

  When conflict arises, our first instinct is often to become critical—of others, of ourselves, or of the situation. But what if the most powerful response isn't criticism at all? What if it's curiosity? In this milestone 100th episode of The Leader in You , Dr. Lola Gershfeld and Polina explore how curiosity transforms the way we experience conflict. Instead of reacting with blame, judgment, or defensiveness, emotional connection begins when we slow down and become curious about what's happening inside ourselves first. You'll learn why people struggle to share their emotions, how past experiences continue to shape present-day workplace relationships, and why emotional safety is essential before meaningful conversations can happen. Through real workplace examples, Dr. Lola demonstrates how understanding your own triggers creates empathy, reduces reactivity, and helps teams move from negative cycles to secure connection. In this episode, you'll discover: Why curiosity is more effective than criticism during conflict. How understanding your own triggers changes the way you communicate. Why past experiences continue to influence current workplace relationships. How emotional safety helps people become more open, accessible, and engaged. Why secure teams recover from conflict faster and navigate challenges together. A simple phrase that can immediately reduce misunderstanding: "I don't know exactly what's happening with me yet, but I know something is happening." Whether you're leading a team, navigating a difficult coworker, or trying to strengthen your relationships at work or at home, this episode will help you replace criticism with curiosity—and transform conflict into connection. Remember: Every conflict is an opportunity to learn something about yourself, the other person, and your relationship. Stay curious, not critical. That's where emotional connection begins. The Leader in You is the go-to podcast for anyone who wants to create a workplace culture where teams can thrive. Envision a future where you are more grounded, confident, and in sync with your team. CONNECT: EmC Leaders Facebook Twitter LinkedIn YouTube Channel RESOURCES: TESA - TEAM EMOTIONAL SAFETY ASSESSMENT RESOURCES & DOWNLOADS CONFLICT RESOLUTION MASTER PROGRAM CONTACT US Connect with Dr. Lola Gershfeld: LinkedIn: Dr. Lola Gershfeld Instagram: @drlolaemc Connect with Polina Marian: LinkedIn: Polina Marian Instagram: @livewithfivekids Dr. Lola Gershfeld, a distinguished organizational psychologist, has dedicated her career to delving into the intricate layers of employee engagement, team dynamics, and wo...

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