
Episode #516
Death To The Nice Guy: Security, Saying No, And What She Actually Wants | Paul Roseberry
Most men were taught that being nice is the same as being good. Paul Roseberry has spent more than ten years showing men that this is the reason a lot of good guys are losing at home. Paul is a relationship coach and former matchmaker who now works almost exclusively with nice guys, and he is also a headlining standup comedian. He is the creator of the SECURITY Method. In this episode he sits down with Chris Anderson to break down why the nice guy has to lose, what security actually means to a woman, and why the word no might be the most important thing a husband can learn to say. Chris also gets honest about the conversation he had with his own wife a couple of years ago that changed the trajectory of his marriage. What we get into: Why being too accommodating is a turnoff, not a virtue The real definition of security: the ability to protect that which has value Why money, muscles and a house are only the surface version of security The difference between a relationship held together by need and one held together by interest What happens when a man uses a woman to solve a problem of his own, and why she feels it How a man goes from asset to liability, and from partner to another child in his own house The one line Paul uses with his wife to reset a bad moment without starting a fight How to start saying no without blowing up a marriage that has run one way for years Why the thing you are most afraid to do is the thing she needs you to do The difference between kind and nice, and why only one of them earns respect Why a woman who feels used does not always leave, and what she does instead Warrior in a garden, not a gardener in a war Why Paul would rather be a whole half than half whole This one is for the man who is doing everything right and still feels like a roommate in his own house. Connect with Paul at paulroseberry.com. He offers a free 20 minute call to anyone who wants to talk about working together. Email paul@paulroseberry.com . Instagram @paul_roseberry_. YouTube @paulroseberry_saves_society. If this one hit you, send it to a man who needs it. Stay upgraded. This episode may or may not be sponsored. Some product links are affiliate links, meaning we'll receive a small commission if you buy something. =========================== ⚡️ PODCAST: Subscribe and listen on all major platforms ⚡️ Want to be a guest on The Upgraded Man? Apply here ➡ https://upgraded-man.com/guest ⚡️ For support or business inquiries, email us ➡ chris@upgraded-man.com Our mission at The Upgraded Man is simple — help men upgrade every area of their life through real conversations, honest stories, and actionable insight from men who have done the work. Want to be a guest on The Upgraded Man? Send Chris Anderson a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/upgradedmanpodcast The content on The Upgraded Man is for informational and entertainment purposes only. The views expressed by the host and guests are their own and do not constitute professional legal, financial, medical, or therapeutic advice. Always consult a qualified professional before making decisions based on information discussed on this podcast. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

