Episode #35
Silence Was My First Language: Breaking Cycles, Choosing Recovery & Reclaiming Your Story with Rich Dunning
What happens when the survival skills that protected you as a child begin to destroy your life as an adult? In this deeply personal episode of Walk With Me Conversations , Stephanie sits down with author Rich Dunning , whose memoir, Silence Was My First Language , tells the story of a childhood shaped by poverty, instability, addiction, abuse, homelessness, and one overriding rule: stay silent. Rich shares how those early survival patterns followed him into adulthood. Despite building a successful career and becoming a husband and father, unresolved trauma remained beneath the surface, eventually contributing to severe alcoholism and the unraveling of the life he had worked so hard to create. This conversation isn't only about what happened to Rich. It's about what he chose to do next. Rich opens up about sobriety, Alcoholics Anonymous, learning healthier ways to cope, rebuilding trust, accepting responsibility for the pain he caused, and discovering that our past can explain our patterns without giving us permission to continue them. Together, Stephanie and Rich explore what it means to recognize the patterns we've inherited, consciously interrupt them, and choose how we spend our time and attention moving forward. In This Conversation You'll hear about: Why silence became a survival strategy during Rich's childhood How unresolved childhood trauma can follow us into adulthood Addiction, rock bottom, and the decision to finally ask for help The role AA played in Rich's recovery Accountability versus using our past as an excuse Rebuilding trust and relationships after addiction Reparenting yourself and developing healthier coping skills Why breaking generational cycles requires both awareness and action Turning personal pain into purpose and service Why Rich wrote Silence Was My First Language His hope that sharing his story helps someone else recognize that it is never too late to change Rich describes the book as something that eventually became bigger than his own healing—a way for another person struggling with trauma, addiction, or destructive patterns to see that change is still possible and that asking for help can be the beginning of a completely different life. About Rich Dunning Rich Dunning is the author of Silence Was My First Language , a memoir about survival, addiction, accountability, and the long journey of confronting the truth after a childhood spent learning to remain silent. Rich and his wife are also behind The First Language Foundation , an initiative focused on helping vulnerable children facing circumstances including homelessness, addiction, abuse, and exploitation. Rich shared that he is committed to donating $1 from every book he sells to support the foundation's work. His message to anyone who believes they've gone too far, lost too much, or made too many mistakes is simple: your story isn't over. You can take responsibility, change direction, rebuild, recover, and find purpose. Connect With Rich Rich Dunning / Silence Was My First Language : Visit Rich Dunning Books Connect with Rich on LinkedIn: Rich Dunning on LinkedIn Learn about The First Language Foundation: The First Language Foundation Contact Rich: richdunningbooks@gmail.com Continue Walking With Me If this conversation brought something to the surface for you—a pattern you're ready to examine, a story you're ready to rewrite, or a part of yourself you're ready to understand more deeply—don't stop here. Explore more conversations, resources, Stephanie's book, My Full Script Link , the Walk With Me Conversations podcast , and the Root To Bloom Practice at: WalkWithMeConversations.com Your roots are part of your story. They don't have to determine where you bloom next. Listen. Reflect. Take action. And keep walking. Content note: This episode includes discussion of childhood abuse and trauma, addiction, alcoholism, homelessness, suicidal crisis, and recovery. To book a private session with me: https://calendly.com/stephanie-bloom5280 My favorite guests book through PodMatch: https://www.joinpodmatch.com/stephaniebloom We couldn't do it without the support of our listeners. To help support the show: CashApp- https://cash.app/$WalkWithMeSteph Venmo- https://venmo/StephanieBloom5280 Click here to purchase my book on Amazon Purchase the supplements you already use at a discount here: https://us.fullscript.com/welcome/roottobloom