The Self-ish Me Podcast

Self-ish Me is for women who spent years ticking all the right boxes in life, only to realise it never quite felt like theirs. Whether it is burnout, a life transition, or a quiet sense that something is missing — Self-ish Me is a resource and community that empowers women to put themselves first. Because starting with yourself is not selfish, it’s powerful. Our host Kamila Turek is a business psychologist, coach, and self-confessed late bloomer. This podcast is built on 8 years of personal experimentation, after burnout forced Kamila to rebuild her life from scratch. You will find science-backed research on psychology and behaviour change, and tested frameworks that Kamila used to build a life aligned with her own values, instead of someone else’s expectations. Join Kamila every Thursday for honest conversations and practical tools, plus one monthly expert conversation with psychologists, coaches, and women leaders to discuss how you can stop l

The Self-ish Me Podcast is a society podcast hosted by Kamila Turek, with 33 episodes on record and a Required Pod Score of 80. PitchCentric scores this show on Booking Probability, Listen Score, and live audience signals refreshed every 24 hours.

Kamila Turek hosts The Self-ish Me Podcast, a society show with 33 episodes published.

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  Episode #31

  Values and Decision Making: The Compass You Never Chose

  Aug 12, 202612 minS3

  We all make decisions based on something, most likely our values. But what if we told you the values running your biggest decisions were never yours to begin with? They might be coming from your parents', your culture's, or your religion's, values you inherited so early you never thought to question whether they were actually yours. This week, Kamila unpacks values and decision making as her personal framework for navigating hard choices, sparked by a listener question on burnout recovery. It's part of her wider work on untangling societal conditioning from the choices that are actually yours. You will walk away with: A three-question exercise to identify your own top five values, fast and without overthinking How to spot which of your "values" are conditioning in disguise, and which are genuinely yours A reframe of burnout recovery as a forced pause rather than a personal failure A repeatable way to use values and decision making together as your internal compass for whatever comes next Kamila is a Business Psychologist and coach whose work centres on reclaiming personal power and practical tools for women navigating change. Press play if you are ready to put values and decision making into practice in your own life. This podcast is for women in the middle of rewriting their own story, looking for honest, research-backed conversations across relationships, sexuality, career and health. You will learn how to separate conditioning from choice, know what is truly yours, and build a life that actually feels like it belongs to you. Connect with Kamila Insta @coachingwithkam Email Hello@selfishme.co.uk LinkedIn Kamila Turek | LinkedIn

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  Episode #31

  The Messy Middle: Why Change Feels Like Failing

  Aug 5, 202611 minS3

  Whether the change you are making is big or small, there is a messy middle waiting for you, full of doubt, low confidence, and uncertainty. It can make you feel like you are failing, or like you should have stayed with what you knew, the old job, the home, the friendship, the relationship, the belief. But deep down you knew it was no longer serving you, and that is why you chose to change. Today, Kamila takes you through the part of change nobody talks about, the messy middle, using Lewin's three stage model, unfreeze, change, refreeze, to explain why it exists. She is speaking from inside it herself, five days into moving from London to Nairobi. You will walk away with: A simple framework for understanding why the messy middle exists and feels so uncomfortable Permission to grieve what you are letting go of, even when you chose the change Practical tools for self-discovery that rebuild self trust when confidence dips One or two grounding habits to anchor you when everything else feels uncertain Kamila is a Business Psychologist and coach with ten years in learning and development, bringing that lens to her own experience of the messy middle. Press play if you need someone to tell you that what you are feeling is normal, and that you are not failing, you are becoming. This podcast is for women in the middle of rewriting their own story, looking for honest, research-backed conversations across relationships, sexuality, career and health. You will learn how to separate conditioning from choice, know what is truly yours, and build a life that actually feels like it belongs to you. If you would like more practical ways to boost your joy and happiness, check out this episode: https://open.spotify.com/episode/001BaK7DXAcV3FlU2gSvi3?si=GPXRgKzRRTePk4LSCf4xKA Connect with Kamila Insta @coachingwithkam Email Hello@selfishme.co.uk LinkedIn Kamila Turek | LinkedIn

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  Episode #30

  Women's Careers and Relationships: Define Success Your Way

  Jul 29, 202649 minS3

  You can be lonely in a relationship and happy single. You can take a step back in your career and feel more like yourself than ever. The world has a script for what success looks like for women, and this episode is about tearing it up. Alice helps people get brave enough to define success on their own terms and actually go after it. As a TEDx speaker, keynote and facilitator who has worked with teams at Google, Deliveroo and Tesco, she brings that same spirit of women's empowerment and honesty about women's careers, motherhood and navigating relationships to this conversation with Kamila. Nothing is off limits. You will walk away with: A reframe on why staying in the wrong relationship (or the wrong role) is conditioning, not weakness How Alice turned a career demotion into the pivot that changed everything, by choosing authenticity over the safe path What trade-offs in motherhood and women's careers can look like when you stop following someone else's timeline A self-compassion practice rooted in gratitude that the research says actually makes you happier Why showing up as yourself, online and at work, is both the bravest and most strategic thing you can do In this episode, Kamila also shares her own experience of walking away from a seven-year relationship, freezing her eggs to take the pressure off the biological clock, and stepping back from career momentum for burnout recovery and to prioritise her own wellbeing. Alice brings her own version of that story: how staying too long in the wrong relationship, a demotion at Deliveroo and the courage to finally define success on her own terms became the beginning of a completely new chapter, and the fuel for everything that followed, including the TEDx stage. This podcast is for women in the middle of rewriting their own story, looking for honest, research-backed conversations across relationships, sexuality, career and health. You will learn how to separate conditioning from choice, know what is truly yours, and build a life that actually feels like it belongs to you. Connect with Kam Insta @coachingwithkam LinkedIn Kamila Turek | LinkedIn Connect with Alice Website www.badassunicorn.co.uk , LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/alice-ter-haar/

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  Episode #3

  Anxiety Red Flags: Recovering After You Miss Them

  Jul 22, 202614 minS29

  You can know every one of your own anxiety red flags and still miss the exact moment you needed to stop. Kamila unpacks the months that led to her taking sick leave, a relocation, family news, physical illness, and one stressful event after another, until catastrophic thoughts convinced her she was about to lose everything she had built. This episode looks at what happens when you miss your own warning signs, and what it actually takes to help an overwhelmed nervous system recover afterwards. She shares Cognitive Restructuring, the CBT technique she used to challenge her anxious brain and separate the story from the evidence, why burnout recovery means actively helping your nervous system out of fight or flight, and why noticing anxiety red flags early does not always mean you will act on them in time, especially when an old belief is quietly shaping when and how you respond to them. You will walk away with: A simple two question technique to interrupt catastrophic thinking How to recognise your own anxiety red flags before they escalate Why an old belief can shape when and how you act on your own warning signs What it actually takes to help an overwhelmed nervous system recover Kamila is a Business Psychologist and coach with a decade of experience in Learning and Development. At the end of the episode, she finally shares why she is moving to Kenya. Press play before your next red flag goes unnoticed. This podcast is for women in the middle of rewriting their own story, looking for honest, research-backed conversations across relationships, sexuality, career and health. You will learn how to separate conditioning from choice, know what is truly yours, and build a life that actually feels like it belongs to you. Connect with Kamila Insta @coachingwithkam Email Hello@selfishme.co.uk LinkedIn Kamila Turek | LinkedIn

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  Episode #28

  Burnout Recovery: Who Are You Without the Milestones

  Jul 15, 202610 minS3

  Most of us never agreed to the life milestones. We inherited them, through fairy tales, family comments, and the quiet pressure of 'when are you getting married?', and then spent years measuring our worth against a script we did not choose. In this episode, I am sharing how chasing a borrowed version of success, the career, the relationship status, the milestones that make a life look 'right' from the outside, led me to burnout. And how therapy, and eventually a move to Kenya at 38, helped me start writing my own story instead. You will walk away with: A name for the invisible script running underneath your choices A new lens on burnout, as an identity crisis, not just overwork Permission to question the milestones you thought you wanted This episode is for anyone who has ever felt behind on a timeline they did not write. Kamila is a Business Psychologist and coach with decade of experience in Learning and Development. If overcoming societal expectations and finally choosing your own life sounds like the conversation you need right now, press play. This podcast is for women in the middle of rewriting their own story, looking for honest, research-backed conversations across relationships, sexuality, career and health. You will learn how to separate conditioning from choice, know what is truly yours, and build a life that actually feels like it belongs to you. Connect with Kam Insta @coachingwithkam Email Hello@selfishme.co.uk LinkedIn Kamila Turek | LinkedIn

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