Episode #245
Rewire Your Desire with Dr. Rose
Your desire isn't broken; your nervous system is just doing its job too well. In this episode, pelvic floor PT and sex counselor Dr. Rose joins us to break down why trauma, stress, and hypervigilance can quietly tank your libido and what to actually do about it. We cover the "smoke detector" model of nervous system regulation, why desire discrepancy is normal (80% of couples deal with it), the four desire styles, and quick neuroscience-backed exercises that can shift you from a 2/10 to a 6/10 "open to intimacy" in minutes. If you've ever felt guilty for not being in the mood, you can stop “fixing” yourself and start understanding your body. ✨ Special Offers: ✨ Splash Blanket! | Use code Jordan15 ProDx Health | Use JordanDnelle to save 25% Thank you to our Sponsors: Splash Blanket, Prodx, Phexx Jump to the Good Stuff: 07:10 – From Dr. Goldstein's clinic to holistic sex coaching 16:45 – The "smoke detector" nervous system analogy 20:26 – Why sensitivity to threat isn't your fault 22:32 – The 3-step reset 34:30 – Presence as a biological need37:00 – Desire isn't a light switch — it's a car that needs gas 39:00 – The four desire styles 41:13 – Live demo: shift nervous system state in real time 45:36 – Stress vs. threat — not all stress kills desire Pleasure Highlights: Desire isn't a light switch, it's more like a car 80% of couples deal with desire discrepancy A hypersensitive nervous system isn't a personal failing You don't have to be symptom-free to feel safe Small, physical resets work fast Connect with Dr. Rose: Instagram @bewellwithrose Website Desire Quiz Provider trainings Enhance your self-awareness by acknowledging and understanding your behavior patterns, and foster a deeper connection with your inner self. Get the Unleashing My Power: A Women's Empowerment and Gratitude Journal to reclaim your power through daily gratitude. Learn more HERE . Connect with Jordan D’Nelle: Facebook @jordandnelle Instagram @jordandnelle Instagram @TheVVVPodcast TikTok @jordandnelle Youtube @jordandnelle Website: Jordan D’Nelle Email : JordanDnelle@VaginasVulvasandVibrators.com Love this Episode? Join the Patreon: patreon.JordanDnelle.com Leave a review on iTunes. Subscribe & Follow on socials! Listen and Subscribe to the Podcast: Apple Podcast Spotify Podcast Youtube @jordandnelle *Disclaimer : This podcast is for informational and/or entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. The views and opinions expressed are my own, or those of my guests, and do not necessarily reflect the views of any organizations or institutions with which I am affiliated. Vaginas, Vulvas, and Vibrators, the unapologetic women’s sexual wellness podcast, normalizing pleasure, bodies, and sexual health through expert, shame-free conversations. Phexx INDICATION Phexx® is an on-demand prescription birth control used to prevent pregnancy. Phexx is not effective when used after sex. IMPORTANT SAFETY INFORMATION Rare cases (0.36%) of bladder and kidney infection have been reported. If you have a history of urinary tract problems that keep coming back, you should not use Phexx. Contact your healthcare provider if you are experiencing genitourinary side effects such as vaginal burning, itching, discharge, genital discomfort (including in male partners), yeast infection, urinary tract infection or bacterial vaginosis. Phexx does not protect against any sexually transmitted infections, including HIV. Avoid using Phexx with a vaginal ring. Avoid Phexx if you or your sexual partner is allergic to lactic acid, citric acid, potassium bitartrate, or any of the Ingredients in Phexx. Stop using Phexx If you develop an allergic reaction. For more information about Phexx, talk to your healthcare provider and see full Product Information at www.phexx.com . Please report side effects by contacting Evofem Biosciences® toll-free at 1-833-EVFMBIO or contact FDA at 1-800-FDA-1088 or www.fda.gov/medwatch . EVFM-PHX-000068
