Episode #129
How You'll Know You Were A Good Dad - Ian Grant & Conor O'Keeffe - 129
Fatherhood, masculinity and what it actually takes to be a good man and a good person, with powerlifting coach Ian Grant and Alter Fuel founder Conor O'Keeffe. Three fathers discuss the boundaries we set that our kids never see, what to tell your partner versus what to carry alone, what makes a good person and a good man, agency versus victimhood, why systems beat willpower and much more. Dan: @thedancampion Get your FREE copy of 20 Books and Podcasts to Change Your Life: https://mailchi.mp/prymal/bookspodcasts Chapters: 00:00:01 Introductions 00:03:42 The Real Question: What Makes A Good Life 00:09:19 Standards, Mirrors and Raising Likeable Kids 00:19:26 The Walled Garden: Freedom Inside A Boundary You Don't See 00:23:30 Teaching A Skill Once, Then Stepping Back 00:51:23 Standing On The Shoulders Of Giants 00:57:38 What Dan's Parents Got Right, and Overdid 01:01:12 Ian On His Absent Father and His Mother's Flip 01:08:11 Kids Mimic What You Do, Not What You Say 01:17:22 Masculinity In Service Of Something Bigger Than Yourself 01:30:30 Would You Tell Your Wife If You Had Cancer? 01:34:42 Victim Or Responsible: The Social Media Question 01:39:25 Drink Responsibly, Scroll Responsibly 01:46:31 Should Kids Be Banned From Social Media 02:06:47 The Privilege Of A Hard Start 02:09:07 What You Tell Your Partner, and What You Carry Alone 02:17:17 The Cease and Desist Letter and the Miscarriage 02:27:29 Leave Your Runners By The Bed 02:30:17 The Way You Talk To Yourself 02:36:18 Closing Reflection and Where To Find Them
