The Original Self Podcast

The Original Self Podcast explores the psychology of resilience, identity, and meaningful personal change. Hosted by life coach Evet DeCota, a psychology-informed life coach, each episode blends real-life insight, coaching perspective, and practical mindset shifts that help you reconnect with who you truly are. Through honest conversations and reflections about confidence, habits, self-doubt, and growth, this podcast invites you to return to the version of yourself that has always been there beneath the noise.

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  Episode #27

  The People We Carry: How Relationships Shape What We Notice

  Aug 17, 202624 minS1

  Some people leave us with memories. Others quietly change the way we see our own lives. After cutting Loren's hair every six weeks for sixteen years, Evet came to recognize his unusual gift: he knew how to live inside an ordinary moment. Whether he was eating a sandwich in a crowded deli, sharing music, debating an opinion, or lingering in conversation after a haircut, Loren paid attention long enough for the experience to matter. In this episode, Evet pairs Loren's story with research on mind wandering and positive psychology's concept of savoring. She explores the difference between simply having a positive experience and allowing ourselves to fully receive it. She also looks at dampening, the habit of minimizing or stepping away from something good because caring deeply can make us feel vulnerable. Through friendship, music, loss, and remembrance, Loren left Evet with a gentler reframe. The goal is not to appreciate every second perfectly. It is to ask: Can I stay for one more beat? Can I let something good reach me before I explain it away? Episode 26 is a reflection on attention, the people who shape us, and the ordinary moments that are not interruptions to life. They are life. In This Episode · Why our minds can be somewhere else even when our bodies are present · How savoring differs from mindfulness · The ways we amplify or dampen positive experiences · Why fully receiving joy can make us feel vulnerable · How reminiscence allows past experiences to create meaning in the present · The relationships that quietly change how we notice our own lives A Question to Carry With You Who taught you how to notice your own life, and what part of the way they lived has quietly become part of the way you live? About Evet DeCota Evet DeCota is the founder of DeCota Life Coaching and host of The Original Self Podcast. She is an International Coaching Federation Associate Certified Coach (ICF ACC) and holds a B.A. in Psychology. Her work is informed by positive psychology, behavior change, emotional regulation, and the belief that growth begins by reconnecting with who we truly are. For almost forty years, Evet has also worked behind a salon chair as a hairstylist and salon owner. That experience shaped her understanding of identity, resilience, relationships, and the stories people carry. She was voted Best Life Coach 2026 by Pacific Sun. Connect With Evet Website: https://www.decotalifecoaching.com Email: decotalifecoaching@gmail.com Podcast: Listen to The Original Self Podcast wherever you listen to podcasts, or watch on YouTube. Coaching: Visit the website to learn more about coaching with Evet and to schedule a discovery call.

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  Episode #25

  Why We Seek Validation: The Psychology of Feeling Seen | The Original Self Podcast

  Aug 3, 202616 minS1

  In this episode of Lessons from Behind the Chair, Evet shares stories from nearly forty years behind the salon chair to explore validation, attention, reassurance, and the quiet ways we seek to feel seen. From repeated selfies to interrupted conversations, she examines how external reassurance, phone distractions, and indirect communication shape our relationships—and asks whether lasting confidence can ever come from someone else. • Why repeated reassurance often points to something deeper. • How phone distractions change conversations. • What 'phubbing' is and why it matters. • The difference between being seen and feeling seen. • Why curiosity is often more helpful than judgment. Research & Psychology Mentioned • External validation • Self-objectification • Phubbing • Conversational reciprocity • Conflict avoidance Reflection Questions • Where do you most often look for reassurance? • When do you feel most present with another person? • What helps reassurance become self-trust? About the Host Evet DeCota is an Associate Certified Coach (ACC), psychology graduate, longtime hairstylist, and founder of DeCota Life Coaching. After nearly four decades listening to people's stories from behind the chair, she now combines psychology, coaching, and lived experience to explore resilience, identity, behavior change, and authentic human connection through The Original Self Podcast. Connect with Evet Website: decotalifecoaching.com Email: decotalifecoaching@gmail.com

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  Episode #24

  You Cry, I Cry: What Women Facing Cancer Taught me About Presence

  Jul 30, 202616 minS1

  Hair can be one of the first visible losses during cancer treatment, but the deeper experience is often one of identity, grief, and learning to recognize yourself through profound change. In this deeply personal episode of The Original Self Podcast: Lessons from Behind the Chair, Evet shares two unforgettable stories from nearly forty years as a hairstylist. One begins with shaving her sister-in-law's head before chemotherapy. The other follows a woman whose hair grew back—but no longer felt like her own. Through these experiences, Evet explores the psychology of identity, transition, and human connection, revealing why the most meaningful thing we can offer another person isn't always advice or answers—it's our presence. Topics include: • Anticipatory grief • Rites of passage and transitions • Disenfranchised grief • Identity continuity • The power of presence over fixing • Coaching through uncertainty Psychology & Research Referenced: • Pauline Boss — Ambiguous Loss • Arnold van Gennep — The Rites of Passage • Nancy Schlossberg — Transition Theory • Kenneth Doka — Disenfranchised Grief • Erik Erikson — Identity development and continuity Website: decotalifecoaching.com Email: decotalifecoaching@gmail.com Listen wherever you enjoy your favorite podcasts.

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  Episode #23

  The Version of Us Stress Reveals

  Jul 23, 202627 minS1

  This episode begins a new chapter of The Original Self Podcast. Topics include: • Stress responses • Expectation violations • Attachment and belonging • Identity threat • Nervous system regulation • Reacting vs. responding • Curiosity over judgment The real question isn't, 'What's wrong with this person?' It's, 'What might this person be trying to protect?' Website: decotalifecoaching.com Email: decotalifecoaching@gmail.com Listen wherever you enjoy podcasts. Research Referenced Lazarus & Folkman – Stress Appraisal Theory Daniel Kahneman – Fast and Slow Thinking Carl Rogers – Curiosity Dan Siegel – Window of Tolerance Stephen Porges – Polyvagal Theory Identity Threat Theory Social Identity Theory Attachment Theory

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  Episode #22

  Coming Home: Learning to Trust Yourself Again

  Jul 19, 202619 minS1

  Evet DeCota is the owner of DeCota Life Coaching and a psychology-informed life coach exploring resilience, mindset, and the courage to become your authentic self. Between the salon chair and the coaching session, she's spent years watching people move through life in patterns they rarely notice. This is it, the final episode of A Psychology of Food. Eight episodes ago, this series opened with a question: what happened to us around food? Episode 22 turns that question around and asks it the other way. Who were you before you were taught how to be around food? This episode is about the practice of finding out, and about learning to trust the answer. In this episode, you'll learn: ● The practical difference between physical hunger and emotional hunger, and where each one tends to register in the body ● Why undereating during the day can produce something that feels exactly like emotional hunger by evening, and why that isn't a willpower problem ● What interoceptive awareness is, and why researchers Evelyn Tribole and Elyse Resch describe it as something close to a superpower ● Kristin Neff's three components of self-compassion, and why self-compassion is the actual condition that makes listening to your body possible ● Why comfort eating was never the enemy this series was describing, and where the real concern actually lies ● Evet's own closing reflection, including her experience with a GLP-1 medication, what it did and didn't do, and what coming home to herself has looked like This episode marks the final chapter of A Psychology of Food, an eight-episode series exploring the systems, biology, and psychology that shape our relationship with food. Thank you for listening to the whole arc. Contact Evet / DeCota Life Coaching Website: decotalifecoaching.com Email: decotalifecoaching@gmail.com Phone: 415-548-1964

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