
Trauma Talks : With Russ Tellup
If Love Feels Like Eggshells, Your Feet Are Tired
<p>When love feels like walking on eggshells, your body is telling the truth your mind keeps negotiating with. I sit down to unpack codependency as a nervous system strategy—how self-abandonment becomes the price of connection, why calm feels suspicious after chaos, and the subtle ways we confuse intensity with intimacy. Drawing from my own story and years of somatic work, I trace the developmental roots of codependency in inconsistent caregiving, emotional immaturity, and the “be tough, don’t feel” messages many of us, especially men, were taught.<br/><br/>We get practical and compassionate. Through a polyvagal lens, I explai...

