Episode #28
Why We Sabotage the Life We're Trying to Build!
Episode 28: Why We Sabotage the Life We're Trying to Build Have you ever felt like your life was finally starting to change? You're healing. Working out. Building better habits. Chasing something meaningful. Maybe you're finally starting to believe the future you've been working toward is actually possible. And then somehow... you become the person standing in your own way. In Episode 28 of Walk With Me! , we're talking about self-sabotage and why we sometimes pull away from the very things we say we want and what we can do when we recognize it happening. I also get personal about how I realized I wasn't simply “losing motivation.” In This Episode We discuss: Why self-sabotage doesn't always feel like self-sabotage Self-handicapping and the obstacles we sometimes create around important goals Procrastination, perfectionism and all-or-nothing thinking Why familiar patterns can be difficult to leave How naming what we're experiencing can help interrupt automatic reactions Why making the behavior smaller doesn't mean making the dream smaller Self-compassion versus self-criticism after setbacks Accountability without shame How small actions can rebuild trust with yourself Fashion, identity and why we sometimes postpone allowing ourselves to be seen This Week's Practice Ask yourself: Where in my life do I keep pulling away from the very thing I say I want? And when you notice it happening, ask: Am I protecting myself or am I preventing myself? Don't immediately judge yourself. Get curious. Name what's happening. Make the next action smaller. Then take the next step. What I Hope You Take With You Small doesn't mean insignificant. Healing isn't measured by never failing. Sometimes it's measured by how gently and consistently you help yourself stand back up. Research & References Research and concepts discussed in this episode include: Matthew Lieberman — Affect Labeling Research examining how putting feelings into words relates to activity in brain regions involved in emotional processing and regulation. PubMed — Putting Feelings Into Words BJ Fogg — Behavior Design / Tiny Habits Practical behavior-change work emphasizing making desired behaviors easier to perform. Stanford Behavior Design Lab Kristin Neff — Self-Compassion Research Research examining self-compassion, motivation, resilience and responses to failure. Self-Compassion Research James Clear — Atomic Habits Referenced for the practical idea that repeated actions provide evidence for the identity we're building. Atomic Habits Continue the Conversation Where have you noticed yourself pulling away from something you genuinely want? Join the conversation in the YouTube comments, message me on social media, or email contact@walkwithmepod.com . Keep becoming, my friends. Take care of yourself. And I'll see you on the path.
