
The Manager Track
Giving Feedback as a Manager: The 3-Conversation Method (Ep 326)
Someone on your team does something you do not like. It is small, so you let it go. It happens again a few weeks later, and you let that one go too. By the third time, you are irritated, and now you are carrying six weeks of unspoken frustration into a thirty-minute feedback conversation. Even if you keep your cool, that pressure goes somewhere. Into your tone, your body language, sometimes the words you pick. Ramona calls this the most reliable way managers turn a manageable issue into a performance problem. Silence is not neutral. Every week you notice something and say nothing, you are teaching your team member that it is acceptable. In this episode, Ramona breaks one feedback conversation into three and gives the exact language for each one. The 90-second conversation that stops most performance problems from ever becoming performance problems The recovery move for when you already skipped the first two conversations and the review is next week Three research findings that explain why your direct report is genuinely surprised when you finally speak up If you have ever documented a problem privately for months and then watched someone say "this is the first I'm hearing of any of this," this episode is for you. Watch on YouTube: The Manager Track on YouTube — RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE — The Confident & Competent New Manager by Ramona Shaw, the source of the meetings example: amzn.to/3TuOdcP Kluger, A. N., and DeNisi, A. (1996). The effects of feedback interventions on performance. Psychological Bulletin. The meta-analysis covering 607 feedback incidents and over 23,000 observations. The invisible gorilla selective attention study by Christopher Chabris and Daniel Simons. The Leadership Accelerator, Archova's 12-week program for new and first-time managers: archova.org/leadership-accelerator Free masterclass for new managers: archova.org/masterclass — LINKS — Schedule a Leadership Strategy Call with Ramona HERE: https://calendly.com/ramonashaw/leadership-strategy-session Grab the free New Manager Toolkit mentioned in the episode: archova.org/freetoolkits Learn how to turn your 1-on-1 meetings from time wasters, awkward moments, status updates, or non-existent into your most important and valuable meeting with your directs all week. Learn more at: http://archova.org/1on1-course Grab your copy of Ramona's best-selling book 'The Confident & Competent New Manager: How to Rapidly Rise to Success in Your First Leadership Role': amzn.to/3TuOdcP — OTHER EPISODES YOU MIGHT LIKE — Episode 124 – Giving Feedback: 3 Common Mistakes Episode 286 – The End of “Nice Leadership”: How to Be Direct, Kind, and Respected Episode 292 - Performance vs Potential: A Better Approach to Assessing Your People — WHAT'S NEXT? — Learn more about our leadership development programs, coaching and workshops at archova.org. Grab your copy of Ramona's best-selling book 'The Confident & Competent New Manager: How to Rapidly Rise to Success in Your First Leadership Role': amzn.to/3TuOdcP Want to better understand your leadership style and patterns? Take our free quiz to discover your Manager Archetype and learn how to play to your strengths and uncover your blind spots: archova.org/quiz Are you in your first manager role and don't want to mess it up? Watch our FREE Masterclass and discover the 4 shifts to become a leader people love to work for: archova.org/masterclass Love the podcast and haven't left a review yet? All you have to do is go to ramonashaw.com/itunes and to our Spotify Page, and give your honest review. Thanks for your support of this show! If this episode inspired you in some way, take a screenshot of you listening on your device and post it to your Instagram Stories, and tag me @ramona.shaw.leadership or DM me on LinkedIn at linkedin.com/in/ramona-shaw * Disclaimer: Shownotes may contain affiliate links. That means that I am awarded a small commission for purchases made through them, at no added cost to you.

