The Unburdened Leader

Meet leaders who recognized their own pain, worked through it, and stepped up into greater leadership. Each week, we dive into how leaders like you deal with struggle and growth so that you can lead without burnout or loneliness. If you're eager to make an impact in your community or business, Rebecca Ching, LMFT, will give you practical strategies for redefining challenges and vulnerability while becoming a better leader. Find the courage, confidence, clarity, and compassion to step up for yourself and your others--even when things feel really, really hard.

The Unburdened Leader is a education podcast hosted by Rebecca Ching, LMFT, with 161 episodes on record and a Required Pod Score of 80. PitchCentric scores this show on Booking Probability, Listen Score, and live audience signals refreshed every 24 hours.

Rebecca Ching, LMFT hosts The Unburdened Leader, a education show with 161 episodes published.

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  Episode #161

  EP 161: Why High Performers Don’t Always Make a High-Performing Team with Jamie Shapiro

  Aug 14, 20261 hour

  What does connection mean to you? How do you know when you're feeling connected? Connection is foundational to building trust, and trust is an essential quality that any team or relationship needs to grow. Yet in many relationships, both personally and professionally, we tolerate disconnection. We miss the early signals of missed deadlines, the subtle cues of quiet resentment, and the team that’s compliant and even productive, but not engaged. Until disconnection creates the distrust, the dis-ease, and the erosion of psychological safety that, left unchecked, hijacks even the strongest relationships, teams, and organizations. Leaders and their teams need to not only learn to identify markers of disconnection early, but to also develop the skills to repair it. The goal isn’t a team that never ruptures. It’s a team that knows how to reconnect. That’s why I’m so excited to talk with my guest today about her work that integrates well-being science, positive psychology, and systems-level leadership to help organizations uncover what it takes to build connected, thriving teams where well-being and high performance can truly coexist. Jamie Shapiro, PhD, is a Keynote Speaker, Master Certified Executive Coach, organizational psychologist, researcher and the CEO of Connected EC. Jamie’s approach blends science, strategy, and lived leadership experience to her work with CEOs and executive teams navigating growth, complexity, and cultural transformation. Jamie is the author of Brilliant: Be the Leader Who Shines Brightly Without Burning Out and Connected Culture: The New Science for Thriving Teams and Cultures . She is also the founder of the Leader and Organization Vitality (LOV) Center, a research institute that advances the science of leadership vitality, culture, and performance and bridges the gap between research and real-world practice. Listen to the full episode to hear: How Jamie’s personal experience with cycles of burnout in the corporate world informs her research and coaching practice The physical, mental, and emotional impacts of trust and connection on teams Why Jamie’s model for thriving teams has trust, care, and connection at its core What corporate culture consistently gets wrong about candid communication and the number one way to improve it What we can learn from chickens about building high-performing teams How psychological safety and connection positively drive performance Learn more about Jamie Shapiro: Connected EC Connect on LinkedIn Brilliant: Be The Leader Who Shines Brightly Without Burning Out Connected Culture: The New Science for Thriving Teams and Cultures Learn more about Rebecca: rebeccaching.com Work With Rebecca The Unburdened Leader on Substack Sign up for the weekly Unburdened Leader Email Resources: Links The Gifts of Imperfection , Brené Brown Loneliness: Human Nature and the Need for Social Connection , John T Cacioppo and William Patrick The Neuroscience of Trust, Paul J. Zak | Harvard Business Review The Fearless Organization: Creating Psychological Safety in the Workplace for Learning, Innovation, and Growth , Amy C. Edmondson Right Use of Power Institute Shaping Power for Good: Wayfinding to Right Relationship , Amanda Aguilera Super-Chicken Model Just One Word: The Surprisingly Simple Method to Discover Your Purpose and Unleash Your Power , Erin Weed ILLENIUM Off Campus Voicemails for Isabelle Sixteen Candles Chapters: (00:22) - Introduction (07:33) - New Book and Career Pivot (11:33) - Support Systems (13:38) - Burnout to Vitality Research (16:10) - Trust Fuels Team Energy (21:29) - Connection Model and Accountability (24:36) - Defining candid communication (27:59) - Psychological Safety Reframed (30:00) - Listening and Power Dynamics (32:58) - High Performer Chicken Study (37:46) - From Doing To Being (41:21) - Safety Versus Accountability Myth (48:30) - Defining Leadership (49:52) - Quick Fire Questions (55:51) - How to Connect (56:35) - Closing Thoughts

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  Episode #160

  EP 160: Hiding Doesn't Keep You Safe: Mike Ganino on Visibility and Storytelling

  Jul 31, 20261h 2m

  When the stakes rise and more is on the line, everything about visibility shifts –– what it means, what it costs, and what it asks of you. And if you ever experienced bullying, relational trauma, betrayal, or abuse, visibility can be more than just awkward or uncomfortable. Unprocessed echoes of those burdens can make the past feel like it is happening in the present. We have to do the work of building more trust within, getting clear on who and what really matters, and learning to follow our values even when we do not know the results. As my guest today reminded me, when we go silent, we may feel safe, but our voices are not out there, and others will step in to define the direction of conversations and the topics that matter most to us. Showing up and letting people see and hear you isn’t always easy, but with practice and courage, we can reshape the narratives we carry about ourselves and our visibility. Mike Ganino works with professional speakers, keynote speakers, and executives to help them create transformative speaking experiences worthy of standing ovations. As a keynote director with a background as an actor, writer, director, producer, hospitality executive, and corporate trainer, Mike learned to view storytelling and performance from the audience’s perspective and uses these insights and experiences to help his clients develop talks and performances that go beyond just wowing the audience to truly transform their thinking. Listen to the full episode to hear: How a fourth-grade substitute teacher showed Mike the power of making people feel seen Why getting comfortable with visibility requires us to address the relational wounds that have kept us quiet What we can learn from actors about the choices we make as we show up and interact with others Why developing as a speaker is a physical practice before it’s an intellectual practice Two essential elements for telling an effective story How fears of losing status and being misunderstood keeps us from showing up for ourselves and others Learn more about Mike Ganino: https://mikeganino.com/ Instagram: @mikeganino Facebook: @mikeganino Connect on LinkedIn Make a Scene: Storytelling, Stage Presence, and the Art of Being Unforgettable in Every Spotlight Learn more about Rebecca: rebeccaching.com Work With Rebecca The Unburdened Leader on Substack Sign up for the weekly Unburdened Leader Email Resources: The Face: A Natural Histor y, Daniel McNeill Ariana Grande E.T. the Extra-Terrestrial Chapters: (00:43) - Introduction (08:36) - Fourth Grade Lessons (13:28) - Healing Through Visibility (16:59) - Safe Reps on Video (21:40) - Authenticity vs Performance (25:29) - Questioning the 'new and fresh' (28:59) - Top Visibility Blocks (31:24) - Gendered Speaking Habits (37:36) - Storytelling For an Integrated Life (41:05) - Status Loss and Feedback (45:45) - Who you take notes from matters (49:56) - Inner Child And Leadership (50:51) - Defining Leadership (52:00) - Embracing the Complexities (53:56) - Rapid Fire (58:05) - Making Connections (59:00) - Closing Thoughts

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  Episode #159

  EP 159: MILCK on Self-Trust, Healing, and Creative Leadership

  Jul 17, 20261h 8m

  A lot of people feel like they know who they're supposed to be, how they're supposed to show up, and what they're supposed to value, and they assume those things come from themselves instead of external influences. But we all have internalized beliefs and expectations from others, our culture, and the systems we live in. It takes a beat, sometimes a long one, to get clear on who you actually are and what is actually important to you. It requires building the kind of deep self-trust that allows you to act from your values even when the world is suggesting otherwise. And if you carry relational wounds or other interpersonal or socio-cultural burdens, those experiences can slow down or block your capacity to deepen self-trust, trust in others, grow in courage, and fully inhabit your whole story. That is not a character flaw. It is a developmental reality. My guest today models what becomes possible when you stop performing the version of yourself the world approved of and start trusting yourself and leading from that space. She is building a career and a creative practice rooted in self-trust and values alignment, and she is far from done. MILCK, born Connie K. Lim, is a self-proclaimed gentle rebel whose artistry and advocacy is fueled by her music. Her breakout anthem “Quiet” became a global sensation, championing women’s rights and resonating with movements around the globe. MILCK has collaborated with notable artists such as John Legend, Natasha Bedingfield, Phillipa Soo, Ani DiFranco, Aloe Blacc, and LeAnn Rimes, blending soulful melodies with poignant, socially conscious lyrics. Beyond the recording industry, MILCK is expanding her creative reach into musical theater, advocacy, and mentorship; MILCK and artists Sam Chanse, Jess Mcleod, and AG have partnered with La Jolla Playhouse to develop The Family Album , an award-winning seriocomedy musical. Inspired by MILCK's life journey, the musical explores themes of healing and family. Listen to the full episode to hear: How “Quiet” began as a means to process her own story and turned into an anthem How personal, creative, and therapeutic supports came together to help Connie find her truth and her voice and connect with audiences The discouragement of her dreams Connie received as a kid and why her younger self is delighted with her now How working on The Family Album has been healing for Connie and her family Developing the confidence and self-trust to push boundaries and be an emotional bridge How the all-female creative team behind The Family Album musical came together Learn more about MILCK: Website Instagram: @milckmusic MILCK on Bandcamp Get tickets to The Family Album Learn more about Rebecca: rebeccaching.com Work With Rebecca The Unburdened Leader on Substack Sign up for the weekly Unburdened Leader Email Resources: Childhood and Society , Erik H Erikson In Over Our Heads: The Mental Demands of Modern Life , Robert Kegan Roxy Music - Avalon Couples Therapy Tears For Fears Chapters: (00:37) - Introduction (07:35) - Meet Connie Kim aka MILCK (13:36) - Quiet - Origins and Cost (18:22) - Therapy and Support Mirrors (20:55) - Musical Beginnings (25:31) - Younger Self and Healing (29:14) - Turning Life Into A Musical (32:36) - Fighting to Stay Connected to Family (37:15) - Pushing Boundaries for Healing and Growing (41:19) - Conflict and the Wisdom of the Past (46:12) - Family Album Origin Story (55:35) - Opening Night Emotions (57:29) - Defining Leadership (58:48) - Quick Fire Questions (01:02:55) - How to Connect (01:04:34) - Closing Thoughts

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  Episode #158

  EP 158: Stop Waiting Until You’re Ready: Sylvia Kwan on Women, Wealth, and Leadership

  Jul 3, 202657 min

  How many times have you talked yourself out of pursuing an opportunity, telling yourself it wasn't for you, that you weren’t ready, or you weren’t qualified? What if that hesitation wasn't self-awareness but a script you internalized? Many women have a complicated relationship with their ambitions for greater leadership and greater wealth. And it isn’t because women are somehow inherently less suited for leadership or financial independence. The systems of power, patriarchy, sexism, and misogyny that we live in every day shape the voice in women’s heads that tells them they’re not meant to be a leader. We are in a political and cultural moment where women’s rights and autonomy are facing incredible pushback at all levels. It’s vital that we examine our internalized biases towards ourselves and others, where we limit our ambitions for roles we have the skills and abilities for, and where we’re giving up our power because of the stories we’ve been told by our society. My guest today is a beautiful example of a woman who hadn’t considered herself for a CEO role, but who stepped into the position and has grown into the kind of leader we just might need most right now. In our conversation, we talk a lot about women and finances and also about what we believe about our abilities and the opportunities we deserve to pursue. Sylvia Kwan is a Chartered Financial Analyst with more than 30 years of industry experience. Prior to Ellevest, she founded SimplySmart Asset Management and held senior portfolio management positions at Financial Engines and Charles Schwab. Sylvia serves on the Board of Exit 182, the investment committee that oversees the endowment of Grinnell College. Listen to the full episode to hear: How Sylvia’s commitment to Ellevest’s mission bolstered her through the abrupt and sometimes isolating shift into being CEO How she navigated the tension between wanting to be transparent with her team and needing to project calm The scripts about who she is and the work she excels at that Sylvia had to rewrite, and why it’s a continuing process How the financial industry subconsciously reinforces sexist ideas about women and money Why taking the stigma out of women talking about money is a key piece of closing the gender wealth gap How women accruing wealth actually supports communities and creates more equity How convoluted jargon and perfectionism keep women from getting started with investing Learn more about Sylvia Kwan, PhD, CFA, CAIA: Ellevest Instagram: @ellevest Connect on LinkedIn Learn more about Rebecca: rebeccaching.com Work With Rebecca The Unburdened Leader on Substack Sign up for the weekly Unburdened Leader Email Resources: EP 88: Right-Use-of-Power: Navigating Leadership Dynamics with Dr. Cedar Barstow Right Use of Power: The Heart of Ethics: A Guide and Resource for Professional Relationships, Dr. Cedar Barstow The Will to Change: Men, Masculinity, and Love , bell hooks Down Girl: The Logic of Misogyny , Kate Manne Women leaders make work better. Here’s the science behind how to promote them Power with purpose: How women's leadership boosts the economy and society | Devex Whidbey , T Kira Madden CeCe Winans - Goodness of God Ted Lasso Chapters: (00:42) - Introduction (11:55) - Sudden CEO Transition (14:15) - Self Trust and Mission (17:45) - Leading Through Uncertainty (22:48) - Rewriting the Leadership Script (27:10) - Finance Industry Gender Gap (33:48) - Myths About Women and Wealth (36:24) - Complexity Masquerading as Sophistication (39:46) - Roadblocks and Getting Started Now (44:31) - Defining Leadership (46:22) - Embracing the Complexities (48:27) - Quick Fire Questions (53:35) - How to Connect (54:26) - Closing Thoughts

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  Episode #157

  EP 157: The Ambition Penalty: Stefanie O'Connell on Why Wanting More Still Costs Women

  Jun 19, 202657 min

  Say the word ambition, especially around women, and it brings up a complicated mix of emotions and beliefs. If you're not succeeding, you're not ambitious enough. If you are succeeding, wanting a lot, and going for it, you're too ambitious, and you get penalized or punished. It happens at work, at home, and in the communities we move through every day. There are so many mixed messages about ambition and success coming at us from every direction. And it's not just imposed from the outside. For many women, those messages get internalized and shape the way we present ourselves and communicate about our work and personal lives. We start to police our own ambition, and we police each other's ambition. My guest today names the invisible norms around women’s ambitions, and calls out the ways that organizations perpetuate bias, even as they think they’re playing fair. Her work is extensively researched, tracing the roots of the tension around ambition, and also offers language and an opportunity for us to reclaim our ambitions together. Stefanie O’Connell is an award-winning journalist and author of The Ambition Penalty: How Corporate Culture Tells Women to Step Up– and Then Pushes Them Down. Her work dismantles the myths keeping women from equitable pay, leadership and power — one data point at a time. Listen to the full episode to hear: The material costs of what happens when women speak up, lean in, and get ambitious How implicit and gendered double standards around power keep women out of leadership Why encouraging ambition in girls doesn’t translate into celebrating ambition in women How people and organizations that believe they are meritocratic end up reinforcing the most bias Why we can’t self-optimize our way out of systemic inequality, and why we need collective action Six key elements for reframing burnout as an environmental problem, not a personal one Why we need to push back against framing women being pushed out of the work force as “empowerment” and challenge sexism in our everyday lives Learn more about Stefanie O'Connell: Website Too Ambitious on Substack Instagram: @stefanieoconnell Threads: @stefanieoconnell TikTok: @stefaniemoconnell The Ambition Penalty Learn more about Rebecca: rebeccaching.com Work With Rebecca The Unburdened Leader on Substack Sign up for the weekly Unburdened Leader Email Resources: EP 155: Hidden Cost of Caretaking at Work: Nilofer Merchant on Invisible Norms Limiting Your Leadership Stop Punishing Women for Being Ambitious | Bloomberg Maslach, Christina. (1998). A Multidimensional Theory of Burnout. 10.1093/oso/9780198522799.003.0004. My Mother's Daughter: Finding Myself in My Family's Fractured Past , Tracy Clark-Flory Ragtime (2025 Broadway Cast Recording) Mad Men Chapters: (00:07) - Introduction (07:14) - Meet Stephanie OConnell (10:30) - The Ambition Penalty (14:06) - The Ambition Double-Standard (19:51) - The Shame of Ambition (22:34) - Women Colluding with The Harm (28:50) - Hustle Culture (32:26) - Maslach's Burnout Framework (39:01) - Reframing Empowerment (42:06) - Leveraging our Collective Power (48:16) - Quick Fire Questions (53:02) - How To Connect (54:05) - Closing Thoughts

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