
Episode #126
You Don't Have to Earn Belonging as an Asian Man | Ryan Cho
Send us Fan Mail Ryan Cho on Asian masculinity, vulnerability, race, men's community and learning to define yourself Ryan Cho grew up Chinese Canadian in Victoria, British Columbia, often feeling caught between identities. He didn't feel Chinese enough for the Chinese community, but he didn't feel white enough for the world around him. Later, that same tension followed him into his understanding of masculinity. In this conversation, Ryan opens up about race, belonging, language, masculinity, dating, vulnerability, men's groups, teaching, social justice and the journey that eventually became his book, Brotherhood Is a Constant Possibility: Asian Masculinity in a World Made for Whiteness . We talk about why some Asian men learn to associate masculinity with whiteness, why young men are increasingly looking for belonging online, why progressive spaces need to create better communities for men, and what Ryan has learned from years of teaching and men's work. At the heart of the conversation is a much simpler question: What if your value didn't have to be earned? Brotherhood Is A Constant Possibility: Asian Masculinity in a World Made for Whiteness What does it mean to be an Asian man in North America? In this timely and insightful memoir, Ryan Cho unpacks ideas about masculinity and Asian men in a world of stereotypes and social expectations. Drawing from his own experiences and interviews with other Asian men and nonbinary people, Cho explores how culture, sexuality and race combine to influence identity. Along the way, he meets people redefining what masculinity means to them and discusses what we can do to steward a version of masculinity that is inclusive, progressive and authentic. Candid, challenging and personal, Brotherhood is a Constant Possibility invites readers to question the roles Asian men have been “allowed” to play and to imagine broader and more nuanced ways of thinking about masculinity and men. RYAN'S BIO: Ryan Cho (he/him) is a second-generation Chinese Canadian teacher and writer born and raised in Victoria, B.C.--the traditional unceded territory of the Songhees and Esquimalt First Nations. He has been involved with gender and anti-racism work for over a decade and was recognized for his contribution to social justice education with the B.C. Premier’s Award for Excellence in Education in 2018 . He published his first piece of poetry in the Oratorealis Poetry Journal in 2017 and won a Golden Leaf Award from the Canadian Educational Press Association in 2013. He is signed with Thornapple Press to bring his first book Brotherhood Is A Constant Possibility: Asian Masculinity in A World Made For Whiteness to print. The book is scheduled for released in September 2026. You can pre-order it here . Pre-Order Ryan's book! Pre-Order Link https://thornapplepress.ca/books/brotherhood-is-a-constant-possibility/ Follow Ryan! Website https://www.ryancho.ca/ Instagram https://www.instagram.com/ryanchowrites/ Linktree https://linktr.ee/ryanchowrites?utm_source=linktree_profile_share<sid=1a322d74-5305-4477-bfc0-05455983f7e1 Support the show Thank you for listening! Help this podcast: 1. Follow us on Instagram @whatkindofasianpod 2. Share our episodes with friends and family 3. Subscribe to us on your streaming platform 4. Leave us a rating and review on Spotify and Apple Podcast 5. Buy Us a Coffee! (Supporting us financially really helps but it's definitely not required, do it if you can) All the links! https://linktr.ee/whatkindofasianareyoupod

